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ultralaser

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peak hatemail [ choosy moms choose gif ] long and prosper, baby
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brucebocchi

today elon musk banned the "elonjet" account that shared his private flight data, which is public information, in real time. he also banned a litany of ostensibly liberal journalists for having the temerity to report on it.

banned twitter users, as it turns out, can still participate in spaces, so a bunch of them got together. elon himself found the space and was allowed to speak on it.

one of the banned journalists asked musk whether he sees any similarities between his own behavior today and previous twitter staff taking down illegal content stolen from hunter biden's laptop, to which elon musk... said nothing and fucking left

update: the space just closed abruptly

twitter spaces no longer exist. the function is completely gone now

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ultralaser

lollll he nuked a whole feature out of spite

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algorithmist

the funniest thing about elon musk to me is that being the richest person on the planet isn't enough for him, he seems to desperately want to be liked too. and it's so pathetic! and astounding honestly, because none of those other billionaires seem to care!

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ultralaser

someone was saying on twitter that the fundamental shift post social media is that now rich guys like elon musk and politicians like ted cruz and trump KNOW that everyone hates them, and can no longer delude themselves by being insulated from the people's opinions, bc now everyone can just reply to their posts and tell them to eat shit

and you can tell that for elon specifically this is driving him up the god damn wall, and that's so beautiful

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something i really liked about into the spider verse, as opposed to oh idk infinity war, is that they made it very very clear that kingpin **thought** he had a good, noble, empathetic reason for doing what he was doing, but DID NOT ACTUALLY, he was just a selfish asshole

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note-a-bear

Blah blah blah capitalism is the devil and retail workers don’t owe anyone anything

Except if you’re such a slacker you make more work for your coworkers.

You can rot

there’s a difference between not caring about the company and not caring about your co-workers

Pretty much. Like, I don’t care how much you wanna stick it to the man. If you hate it all so much, move on as quickly as you can

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You write in the book that Trump does exhibit some of the criteria of narcissistic personality disorder, like his grandiose delusions, but that he doesn’t have it because these traits don’t cause him distress. Why is that distinction so important? Trump causes enormous distress to others, but his behavior doesn’t bother himself. In fact, he gets rewarded for them, he’s not necessarily out of sync with larger society. He’s always terrific at feathering his own nest and he’s been rewarded for his world-class narcissism rather than being punished for it. Having the symptoms themselves does not constitute a mental disorder. In order to qualify as a mental disorder, the individual would have to have distress related to them. So many of these behaviors in the DSM occur in perfectly normal people, so we don’t think everyone should be labeled mentally ill just because they have symptoms included in one disorder or another. Lots of traits are distributed in the whole population, and some people have a lot of it, but it doesn’t mean they’re mentally ill unless it’s causing them a great deal of distress. And you think that even if he did “officially” have it, it wouldn’t make a difference. This argument that NPD should disqualify Trump from presidency doesn’t make sense. First, he doesn’t have it. And even if he did, so what? Narcissism is very common in political leaders, celebrities, doctors, lawyers, and professors, but it’s not a disqualifying criteria for governing. Even if people have mental disorders, that doesn’t mean they can’t be great leaders. We don’t want that idea. Abraham Lincoln and Winston Churchill both had very severe mental disorders and were among the best leaders. The decision to keep someone as a leader should be based not on psychiatric name-calling but rather on the person’s behaviors and adherence to the Constitution and confidence as a leader. He should be impeached of his behavior and because he’s a terrible president, not because he supposedly has a mental illness. NPD is not a reason that someone wouldn’t be president. The arguments of the people making the case for narcissistic personality disorder are confusing bad behavior with mental disorder and they shouldn’t be distracting from Trump’s very bad behavior with futile, psychiatric name-calling.

i tagged a trump post npd earlier and @alti-n reminded me that trump is just a rich asshole, not mentally ill

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one gag that never fails to make me lose my shit is when a character is shown next to a framed photograph of themselves, in the exact same pose as in the photo

it’s a mouthful to explain but god damn. that is comedy gold right there. 

