(Divorced parents anon) My mom is in even better shape to care for me. She had a stable job and a house and my dad lives with his parents. My grandma is pretty abusive (always calling me names and hitting me) and as for legalities, when we still lived near my mom I would switch out between them, but then my dad just up and left when I was 10! I've talked to my dad and so has my mom but he doesn't care. I'm sorry if I'm being annoying but I don't know who else to ask for advice...
Lee says:
You should make it clear to your mom that she needs to take action on your behalf- be as direct and upfront as you can, and repeat in however many ways as you can that you need to leave, you need to leave soon, and she needs to make it happen since she’s the parent.
Write/text/call her and say something like “Hi, you said I can live with you and I really want to do that, as soon as possible. Can you buy me a plane ticket/drive here to pick me up this weekend? I want a firm and concrete plan of when I’m going to be moving in with you, and how my stuff is going to get from this house to your house. If you need to hire a lawyer so the court will recognize you have custody over me, please look into doing that. I’m not in a good situation here (elaborate on why it’s unsafe for you), and you’re the parent so I want you to do whatever it is that you need to do to get me out of here as quickly as possible.”
Talk to your mom every day and ask where she is in the process of helping you move, and how long you should expect until move out day. Keep reminding her!
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