If you’re in a relationship and every time you want to buy something for yourself, even something really frivolous, you feel like you can’t do it because of how your partner will react if they find out…why? Like, what is that? There’s so much “tee hee I’ll have to hide this parcel from them” or “omg I’ll be in trouble if I buy ANOTHER pair of shoes” and like unless you’re being financially irresponsible to the point where you won’t be able to contribute your half to a shared expense and you’re leaving the other person with an unfair difference to make up or something, why do they give a shit how you spend your money?
#this comes from listening to a convo earlier today about a friend ‘being bad’ because they spent money on something they wanted#it should not matter and if it does maybe question that#happy to be corrected if someone has a different opinion or perspective on this but#idk man#this also applies to shared bank accounts#shared savings for a shared goal? totally cool#shared account for shared bills to be taken out of? awesome#but like your everyday account? i don’t get it#zin personal#non sw