Having a gay man or a man at all for a butch role model is the saddest thing I can imagine. Amelia Airheart bitch. Joan of Arc. The fuck. Do I look like a man to you? A GAY man of all people? Oh no. No no no. Fuck that. Butch women changed history how dare these bitches sleep on them.
i find it so fascinating that you consider connecting with gay men over shared experience to be erasure and then your idea of a butch lesbian is. amelia earheart . anyways get well soon
i know im double reblogging and my first response to this was a meme but this is really the thing.
anon i am going to try to give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume that you are a binary-woman butch lesbian who feels very strongly about your womanhood and your lesbianism. a lot of other binary woman lesbians feel the way you feel.
what you may not know is that those feelings, and the rhetoric of your message, have a history in a movement called "lesbian separatism". which evolved directly into the modern terf movement, and in addition to that transphobia also involves a lot of lateral homophobia (towards gay men) and biphobia (towards bi men for being men, and bi women for "letting" men near them)
the idea that any interaction with any man is inherently dirty or dangerous or politically wrong, the idea that gay men and bi people of any gender have nothing in common with lesbians and that none of us have anything we can learn from each other, the idea that lesbianism is pure womanhood and the purest type of womanhood is lesbianism. it all leads to and from the same place, and that place is a community that suffocates itself to death.
the truth is that we have always been connected to each other. there have always been people who blur the lines of man and woman and gay and bi and lesbian. there have always been lesbians caring for the men dying of aids, and f*ggots in the dyke bars, and bearding together to survive families and cops and every other basher.
we have always had more in common than we have had in difference.
i hope this is news to you. i hope you can read more of your own community's history, dear butch woman lesbian, and i hope you can rethink this instinct to reject men and maleness wholesale for the sake of keeping your lesbianism pure and untainted.
i don't want you to suffocate.
i feel like young modern lesbians have this idea that the lesbians of the 80's and 90's took care of men dying of aids as this saintly Mother Theresa kind of thing. like they were pure saints motivated by nothing but benevolence who came down from their high shining lesbian towers to minister to the poor degraded savages.
but like. dykes and fags took care of each other because they were friends and siblings. they were part of the same community. they loved and connected with each other as actual people with a lot in common. because lesbians aren't a separate goddamn species of human being.