Regina Mills Appreciation
Regina Mills is such an inspirational character and I think more people need to see this. She is a character who has continuously filled my heart with hope and realization. Realization that things do get better, that you can find happiness even with a broken past. She’s so relatable because of her dark past, because of her path for redemption. She is the representation of the battle that resides in every single one of us. The battle that every single person has had to fight at some point—or is still fighting.
Living with the horrible choices you’re made, with the people you’ve hurt, with a staggering amount of regrets buried deep inside you…it’s not an easy thing to do—trust me, I know. But seeing Regina—as difficult as it is for her—continue to suppress her darkness, understanding that nothing good can come of it even though it may be a hell of a lot easier, it sparks this drive within many of us. Even when these good deeds come with no reward in return, Regina keeps being selfless, she keeps being the heroine for the people she loves. Because no matter what life takes from her, reverting to her old ways only aids in her losing more.
So she does good. And, as she says in 5.22, she hates every moment of it. But she does it anyway.
This is what everyone faces when choosing between good choices and bad ones. Regina reminds us that we shouldn’t be selfless and ‘do the right thing’ simply to obtain a reward. That wouldn’t be so selfless now would it? You do these things because it’s the best thing for everyone, it’s what keeps your loved ones by your side, it’s what keeps the love in your life alive. She shows us that good choices are the hardest and don’t always mean that good will come out of it. And that’s okay. Because doing the right thing is just that, right. It’s putting the people you love before yourself because you love them that much.
She suffers so she can see the happiness grow within everyone she cares about—Henry most of all. But ultimately his happiness becomes hers. She works and works and works all the damn time for him to find the happiness that she never had at his age. And quite honestly, if that isn’t selfless, it that isn’t brave, or even the tiniest bit inspiring, then I don’t know what is.
Do I hate that she never gets what she wants? Yes. Do I enjoy seeing her suffer while everyone around her gets everything handed to them on a silver platter? HELL no. BUT, ladies and gentlemen, this is exactly why I love Regina so deeply and why I connect with her on an even deeper level.
Because, like so many others, I see myself in her.
Her struggle to live with the past are/have been our struggles. The pain of constantly getting everything ripped away from her is/has been our pain. The countless attempts of getting back up after life pushed her down are/have been our attempts. The fight to hold on to the people she loves while keeping her dark tendencies at bay, that’s our fight. Everyone goes through this because, frankly, this is life and life isn’t fair. And Regina is a constant reminder to that, but also a constant reminder that, as unfair as life might be, you keep fighting. You find that light, that glimmer of hope, that thread of happiness to hold onto (Henry, Emma, Mary-Margret, Zelena, etc.). It may not always be what/whom you expect it to be, but if I’ve learned anything from her, it’s that, as Lana says, “good can come from broken.”
Regina Mills isn’t the fairytale she’s played out to be. She’s not the princess—or queen rather—that gets swept off her feet by a handsome prince. She doesn’t get everything she wants. She works for her happiness—and she works hard. She’s not easy to understand. She fails. She suffers. She fights. She’s not a hero. She’s not a villain.
Regina Mills is LIFE.
Life is unfair. Life is not black, not white, it’s grey. Life is working your ass off even after all the times you’ve failed. Life is taking what’s been given to you and holding it dearly. Life keeps moving forward even after the loss of a loved one. Life is making good choices and getting nothing in return. Life is cruel, but has moments…moments worth living for. Life is messy. Life is fucking hard.
LIFE is Regina Mills. And you can bet your ass that I appreciate her existence every damn day.