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This a a reminder to not fall victim to the sunk-cost fallacy. Just because you invested time and energy into something, does not mean you should indefinitely waste more time and energy on it, if you decide it’s not what you want anymore. This goes for anything, from books, to relationships, to jobs, to hobbies, etc.

If it’s not serving you anymore, move on.

This is honestly one of the places I find Marie Kondo's advice most helpful. I stop, look at the thing I've spent time and money on only to realize I dislike, and I say, "Thank you for teaching me something about myself and my preferences. I think I've learned this particular lesson and we can part ways now."

And then I don't feel like I "wasted" things or made a mistake. I just tried one path of learning about myself, learned something, and now it's time for a different path. Works a lot better for my brain.

The time Marie Kondo said "you can thank a a shirt you've never worn for teaching you about your taste", thereby making it NOT A WASTE literally rewired my whole brain. Acknowledge the thing and move forward, even if that means leaving the thing behind.

— Erich Fromm, Man for Himself (1947)

Can't say I don't respect the energy

visible disability not guarantee help .

severe disability not guarantee help .

people would not " treat better " if more visible , more severe . trust on this .

Miíyu miíyu. It is Speak Your Language day. However, thanks to Colonization and “extermination” and other genocide methods, I only speak a few words of what should have been my first language.

When we think about languages it is important to know of and support the ones that Colonial Imperialism has done its best to eradicate.

This includes not mocking them as silly,

not saying they sound like nonsense,

not joking about their spelling, the look of their alphabet,

not joking about how they sound

as “making no sense” to you just because you speak a Majority language. You are not more comprehensible or correct than their words are just because you can’t understand them.

That is Colonizer rhetoric.

Respecting a language actual people speak is part of not being bigoted.

 Yes, this includes languages spoken by “white” people, like Irish, Scots Gaelic and Scots dialect, Breton, Welsh, Cornish, and so on.

These few words you see me use are Chamteéla, one of the languages formerly common in what is now called California, USA.

Noó$un Loóviq

All of this

And also, please, if a minority language is really close to a dominant language, don’t dismiss it as an “improper/incorrect” version of that language

Scots isn’t “improper English”

Occitan isn’t “improper French”

Corsican isn’t “improper Italian”

Frisian isn’t “improper Dutch”

and so on

hate it when I call myself a girl and then someone goes "you're not a girl you're nonbinary/agender" and it's like. I am whatever I say I am. freak. I am a girl I am a little guy I am the man of the owl. I am nothing. I am everything. do not presume to know me in anyway I do not know myself

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

Infighting only helps our oppressors.

You don't have to understand someone completely to respect them and fight for their right to exist.

Honestly you don't even have to LIKE someone to behave respectfully toward them and fight for their right to exist.

You can think someone is kind of annoying and ALSO want them to have food and shelter and healthcare and safety.

A quite insightful quote from Stormy Daniels.

No one asked but I think the secret to making the enemies-to-lovers trip work is respect. They can loath each other, but they have to loath each other as equals. Like “sorry but no one else is allowed to murder this man but me” + “it’s an honor and privilege to despise you.”

Self-professed ‘book lovers’ hate her most, because they take her stance in the ultimate bad faith to mean ‘throw everything away, especially your books, ye even those books’

When really it’s more of a ‘really think about how each individual thing makes you feel. If it’s not making your life better for having it, why do you still have it?’

Like, if your floor-to-ceiling book collection makes you feel happy? Keep it! Definitely! But if you never look at those books but you cannot bear to part with them, ask yourself why that is.

Mutuals this, mutuals that

Shout out to the people I follow who didn’t want to follow me back

I respect your decision and love your work

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i am older than google and youtube. stop advertising to me and stop spying on me. show your elders some respect

I saw another one of those posts going around about how hiring cleaners is immoral and I just want to scream into the tumblrs for a second.

I have employed a cleaner ever since I got post natal PTSD. They used to come once a fortnight, but after my second child was born they came once a week. They’ve been with us for more than ten years now. They come every week and do one hour of basic cleaning - they vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom and mop the floors. That’s it. It’s one hour and it does SO MUCH for me because it means I tidy up for them. I make the house CLEANABLE which my depressed and adhd ass would not do unless I knew someone else was coming in to do something for me.

Also I pay them. Well. I pay them more per hour than I got as a teacher when I first started work. A LOT MORE. I recognise that they have travel and material expenses, and I put their pay up every year to accommodate for inflation. 

They’re amazing people, I consider them friends, we chat a fair bit when they come to do their jobs if I happen to be at home, we exchange presents on significant holidays. 

They keep me SANE.

If you treat workers well, NO WORK IS IMMORAL. My cleaners get paid well above minimum wage, obviously enjoy their work and are fulfilling a need. Is it a luxury need? Yeah. But guess what? I have disposable income and this is a luxury I choose to spend it on. Because I fucking hate cleaning, and I wouldn’t do it properly or consistently even if I didn’t. 

So fuck off telling me what I can and cannot spend the money that I’ve earned on. I’m not Jeff Bezos, and if I was I would treat my employees as well as I treat my cleaners. 

I’m going to keep screaming about this until people understand that all labour is valuable and skilled labour, and that nobody’s job is inherently bad so long as they are treated with respect and paid a fair wage.

That’s why we don’t demean sex work, either. Because work is work, and labourers are labourers, and shaming people’s jobs does nothing to help them to get the salaries and respect they deserve.

Stop discouraging people to fire their cleaners and start encouraging them to pay their cleaners handsomely with benefits. JFC.

I’ll gladly pay whatever someone asks to more my lawn, because I can’t do it. My hands and back will not allow it, and also I don’t like doing it anyway.

THIS IS WHY I PAY FOR PEDICURES.

I have bad feet. Not like smelly-crusty-pus-not-taken-care-of feet, just like….I have toenails that like to grow strange directions including “into my skin, badly.” Theoretically, I could cut these and extricate them from the skin myself.

In practice?

In practice, this ends with blood. It’s a bad angle, I have the tools but not the know-how. I can do regular maintenance work on my nails, but those really bad spots? Forget it. Ugly painful feet it is!

….or I can go pay a professional foot-helper and tip her nicely and get my weird fucking nails carefully trimmed without blood, AND get pretty polish on top.

Her name is Kimberly, by the way, because she is performing a service I need and cannot do and that means she deserves my respect. You may have seen me call her something else on other posts, but she changed her name when she got her citizenship and she is very proud of having an “American name,” so as per her wishes I’m not using her Vietnamese name anymore and Kimberly she is and will be.

Don’t remove the job. Remove the disrespect.

Comic I did for the Irene anthology last year.

Spoiler alert: itz kinda about whinin, something I’m an expert on. Thought is wuz kinda appropriate after my Your Black Friend has been attracting sum attention from sum whiners. Also Orlando an PRIDE and stuff. Let’s do everyone a favor and shut up a bit straight dudezzz.

Got a lotta help with this from my fren Sedef, who’s in one of my new favorite bands Gland.

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Not to be a contrarian prairiean but even indigenous people who didn’t have technologies/structures which surpassed european standards at contact and impress by modern day standards still deserve respect. My ancestors were impressive in that they lived with a positive impact on the land, even though they didn’t build permanent houses or anything like that. I refuse to be judged by eurocentric ideals of inventiveness and accomplishment.