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In my view, the main reason for the uneven management sex ratio is our inability to discern between confidence and competence. That is, because we (people in general) commonly misinterpret displays of confidence as a sign of competence, we are fooled into believing that men are better leaders than women. In other words, when it comes to leadership, the only advantage that men have over women (e.g., from Argentina to Norway and the USA to Japan) is the fact that manifestations of hubris — often masked as charisma or charm — are commonly mistaken for leadership potential, and that these occur much more frequently in men than in women. This is consistent with the finding that leaderless groups have a natural tendency to elect self-centered, overconfident and narcissistic individuals as leaders, and that these personality characteristics are not equally common in men and women. In line, Freud argued that the psychological process of leadership occurs because a group of people — the followers — have replaced their own narcissistic tendencies with those of the leader, such that their love for the leader is a disguised form of self-love, or a substitute for their inability to love themselves. “Another person’s narcissism”, he said, “has a great attraction for those who have renounced part of their own… as if we envied them for maintaining a blissful state of mind.” The truth of the matter is that pretty much anywhere in the world men tend to think that they that are much smarter than women. Yet arrogance and overconfidence are inversely related to leadership talent — the ability to build and maintain high-performing teams, and to inspire followers to set aside their selfish agendas in order to work for the common interest of the group. Indeed, whether in sports, politics or business, the best leaders are usually humble — and whether through nature or nurture, humility is a much more common feature in women than men. For example, women outperform men on emotional intelligence, which is a strong driver of modest behaviors. Furthermore, a quantitative review of gender differences in personality involving more than 23,000 participants in 26 cultures indicated that women are more sensitive, considerate, and humble than men, which is arguably one of the least counter-intuitive findings in the social sciences. An even clearer picture emerges when one examines the dark side of personality: for instance, our normative data, which includes thousands of managers from across all industry sectors and 40 countries, shows that men are consistently more arrogant, manipulative and risk-prone than women. The paradoxical implication is that the same psychological characteristics that enable male managers to rise to the top of the corporate or political ladder are actually responsible for their downfall. In other words, what it takes to get the job is not just different from, but also the reverse of, what it takes to do the job well. As a result, too many incompetent people are promoted to management jobs, and promoted over more competent people.
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(This is, it’s worth noting, the same lack of trust leads to thinking every contract worker is cheating you, and the same terror of being proven wrong that leads someone with no foreign policy experience to say his number one foreign policy adviser is himself. It manifests itself in other ways, too: The kind of person who traffics in loyalty rather than friendship, who considers challenges to be attacks, who twists every loss into a victory, who assesses every gesture and every act not in terms of how it will better or worsen the world overall, but how it will better or worsen the world for himself.) It’s possible that President Trump has very good reasons for preferring his steak well done. Maybe he makes a yearly practice of trying a medium-rare ribeye, just to make sure that his preferred doneness is truly a matter of subjective preference, and not some damning psychological tell. But his other eating habits, even in the context of his reported germophobia, speak to a gastronomic risk aversion — a fundamental lack of trust — across the board. He prefers fast food, and rarely varies his order. His favorite dish at Mar-a-Lago is the meat loaf, and that’s not even some inspired chef’s creation, it’s the meat loaf of his childhood, his mother’s own recipe. He has a well-documented aversion to eating with his hands. When he dines at Jean-Georges, the three-Michelin-star restaurant in the Trump International Tower in New York, he asks for a personalized order — ”the special thing you made for me,” Chris Christie recalled him requesting of a server — rather than the innovative, creatively constructed dishes on the menu. Donald Trump is not a man who likes to try new things, and that says a lot about him.
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tariqk
The Trump White House not only leaks like crazy. It casually leaks the most intimate and humiliating details about the President - hurt feelings, ego injury, childlike behavior, self-destructive rages over tweets, media failure to credit his own grandiosity. We have simply never seen this level of leaking, with this little respect for the President’s dignity or reputation, this early.

Does no one get the feeling that they’re basically leaking the fuck out Trump’s business is so that when Pence takes over, everyone will breathe a sigh of relief over the fact that at least we’ll have someone “Presidential”?

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ultralaser

option one is trump is so unstable even the gop is scared of him, option two is they've been planning to dump him from the moment he won the primary.

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Second, Trump is just not introspective. A question about heroes by its very nature necessitates some level of introspection from the person to whom it is asked. What makes a hero? What are the traits you most admire in a person? Who are the sorts of people that you model yourself after? Trump simply doesn't open up. Ever. He is constantly moving forward. He doesn't look back. He doesn't second guess. He assumes he has always done the right thing. In a way, it's a remarkable personality trait and one that as someone who constantly second guesses himself, I sort of admire. The point is that Trump doesn't engage in navel-gazing in public — and, my guess is, in private either. Third, Trump views himself as totally sui generis. He owes no one for his successes. He models himself after no one. There is no blueprint for Donald Trump except the one he writes for himself. Viewed through that lens, Trump's odd transition from a dismissal of heroes to a discussion of how he beat so many candidates in the Republican primary actually makes sense. The truth is Trump views himself as a prime mover of history, someone who makes new paths rather than following old ones. What Trump was really saying then was that he doesn't believe in heroes only singular men in history — of which he considers himself one. He believes they only made one Donald Trump and then broke the mold. The way in which Trump reveals his true nature is often when he is seemingly just talking to talk. The assumptions he makes — or refuses to make — speak to a worldview at which he, alone, sits at the center.
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My colleagues and I refer to this belief as ‘The Boiler Theory of Men.’ The idea is that a person can only tolerate so much accumulated pain and frustration. If it doesn’t get vented periodically—kind of like a pressure cooker—then there’s bound to be a serious accident. This myth has the ring of truth to it because we are all aware of how many men kee thep too much emotion pent up side. Since most abusers are male, it seems to add up.But it doesn’t, and here’s why: Most of my clients are not usually repressed. In fact, many of them express their feelings more than some nonabusive men. Rather than trapping everything inside, they actually tend to do the opposite: They have an exaggerated idea of how important their feelings are, and they talk about their feelings—and act them out—all the time, until their partners and children are exhausted from hearing about it all. An abuser’s emotions are as likely to be too big as too small. They can fill up the whole house. When he feels bad, he thinks that life should stop for everyone else in the family until someone fixes his discomfort. His partner’s life crises, the children’s sicknesses, meals, birthdays—nothing else matters as much as his feelings.It is not his feelings the abuser is too distant from; it is his partner’s feelings and his children’s feelings. Those are the emotions that he knows so little about and that he needs to ‘get in touch with.’ My job as an abuse counselor often involves steering the discussion away from how my clients feel and toward how they think (including their attitudes toward their partner’s feelings). My clients keep trying to drive the ball back into the court that is familiar and comfortable to them, where their inner world is the only thing that matters.

Lundy Bancroft in Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2002), pp. 30–31 (via mikroblogolas)

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kelsium

Honestly I’m not gonna survive the apocalypse. Y'all go on gathering berries and drinking cockroach milk (apparently) and forming barter economies and I’m gonna stay in my house until the last of my seltzer runs out and then I’m gonna put on an all cashmere outfit and lay down and die. Have fun fending off the coyotes and doomsday cults and living on expired canned goods in a world with no more Netflix. Pass.

Tbh the apocalypse is so easy to survive. How hard is it to kill zombies and regenerate electricity and shit. The only reason people would die is because everyone would blow it way out of proportion and be irrational

A 15 year old contributed this to my post.

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ultralaser

nice

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