i dont think people understand that nelly is just so lonely. she plays surrogate mother in her teens. the only person she knows her age leaves for school while she’s given a bunch of new responsibilities. then her master who she admires (for good reasons or not) dies and she has to CRY ALONE OUTSIDE THE BEDROOM while catherine and heathcliff console each other. and you can bet that joseph reprimanded her for showing any emotion afterwards. her childhood friend comes back as a stranger with a strange wife. catherine lives at the neighbour’s house for weeks until christmas while heathcliff isolates himself. nelly SINGS CAROLS BY HERSELF IN THE LIVING ROOM and then weeps for heathcliff because she feels guilty about he’s treated after old earnshaw passed. then after frances dies hindley loses it and there’s no one in the house but a spiralling violent alcoholic, a resentful doom-prophesying old man, a teenage girl with a lot of trauma and identity issues, a teenage boy with a lot of trauma and anger issues (obviously a reductive statement but you know.), and a baby to take care of. all this before she’s 25 and we all know more shit goes down later. that’s why i hate that paper that very judgementally recounts how nelly attempts to reframe her narrative to make her seem more important and how she attempts to manipulate the family tree to place herself as a mother figure. yeah girl why do you think!!!!!!!
How I learned to stop worrying and to love Nelly Dean