im 15 years old and have been wanting to pack for years now. ive tried to secretly do it (sock method) but my mom would notice and tell me to take it out. i dont pack anymore because of this. however, now i barely wear things such as jeans and anything thats basically not baskbetball shorts. is there anyway to fix my mindset or talk my mom into letting my pack? because its hard going through motions of wearing clothes and such.
Lee says:
If you’re trying to do it secretly and she keeps noticing, maybe it isn’t as secret as you think.
I’ve seen a lot of asks from trans folk saying things like “I’m packing with 3 or 4 big socks, and people are noticing/it doesn’t look natural” and that’s probably because you’re going too big in size. I’m guessing that most afab 15 year olds haven’t had the opportunity to see flaccid penises IRL, so oftentimes you’re working on a size assumption based on things you see in pornography and the like. A lot of sock packer tutorials make that mistake as well.
As this post explains, a lot of flaccid penises are around the 3.5 inch range. When you’re packing, you want to look like you have a flaccid dick, not like you’re constantly walking around with a fully erect penis.
If you need context for how long 3.5″ is, you can see below that it’s only slightly longer than a normal sized credit card:
[Image description: A public library card next to a tape measure. The card is a standard size, the size of a credit card, and it’s 3.375 inches. /End ID]
So if you’re packing discreetly, with a sock packer that’s as close to a normal flaccid penis size and length, then she shouldn’t be able to easily notice it while you’re wearing jeans.
As for the “What pants” question, you’ll have to experiment with different types of pants and shorts on your own to see which ones minimize the obvious bulge look so she won’t notice that it’s there.
I personally feel like my packers are less noticeable in jeans and cargo pants and slacks and the like, and it’s more noticeable in basketball shorts.
So my suggestion is to try to pack more discreetly so she won’t notice. If that doesn’t work, and she keeps on seeing it and telling you to take it off, then you should move on to trying to convince her.
Check out the links in this post, and try to have a sit-down conversation with her where you explain why you’re packing, and why it’s hard for you to wear clothes without packing. She might be convinced if you really share your feelings, and if you say you’re going to buy a small packer or something so it’ll look more natural and less awkward or boner-y than what she may have been noticing before.
More info: Packing and standing to pee
Followers, any suggestions for anon on convincing their mom to let them pack?