Queer Rebel

See also, "We're in a drought; conserve water!" Meanwhile, bottled water companies and golf courses for rich folk empty the aquifers.

Porygon

Harry is my favorite character in Leverage Redemption because they’ll throw him into a life or death situation and he’s just like :) guess we’re doing this now okay

HOW DO I SUPER AND EVIL BOOP ON MOBILE 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

Go to the profile of who you intend to boop and hold down on the button in the bottom right. It'll shake for a bit, and then spin for the super boop. Wait a few seconds and it'll spin again for an evil boop 🫡

i hope im not just a mutual to you. i hope i'm also someone you want to beat to death with halloween themed cat paws

when we're done booping i think tumblr should bring back porn

Me as I annoy my mutuals

"you have depression" so close!! i ACTUALLY have emotional motion sickness (somebody roll the windows down). and there are no words in the english language i could scream to drown you out.

realizing that you actually do have the kind of rizz you want to embody and you just have to stop being ashamed of yourself and trust people to not hate you is crazy

One of the more stark examples of how tumblr "leftists" think anyone who has things is a wealthy elite is when I see the takes that unionizing is a must for working class solidarity (true, generally. You need safeguards against inner corruption in your union and need to know how to bargain, or you'll end up in a workplace like mine where our own union just clawed back our workers rights and let our employer step all over us, but that's a different post.) along with the take that making 50k a year is hoarding wealth (what the fuck are you talking about)

You guys know that those unionized trade workers you hold up as working class heroes are NOT making minimum wage right?

"Workers are entitled to the value of their labor!" and "if you can afford to buy a triple A video game you're a class traitor who gets the wall" can NOT both be true, so pick one. Preferably the one that doesn't insist that organizing to better your conditions is actually Bad For Leftism!

one of the myriad curses of making art is if you don't look at it for a while you start to worry that it's somehow turned to solid shit the moment you took your eyes off it. but if you stare at it for too long it'll lose the magic that made you want to realise your vision for it in the first place. and because of this it ranks only slightly higher than lighting yourself on fire in terms of fun activities for when you want to have a good time.

If your apology involves degrading yourself, calling yourself shit or insulting yourself, its not an apology, try again.

Can someone translate this?

Don’t try to guilt people by saying “I’m sorry I fucking suck.” “I’m sorry I’m just the worst and I should die” Because thats not an apology, thats trying to guilt the other person into dropping the subject.

“I’m not trying to guilt anyone! I just feel so terrible!”

Then that is a separate problem from the apology. Apologize to the person you owe and apology to, and then find someone else to talk to about the self-loathing. It’s not fair to ask someone to juggle both things.

“But I want them to know how bad I feel!”

Then you can say, “I feel really awful about it.” You don’t have to go into any more detail than that.

“But what if they won’t accept my apology unless I really grovel for it?”

If you apologized sincerely and they don’t accept it, that doesn’t mean you apologized wrong. Forgiveness isn’t owed.

how to structure an apology:

acknowledge specifically how your actions harmed someone

clarify that this was not your intention (this is where you can briefly convey that you regret your actions)

state what you intend do in the future so that you don’t do it again

optional sign off: request feedback from the injured party as to whether you’re correct in your understanding of the situation and if your intended course correction will be effective.

DO NOT: offer your pain and suffering as repayment. this is not a currency decent people use. it doesn’t buy anything good.

DO NOT: pre-emptively sacrifice your health, wealth, or safety. it can feel safer and more virtuous to try and set terms before anyone else can, but if you’ve been trained to hurt and degrade yourself to avert worse punishments, then you will be automatically giving away things no one deserves to demand from you.

DO NOT: perform for an audience. apologies are between you and a specific party. if you grovel in front of a crowd, the odds are really good someone will come running over to get their boot on your neck. even a public apology is not an open forum, or an invitation to mob rule.

DO NOT: feel as though you can never move on from the wrong you have done. once you are fairly sure you would not again hurt someone in the same way as you regret, you should forgive yourself.

If someone expects groveling, payment beyond restitution, or any sort of control over you, that is not about your wrongdoing. Apologize and then get away.

my dad, trying to explain the concept of money to me: say you have a sandwich, and i need your sandwich. but i don't have anything to give you. you're not just gonna give it to me.

me: i would just give it to you.

my dad:

in elementary school we had. basically an immersive economics lesson that was "playing City," with different jobs and businesses; it was mostly semi-free time for socializing and selling/buying toys and snacks from each other. one of the lessons we were supposed to learn was the importance of paying a small amount of money into health and/or business insurance, because you had a chance of being hit with the Daily Disaster and a huge bill.

anyway, some kid who didn't buy insurance got hit with a "medical bill" early on, so he was supposed to be bankrupt and have to sit the rest of the game out. the 8 year olds were not having it and spontaneously invented crowdfunding so he could keep playing with everyone else.

kids who don't 'get it' are right, actually

endlessly, morbidly fascinated by how when you're a kid you're constantly having parents, school, religion, media, all drumming it into your head that Sharing Is Good And You Need To Do It, and then you grow up and suddenly they're all like right never mind all that, this is The Real World and it's every bastard for himself

Hot take, but cis people have gender identities. They aren't the gender they identify as because of their genitalia or what their birth certificate says. They're only cis because they identify with a gender and it happens to match their government documentation. Cis men aren't men because they're "obviously" men for having a penis. They're men because they identify as men. It's the self-identification that dictates this, not any other factor, even for cis folks. And we should be framing it this way. A cis man identifies as a man and a cis woman identifies as a woman. There is no automatic or inherent gender.

In the same vein, the rockabilly & pin up gals are performing gender. Just like the lumberjack and jock dudes are performing gender. They happen to align with their AGAB, but it is all absolutely a performance of their gender. Often to an exaggerated degree.

happy birthday, The Orange Box

today's children are gonna become teens and clown the shit out of us for 'eepy' and 'blorbo' but they'll say it in cocomelonese so we won't understand them

today’s eepy blorbo is yesterday’s heckin doggo is last week’s smexy bishie

I hate that you're right and that I understood all of that.