i get that people are more comfortable with defined rules and structure but i also think queer people lost when they started resorting to dictionary definitions for what labels mean
the queer umbrella is meant to deviate from the norm of rigid boxes and definitions and to decide that lesbian means Only this, bi means Only this, etc, is directly contradicting what queer means. each and every label is going to have a unique meaning to the person using it and that is how it's supposed to be. if you're not comfortable with that...sorry?
basically if someone tries to tell you you're using a label wrong:
- no you're not
- eat them
[image description: a set of tumblr tags from @/elinaline, reading: "#there is a way to use a label wrong actually; #its when you force it on someone else". end image description.]
this is the only answer i'll accept thank u everyone for your participation <3