my friend asked me to pretend to be her boyfriend because her parents are homophobic af but they ended up hating me so much that they were glad when she said she was gay task failed successfully

okay so

yes

i kissed him on the lips infront of his parents and claimed it was the usual greek greeting between men is that enough for you

Are you…. Are you secretly dating her brother OP?

yes

I wonder why

Show up again to admit to dating the brother, but dress like a typical suburbanite and act like you've never met the parents before. Absolute power move.

asdgfgsjfh im totally doing this

want an update?

ofc you do

but i'm too tired to write all of what happened down right now so instead try to imagine the most awkward situation you've ever been in.

now multiply the awkwardness by 100

first of all i'm just gonna show the difference in what i was wearing

an example of what i would wear as my friend's fake bf:

and as my boyfriend's actual bf:

when my bf and i showed up his dad did such a double take

sooo yeah my bf told his parents he's gay, they looked surprised but told him it was fine... then they shared a look of pure horror (seriously, it was like they had just found out they're in the matrix) and said

"and uh. why is...he here?"

i went and introduced myself like we had never met before and said i was their son's boyfriend

:3

i've never seen two people look more angry before but they weren't gonna say anything because they had other family members over

the family members who had never met me before and therefore knew nothing about the fake relationship thing started asking me what faith i am. i said i was raised protestant, though i'm not very religious now, but that's something i want to change. i had never mentioned anything about being a protestant before and i had said several times that my family was greek orthodox but gaslight gatekeep girlboss

aaaand then the awkwardness began. those were probably the most awkward minutes of my life (we didn't stay for long because i thought the dad was gonna hit me [he probably was. i saw him clenching his fists several times]) and i don't think anyone has ever looked at me with such murderous intent as my bf's parents

update two electric boogaloo ig

i have a girlfriend now🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️

OP you looped around and did actually start dating their daughter

Incredible 10/10

Trans men, transmasc folks, & anyone else to whom this applies

I’m curious how many people wear a binder &/or wear a packer. Always = daily or almost daily, often = around half the time, & never = not at all or almost never. Pick whichever option is closest to your experiences.

If you have had top &/or bottom surgery choose the option that reflects what you did before surgery. People with a more complex experience of gender (genderfluid, multigender, butch, etc.) that affects their desire to bind or pack feel free to elaborate on that in the tags.

Reblogs to boost sample size are appreciated!

hey you know it’s possible to include two spirits in the lgbt community who wish to be included while not including those who don’t want to be right?

and that no person in our community speaks for all of us? that not all of us hold the same view about being considered lgbt?

because i’m getting really tired of people continually telling everyone to not include us at all and encouraging people to remove the little amount of positivity that exists, and even telling us to stop including ourselves

include us who want to be included, dont include those that don’t want to be, and don’t say that none of us can be included because some people prefer not to be when no single person speaks for us all

basically, let us decide for ourselves

this is ok to rb

im just gonna add on bc i feel like a lot of ppl who arent native american misunderstand this bc they dont know what 2spirit like. MEANS. it was coined as a blanket term for pan-tribal usage (no this is not supporting pan-indigineity dw) since every tribe has their own gender identities & sexual orientations and etc.

for example, navajos have dilbaa and nadleehi, which are specific identities that fall under the umbrella of 2spirit (though i dont want to dismiss that recently there are people who will use a sort of non-denominational “2spirit” to refer to themselves the way someone might call themselves “queer”, for a whole variety of reasons).

so, because it’s already encompassing a ton of identities, you’ll get people who are like “oh im x y z gender but i dont consider myself lgbt because my identity already existed and was accepted pre-colonialism” or simply “i dont want to be referred to within the framework of a colonialist culture” or people who are like “yeah my identity existed pre-colonialism but now i suffer under the same sorts of discrimination so i consider myself lgbt” or “i’m mixed/raised off-rez and i feel a connection to both lgbt and 2spirit identities” and etc etc etc. every flavor under the sun! like i consider myself lgbt but NOT nonbinary since a binary never existed in my tribe in the first place, but some natives love the term nonbinary and consider themselves to be that, and that’s totally fine too.

like OP said it’s literally all up to the individual! because 2spirit isn’t an exact identity, it does no one any favors to leave us out entirely. (also disclaimer 2s is pretty complicated and there are some uses im leaving out for brevity lol)

Leslie Feinberg on trans exclusion in feminist spaces.

