unspoken

you are allowed to be wrong you are allowed to mess up you are allowed to be embarrassing.

— Michelle K., I Know I Deserve More.

The OBSESSION with identity is so crazy like the view that when you do something it immediately becomes part of your identity and all the parts of you have to click together to become “person who wakes up early” or “person who reads” no you can literally just do something without restructuring your whole performance of personhood around it. I don’t know what to tell you except that you will never be able to have an entirely unfractured view of yourself or that you will be able to rationalize all the complex parts of yourself into the phrase “person who x” like you should just be doing things without performing them. Or aestheticizing them. Just try different things on and keep what works for you. Otherwise you will never learn and grow!

anything that has the potential to improve your life involves risk. embrace it

that image that goes i want to do this. do it. but im scared. do it scared. changed my life

Start making decisions based on who you want to be.

And in these next 50 years you will eat so many delicious meals, laugh so many times with so many people you love, shout and scream and sing and cry and smile so hard your face hurts. And you will see such beautiful sunsets and feel fresh cold air on your face and feel warm and safe wrapped up in your favourite winter coat.

Don’t wait for things to be perfect

how people treat you is not indicative of your worth

if being hard on yourself worked, it would have worked by now

you are not unloveable you are just sad and a little bit angry. let’s go have some soup