i wish my body hair was pink

non-it/its users need to get their shit together fr

ok time to elaborate.

earlier today i was talking to someone and i mentioned one of my friends, and said 'yeah it was saying-' and before i could finish my sentence she interrupted me and went "it?" as if i'd misspoken. when i said "yeah, it said-" she looked at me as if i'd like insulted her or something and went "why are you calling your friends its? don't you mean they?"

i pretty much just went "nevermind" because that's not worth it (and no i'm not misgendering a friend for someone else's "comfort" like wtf) but the issue is

this. happens. every. time.

you tell someone else you use it/its? they look at you like you're fucking insane. 99% of the time they will refuse to use your pronouns because it's "offensive" to them (yknow what else is offensive? purposely misgendering me when i literally just told you my pronouns). when you talk about a friend who uses it/its pronouns, 99% of the time the other person will try to like. correct you or stop you even though they don't even know who you're talking about.

"well they/them is gender neutral too so just use th-" no. my pronouns are it/its. they/them is not it/its. they/them is misgendering.

"but it's gender neutra-" okay and? if dude said he uses he/him and you used they/them that's misgendering. why is it okay when it's it pronouns?

"but it's offensive to refer to people as-" bitch i am literally referring to myself as it/its. i am telling you directly in plain words that these are the pronouns that make me comfortable. i don't give a fuck what you think of them they are my pronouns

at this point i settle with they/them because i'm just done having people look at me like i said a slur when i tell them what pronouns i'm comfortable with.

so! there is quite a compilation of people in the comments being pretty much exactly the person this post is criticizing, so i want to add on just a little.

i thought it was clear, but evidently not clear enough: i do not give a shit about how anyone else feels about my pronouns. you do not get to reassign me pronouns for your own comfort or out of a misplaced sense of justice/protection. i get to choose my pronouns and i choose it/its.

"but it/its has been used negatively towards me in the past, so i feel too uncomfortable using them for you!" i understand that, but why do you have the right to make me uncomfortable instead? she/her pronouns have been used negatively towards us in the past, and sometimes we're so dysphoric it hurts to hear other people referred to with those pronouns and refer to people with she/her.

we are not going to go up to someone and say "actually, please don't use she/her around me, because it makes me uncomfortable and has been used negatively towards me in the past. i'm going to use they/them for you instead, even though those aren't your pronouns, and may make you uncomfortable."

my issue with those pronouns is mine to work through. it is not my place to tell people to use different pronouns because of what i think, nor is it my place to arbitrarily reassign them.

"they/them is gender neutral, you can't misgender someone with gender neutral pronouns!" yes you can. misgendering = using pronouns that the person does not use. there are a very large amount of it/its users in the notes who absolutely agree that they/them is incredibly uncomfortable. they are two different words. they do not convey the same gender. they do not convey the same vibe.

"then i'll just use no pronouns and just the person's name!" that is degendering. avoiding a person's pronouns and finding a "work around" so that you're still Technically Not Misgendering Them. some people do prefer no pronouns, and that's great! but if i am giving you a set of pronouns and asking them to use them for me, and you straight up refuse, that is just. rude.

i do not give a shit how you feel about my pronouns 👍 use it/its or get out!

(non-it/its users please use your brain cells before you add words to this post)

i think its so weird to see non it/its users in the notes saying that using it/its pronouns is "reclaiming" them. im not reclaiming anything. those are just my pronouns. ive seen the case for it/its being used to talk about mountains and love, but like what about me? im not a grand bigger than life thing. im not reclaiming something. why cant it just be as simple as its me?

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Adult friendships be like “I miss you bro, let's hang out in November"

Thank you for your time.

*makes a post about transmisogyny*

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Jean-Louis Costes

thoughts on the fit?

not to get too deep on main but did anyone else have such deeply rooted issues with their self worth for so long that they thought as a kid/teen that their only redeeming feature was being “low maintenance” and now as an adult you give yourself guilt pangs asking for any more than the barest minimum in virtually any relationship because asking for things might negate your only good quality which is just “doesn’t ask for things”

#you don’t believe you can be liked so you settle for being useful 

fallout new vegas is actually the best game of all time because it’s the only one where you can give jackoff advice to a robot. objectum win

Venom x Eddie :} 🦷