From TransSisters: The Journal of Transsexual Feminism, issue 7, volume 1. 1995.

anything that contains the phrase “secret BBC memo reveals” intrigues me automatically ngl but I want you all to know that as far as I can gather, the facts are even better than this headline

which is to say, this was part of an initiative in the early 1970s that not only featured marginalized groups on BBC programming, but made moves towards handing them editorial control – the BBC had to approve proposals, but after that, the station’s role was primarily to provide technical resources, facilities, and copyright handling. (another notable program under this initiative featured Black teachers discussing racism in the school system, and a link to that – plus discussion of the hurdles it faced – can be found here).

the program on trans experience was aired in 1973.

you can watch Open Door: Transex Liberation Group here (as well as other archived LGBTQ programming from BBC). 

1: hell yeah

2: David Attenborough was a childhood hero of mine and i’m glad to see he was always a champ

3: look at these related articles

The LGBTQ community has seen controversy regarding acceptance of different groups (bisexual and transgender individuals have sometimes been marginalized by the larger community), but the term LGBT has been a positive symbol of inclusion and reflects the embrace of different identities and that we’re stronger together and need each other. While there are differences, we all face many of the same challenges from broader society.

In the 1960′s, in wider society the meaning of the word gay transitioned from ‘happy’ or ‘carefree’ to predominantly mean ‘homosexual’ and was an umbrella term that meant anyone who wasn’t cisgender or heterosexual. The community embraced the word ‘gay’ as a mark of pride.

The modern fight for queer rights is considered to have begun with The Stonewall Riots in 1969 and was called the Gay Liberation Movement and the Gay Rights Movement.

The acronym GLB surfaced around this time to also include Lesbian and Bisexual people who felt “gay” wasn’t inclusive of their identities. 

Early in the gay rights movement, gay men were largely the ones running the show and there was a focus on men’s issues. Lesbians were unhappy that gay men dominated the leadership and ignored their needs and the feminist fight. As a result, lesbians tended to focus their attention on the Women’s Rights Movement which was happening at the same time. This dominance by gay men was seen as yet one more example of patriarchy and sexism. 

In the 1970′s, sexism and homophobia existed in more virulent forms and those biases against lesbians also made it hard for them to find their voices within women’s liberation movements. Betty Friedman, the founder of the National Organization for Women (NOW), commented that lesbians were a “lavender menace” that threatened the political efficacy of the organization and of feminism and many women felt including lesbians was a detriment.

In the 80s and 90s, a huge portion of gay men were suffering from AIDS while the lesbian community was largely unaffected. Lesbians helped gay men with medical care and were a massive part of the activism surrounding the gay community and AIDS. This willingness to support gay men in their time of need sparked a closer, more supportive relationship between both groups, and the gay community became more receptive to feminist ideals and goals. 

Approaching the 1990′s it was clear that GLB referred to sexual identity and wasn’t inclusive of gender identity and T should be added, especially since trans activist have long been at the forefront of the community’s fight for rights and acceptance, from Stonewall onward. Some argued that T should not be added, but many gay, lesbian and bisexual people pointed out that they also transgress established gender norms and therefore the GLB acronym should include gender identities and they pushed to include T in the acronym. 

GLBT became LGBT as a way to honor the tremendous work the lesbian community did during the AIDS crisis. 

Towards the end of the 1990s and into the 2000s, movements took place to add additional letters to the acronym to recognize Intersex, Asexual, Aromantic, Agender, and others. As the acronym grew to LGBTIQ, LGBTQIA, LGBTQIAA, many complained this was becoming unwieldy and started using a ‘+’ to show LGBT aren’t the only identities in the community and this became more common, whether as LGBT+ or LGBTQ+. 

In the 2010′s, the process of reclaiming the word “queer” that began in the 1980′s was largely accomplished. In the 2020′s the LGBTQ+ acronym is used less often as Queer is becoming the more common term to represent the community. 

