HAPPY BLACK HISTORY MONTH!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
posted on Kate Bornstein's substack
i think rickrolling is the only meme that gets objectively funnier with age. in 2009 you learned to anticipate it but in 2019 it happens just infreqently enough that i fall for it every single time
like people still make rage comics and doge jokes and shit but it’s always ironic (the real punchline is that you’re using an outdated format) or more in line with modern absurd internet humor. rickrolling is the only meme i can think of that’s been the exact same for a full decade- click on a link thinking you’re getting something else, get rick astley instead, and it’s still consistently funny
the more time passes the more foolish you feel for falling for a rickroll as well. Like darn I learnt about this prank 10+ years ago how did I just fall for it now,
Plus, as far as memes go, turns out it’s still incredibly popular
Nooope. Nope, you can’t get me. I’m not clicking on that link and you can’t make me.
I am a fool for clicking
it’s honestly so, so fascinating—here’s a graph I found that estimates how many people have been rickrolled in the past decade!
'Bill Cipher fumbled'
important culture exchange happening rn
this is your Chinese spy speaking
Seasonal Affective Disorder is just emotional scurvy, all my core wounds are reopening and they won't be fixed until the big lemon in the sky comes back
they study us like mice.... they're meticulous phillyphiles
THE STYLISTICS!!!!!!!!!!
there isn't a single philadelphian alive who will pretend to be nice about food, you're good!
the world is soaked in blood and gripped by unending horrors but you can get an authentic philly cheesesteak in tokyo
my least favourite turn based strategy game is email
making a compilation of text posts that knocked sense straight into me
i don’t know about you guys but the main reason i am still on tumblr in 2024 is BECAUSE it is the most cloutless least influential social media app out there and that is the experience i am after. absolutely none of this will ever translate into significant attention or real success in my life and that is so beautiful.
giles and spike are such horrible fucked-up reflections of each other. who i used to be who i could have been who i am still deep inside where i don't look. what i could have become if i grew; what i would have stayed if i stagnated.
one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.
no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.
no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.
no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.
no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.
a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.
Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.
I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.
The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.
This post has helped me so much I’m glad I’ve come across it again
It has honestly saved some of my relationships and it could have saved others if I had taken it to heart earlier
It’s how I approach all new relationships, and I’ll state this outright to be clear
I can’t stop myself from overanalyzing initially, but I have regularly stopped myself from obsessing over or acting on my overanalyzing
Thank you so much for making this post