i know im double reblogging and my first response to this was a meme but this is really the thing.
anon i am going to try to give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume that you are a binary-woman butch lesbian who feels very strongly about your womanhood and your lesbianism. a lot of other binary woman lesbians feel the way you feel.
what you may not know is that those feelings, and the rhetoric of your message, have a history in a movement called "lesbian separatism". which evolved directly into the modern terf movement, and in addition to that transphobia also involves a lot of lateral homophobia (towards gay men) and biphobia (towards bi men for being men, and bi women for "letting" men near them)
the idea that any interaction with any man is inherently dirty or dangerous or politically wrong, the idea that gay men and bi people of any gender have nothing in common with lesbians and that none of us have anything we can learn from each other, the idea that lesbianism is pure womanhood and the purest type of womanhood is lesbianism. it all leads to and from the same place, and that place is a community that suffocates itself to death.
the truth is that we have always been connected to each other. there have always been people who blur the lines of man and woman and gay and bi and lesbian. there have always been lesbians caring for the men dying of aids, and f*ggots in the dyke bars, and bearding together to survive families and cops and every other basher.
we have always had more in common than we have had in difference.
i hope this is news to you. i hope you can read more of your own community's history, dear butch woman lesbian, and i hope you can rethink this instinct to reject men and maleness wholesale for the sake of keeping your lesbianism pure and untainted.
i don't want you to suffocate.