I am not even a Doctor Who but even I can see that this is a hysterically funny fear to express about Doctor Who

This show?

I wasn't even looking for any of these scenes, this is just what comes up when you look up the name of the show.

Caption: [Okay so, I do this all the time. Not on purpose it’s just like, I assume that people know? And (laughing) one time, a coworker, Hi (name can’t hear), helped me while I was recovering from nipple reconstruction surgery. (laughing) Turns out, that she didn’t know that I’m trans!? (laughing) She just thought I wanted new nipples!]

ASDKFJHKJDFHKJDFHSD

i actually do this as a non-confrontational way of 'just being normal about it'!

eg, the other day, me with two co-workers - one of whom i've worked with for a while and isn't great at queer things but is learning, and the other of which is new and is a Mormon so was an unknown quantity about this sort of issue...

Billy Lane, winner of the Seattle Mr. Leather contest in 1998 and first trans man to compete in the International Mr. Leather contest.

I think this might be one of the funniest replies to a post on here that I’ve ever seen

Pretty fucked up that queer people’s emotional development is usually like

0-12: childhood

12-22: t̷̬̳̫̜̬͙̯̝̤͌̇h̷̗̾̃̂̓̿̚̕̚ͅͅë̴̡̙̟͚͖͖̟́ ̶͙̲̱͍̝̔̔̾̾́d̴̛̫͚̳̫̈́̐̒̀̏̑̀͝ä̶̯͔͓͇̮̱̠͉́̓̋̌̈́̔̏ͅr̶̹̳̣̭̞̳̱͔͌ͅk̷̲̜͙̝̲̿̐̓ņ̷̢͔̺̤͕͕͓͋̐͆̈́̇́̆͜͠e̵͇͗̍͂̚ṣ̶̟̼̩́̍̉s̴̥̐̅ ̶̢̜͉͚͍̉̓͑̒̑͝o̵̧̠̙̐͗́̋͊̿̈́͛̉f̸̫͊̐̀̈́̕͝ͅ ̸̭̺͓̘̪́͝t̷̛̺͆̈́͘h̸͚̺̣͍̃̇̈́͑͋è̷̙͙͍͇͈͉͎̔̂̚ ̵͍̥̈́̆̆̐v̶͖̈̐̓͋̍̈́͘o̴̳͖͊͛̋i̸̙̾͂͆̈̓d̵̢̩͓̻͎̲͓̓͜

22-30: adolescence

another common one is

0-12: [memories redacted ‘cause trauma]

12-22: t̷̬̳̫̜̬͙̯̝̤͌̇h̷̗̾̃̂̓̿̚̕̚ͅͅë̴̡̙̟͚͖͖̟́ ̶͙̲̱͍̝̔̔̾̾́d̴̛̫͚̳̫̈́̐̒̀̏̑̀͝ä̶̯͔͓͇̮̱̠͉́̓̋̌̈́̔̏ͅr̶̹̳̣̭̞̳̱͔͌ͅk̷̲̜͙̝̲̿̐̓ņ̷̢͔̺̤͕͕͓͋̐͆̈́̇́̆͜͠e̵͇͗̍͂̚ṣ̶̟̼̩́̍̉s̴̥̐̅ ̶̢̜͉͚͍̉̓͑̒̑͝o̵̧̠̙̐͗́̋͊̿̈́͛̉f̸̫͊̐̀̈́̕͝ͅ ̸̭̺͓̘̪́͝t̷̛̺͆̈́͘h̸͚̺̣͍̃̇̈́͑͋è̷̙͙͍͇͈͉͎̔̂̚ ̵͍̥̈́̆̆̐v̶͖̈̐̓͋̍̈́͘o̴̳͖͊͛̋i̸̙̾͂͆̈̓d̵̢̩͓̻͎̲͓̓͜

22-30: learning how to function

30: renewed trauma and anger and re-defining of self for years when you realise you're asexual actually and you don't want to be and you've got nothing to take 'pride' in and this is why you've felt 'broken' compared to other queer people for years, but you'll never get to have what they have.

