Wheels' Trashfire

a bit horrific that disabled women are twice as likely to experience violence than non-disabled women & yet there’s extremely limited accessible help & resources available 

terrifying. 

Yeah, I've experienced the lack of resources for abuse and violence for disabled people firsthand, not only do we not have access to these things but when able bodied people do horrible things to us, they are often excused. Somehow it's our fault when we get targeted. Especially if they are a """caregiver""" because you're a burden in the eyes of society. It doesn't even matter much work you put in to being independent and how much of that independence you achieve, people always seem to see you this way.

Stop 👏 treating 👏 disabled 👏 people 👏 like 👏 burdens.

To add to this, stop excusing the domestic violence we Face by telling us our caregivers are “stressed,” I can’t tell you how many times people have either watched me get abused and excused or ignored it, or heard about me getting abused and excused it. I hope that when the day comes for them to lose their health, they have to deal with a much milder version of shit like that and are made to think of how fucking awful it was when they did it to me.

The fact that I have gotten turned away by several domestic violence shelters and programs for abuse victims strictly for being in a wheelchair. Which, if you don't know is why I'm still living with people that are abusing me, trying to use me for SSI, and have tried to kill me. I'm not allowed to talk about the fact that on top of dealing with abuse at home growing up, I also had to get myself kicked out of the school district because the staff there were abusing me to and I was also getting bullied. I'm not allowed to talk about the fact that the other school district I went to was also very discriminatory toward me. The only difference between the first school district I mentioned and the second ( which was actually the first district I went to and then I left and came back) is that the Discrimination was tolerable enough for me to fight my way into the National Honor Society and graduate with many awards to my name. But hey, it's all about making the able-bodied people feel comfortable, isn't it? That's why they have all this politically correct language that they force you to use or you're a bad cripple. You're not allowed to say that because it's not a nice word and you might offend your own sensibilities! The able-bodied people have to tell you what your sensibilities are. The only things we are allowed to talk about are the lack of accessibility in buildings and on public transit, and probably not even that. I can go on and on and bring up many other issues, but honestly I think I'm going to make a full post about this instead of putting it under this one.

Please please adhere to this l

Yes, if you are being abused, whether the person is male or female, they will do it again! Doesn't matter what the perpetrator is for what their justification is, if you are in a relationship and somebody is hitting you, they will do it again! If somebody is emotionally beating you down when you do something wrong, they will do it again! Reach out to somebody and tell them what's going on, even if you just vent to them. They will most likely tell you what's what and if they care about you at all. I know how hard it is to get out of the situation, but sometimes even if you have to do it slowly, just reach out to somebody and tell them if you trust them.