Black Lives Matter

I never said I disliked it. I actually did like the movie. But I did have a few problems with it, mainly the way Joss Whedon went about with the writing of a few of our beloved characters.

1) Where did the Natasha/Bruce thing come from? That was TOTALLY out of left field. 

2) Also why does she have to have a love interest in damn near every movie? Why can’t she be a strong independent female character?

3) Josh Whedon seriously white-washed the Maximoffs. They are not only half-Jewish, but half-Romani (what are more commonly known as “gypsies,” which is actually derogatory). Romani people generally have dark hair and darker (olive/tan skin) and the fact that this was completely erased is a huge insult to a culture that is largely stigmatized and treated like scum. In Romania, they are actually used in human experimentation (you know animal testing? Yeah they have Romani testing there, which is actually much more cruel because it’s not just makeup, honey) and are considered intellectually impaired. That erasure is damaging to an already underrepresented race/culture.

4) Why the fuck is Nat’s biggest fear that she can’t have children as a result of the life in which she was brought up? Like, yeah, we get that she regrets that whole life itself, but that’s what we’re supposed to take away from it? Not that she killed people, but that she can’t pump out babies? Really? Fuck that.

Those are my issues. Otherwise, I did like it.

This just in: only white people live in England.

I don’t see why anyone would WANT to be an asshole in the first place? Like, why do you want to be an asshole? Asshole suck, trans* power, amirite???

The term sexism implies that, in some way, a person has been held back or oppressed for their gender. It’s mainly used towards women. See, even today, women are looked at and seen as objects, even if people don’t see it. In so many music videos by male artists, women are used as props. In many places across the US, women are fighting so they can have bodily autonomy. There are male politicians who are trying to have control over the bodies of women, as if their bodies belong to them, the politicians. 

You’re also missing the point of feminism. It’s not trying to dominate men, or hold more power over them, but rather to raise ourselves up to the same level where they have been for so many years. Think of it this way:

In the year 2013, only 14.6% of CEOs in Fortune 500 companies were held by women, as well as 16.9% of board positions in those same companies (x)

Here are also some statistics about women’s earnings as compared to men, which is considerably less.

And while abortion is legal in the United States due to Roe v. Wade, there are still states which outlaw it, holding mandates over women’s bodies. In North Dakota, abortions are outlawed if the woman is past 6 weeks (which some women don’t even realize they’re pregnant until!) But overall, there are abortion restrictions in 41 states, and there are STILL complications outside of their restrictions. It is a woman’s choice what to do with her own body, and there are people out there who try to control that. (x)

It still is a valid movement. It’s not “men sitting near them in crowded public transportation.” It’s being groped and treated like sexual objects in these places. It’s the domestic abuse that still occurs day after day (and while women can be perpetrators, there are more reports of men committing these acts). It’s that rape culture is still rampant in our media and everywhere. It’s because the way a woman dresses isn’t her own choice and personal freedom, but rather her “asking for it” or being an “attention whore.”

Do some research.

Because he used Piper’s prison time to HIS own advantage and turned HER story into HIS story just to reap the fame from her suffering. He saw her incarceration as an opportunity to get his career lifted off but for all the wrong reasons. And then he proceeded to lie to her about Alex as the one who named her to get her in there. And then he goes and fucks her married best friend with a newborn child, and leaves her for said “best friend.” Right when she was all ready to marry him right then and there if he asked her to. He used her and he was kind of her only real connection to the outside world and he treated her like garbage.

That’s why everyone fucking HATES LARRY THAT PIECE OF SHIT.

I shoved ten whole bananas up my ass

Okay! Fasten your seat belts, because this is about to get cute as fuck!

Back in January, I had been dumped by my boyfriend of almost a year and a half. He claimed that because of my anxiety and bipolar disorder/depression, I was too needy and clingy, and it was too much for him to handle. This left me pretty heartbroken, very hurt, and devastated. I was having a very difficult time. 

One day, a post came up on my dash - a “Cuddle Buddy Application.” I had seen things like this before, reblogged them, and never gotten any responses. But I figured, I was in a low place, why not? I reblogged it and added “I don’t expect anyone to fill this out, but it would be nice if someone did.” Not more than an hour later, I had one response - it was from the-uterus. 

She was, at the time, a gender-questioning male (which didn’t bother me in the slightest) and everything that she said was absolutely perfect. We continued to talk and we found out that we didn’t live too far away from each other - I’m going to school in Massachusetts, and she was going to school in New Hampshire. We were less than two hours away, and I have a car. So we decided to make a plan to meet up in two, three weeks and be cuddle buddies.

I told her about my situation and the pain I was feeling. On top of that, a good friend from high school had just passed away and I was feeling crappy about that. She helped me through it all, and helped to convince me that my stupid ex was not worth my time. The messaging here on Tumblr turned into texting day and night. We exchanged Skype information. The moment I heard her voice for the first time and actually saw her face, I felt this wave of euphoria flush over me. I could not stop smiling. I never intended to fall for her, but I did. And I decided to go for it and confess that I had a crush on her two days before our meet-up, not expecting anything in return. But holy crap, she did! And with our acknowledged feelings, our intended meet-up just got more and more exciting.

Finally, January 31st, the day of the meetup arrived. I drove to New Hampshire, so freaking nervous about meeting her. But I parked in the parking lot after some confusion of where the hell I was supposed to park, and there she was. I swear to god, I never believed in it before, but it was love at first sight. I wanted to run over to her and kiss her right from the moment I saw her. I found out a few months later that she felt the same way. But all I could say was, “Oh my god, you’re actually real!” 

We walked back to her dorm and settled in. The rest of the day/night was spent watching Bob’s Burgers, Sherlock, making terrible puns, and kissing each other on the cheek. Oh, and cuddling, of course. She is a terrific cuddler.

Finally, on February 1st, 1:35 am, she was laying on her back and I was sitting cross-legged on the floor, and she sheepishly asked me, “Do you wanna go out?” I smiled and answered, “Yeah, sure. I would like that.” 

HOLY CRAP IT HAPPENED.

And she sat up, and I laid in her lap. And then, boom. She leaned over and kissed me on the lips for the first time. And everything just felt so right. After that, we couldn’t stop kissing for hours. It was like we had been waiting for so long to do this, and then we just didn’t want it to end. 

That night, we fell asleep in each other’s arms. It felt so good to wake up to her smiling face, to her kissing me on the nose and the lips, whispering, “Good morning, Ariel.” She told me that she had never woken up next to another person before, and how good it felt. We just lied there for a while, cuddled in each other’s arms, staring into each other’s eyes, kissing, and just having pillow talk. Everything was perfect.

It’s been five and a half months, and I’m more in love with her than I ever have been. We’ve been away from each other now for about a month, and I won’t see her for another 4 weeks. It’s the longest consecutive time we’ve been apart while we’ve been together, and it’s been super hard on us. But we Skype almost every night, we watch Netflix together over skype (we sync it up because we’re good like that), we make each other laugh and smile, and we just remind each other over and over why we love the other. I manage to fall in love with her all over again every day, and the next day I fall harder than the last. We have a plan to move in together in less than a year from now (starting next May, hopefully) and to get married sometime in the next few years. I have found my true soulmate and the love of my life. I have honestly never felt this way about anyone as I do about her.

And that, kids, is how I met my girlfriend. And I didn’t need ten seasons and a shitty ending to tell it.

Would you go to church and pray to the lord Jesus Christ?