Was asked, "What's it like not to have sexual attraction?"

And I felt like a cis boy who's been asked, "What's it like to not have periods?"

How am I supposed to explain what the lack of something I never had feels like??

It doesn't feel like anything. We feel other things. There is enough to feel and experience and appreciate in this world to have a completely fulfilling life without sexuality or romance.

I think allosexual and alloromantic people ask questions like this from a place of mis-applied empathy. They're trying to imagine how they would feel in our place. And to them it feels like something is missing, something is lacking, life is emptier. They imagine being repressed.

Which makes sense, because their sexuality is a huge part of who they are! But our experiences as a-spec people aren't less. It's just different.

Like, if you ask a straight guy or a lesbian what's it's like to not be attracted to guys, of course you're going to get a bunch of different responses. Indifference, or disgust, or any number of complex personal insights into their own sexuality. A-spec people have just as many answers to this question (especially because many of us do experience some sexual and/or romantic attraction or have done so in the past, particularly on the grey/flux/demi side of the spectrum).

The thing is, it's not about the guys.

It's about the girls. Someone who's attracted only to women isn't going to have all that much to say on their non-attraction to non-women. But they have so much to say about their attraction to women. Passionate love, joyful sexuality—a world of rich and diverse experience.

And it would be silly to go up to a gay guy or a straight woman and say, "gosh, you're missing out on girls, your life must be so empty." Because we know that there's just as much joy and passion and richness in their attraction to guys.

A-spec people don't have an obvious alternative. We're not as easy to stereotype. It's a common joke in the a-spec community that our special passion is cake, or perhaps garlic bread.

The beautiful truth beneath that joke is that a-spec people find our joy and passion in so many different places we simply can't be put in one box. We only congregate under this umbrella out of solidarity over being misfits in heteronormative, amatonormative society. Each a-spec individual has different things that are as satisfying to them as sexuality and romance are to allo people. For some of us it's queerplatonic bonds, family, deep friendships or huge groups of friends. For others it's blissful solitude. For others still it's our interests, religions, jobs, creativity, grand ambitions to change the world, or enjoying the simple pleasures of life. Such as, you guessed it, cake.

So, if you're an allo person trying to understand the a-spec people in your life... don't ask about sexuality. Ask them what they're passionate about. Ask them what's important to them. Ask them about the joys of their lives, and please understand this: their joys and longings are just as profound as your own.

Let go of your assumptions about what it means to be fulfilled, to be happy, to be human.

Beautifully said.

I love when greeting cards/children’s books/ etc forget about sexual dimorphism and make animals gay

There's a HTTYD game called School of Dragons where one of the things you can do (apart from, obviously, raise dragons) is look after your little farm to raise money. One of the animals you can get (for some reason, on Berk) is. Uh. An ostrich. You feed them, they lay eggs, you sell their eggs for various things.

Here is what the ostriches look like.

Here are a male and female ostrich. The male is on the right.

basically all the ostriches in Berk are transmasc and also weirdly adapted to living in a cold climate and I support them.

I love that queer can mean 'I don't know what I am'. I love that queer can mean 'it's none of your business what I am'. And i love that queer can mean 'I know exactly what I am, but it's a long list that I don't feel like reciting every time'.

And that it means 'one of us, one of us'.

i love trans men who wear crust pants i love trans men who talk loudly i love trans men who smell i love short trans men i love trans men who work out i love trans men who dye their hair i love gay trans men i love masculine trans men. i love trans men who have high voices i love trans men who wear makeup i love trans men who wear skirts i love trans men who have soft voices i love ‘sickly’ trans men i love trans men who are straight i love trans men who go stealth i love trans men who don’t pass. i fucking love all trans men and fuck people who don’t agree.

Rhoyle Ivy King

“putting that trans character in a trans flag shirt was so tacky 🙄”

wow it’s almost like trans masc erasure in media is so severe that we have to plaster trans flags on us just for people to even acknowledge we exist and not just say the character was “just a woman with short hair/a butch lesbian/a gnc woman/anything but a trans man”

It's okay even when we make a character as blatantly trans masc as possible, transphobes still prove they have too much shit-for-brains to understand.