Do NOT Support ‘Adam’ When The Film Comes Out

I’ve talked about this before on this blog but this is the most disgustingly transphobic and lesbophobic narrative I’ve ever come across. 

CWs: transphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, corrective rape, voyeurism

The book Adam by Ariel Schrag is being turned into a movie which has been named as one of the most exciting LGBTQ films of the year. You should know before watching that the book is about a cis boy who pretends to be a trans man in order to persuade lesbians to sleep with him.

Yeah… you read that right.

Book plot summary: 

It is deeply deeply transphobic. To imply that our identities are just costumes for other people to put on erases who we are as people. More than that, to imply it is done to trick people into sex is a dangerous lie that literally gets us killed.

It is also deeply lesbophobic. To fuel this narrative that lesbians can be “fixed” by having sex with a man leads to real corrective rapes happening. 

Here is a review of the book by a trans man. I have yet to find one by a lesbian but will edit this if I do.

This book gives out incredibly harmful notions about trans men and lesbians that are used to hurt them in real life. It’s so entrenched in the narrative that I don’t see how the film can possibly be any better.

I do not say any of this lightly. it’s very very rare for me to call out a piece of fiction or for me to decide that a story is unfixable. But this… there’s no excuse for the bigotry in this. 

I’d like to tell people to boycott it but I can’t tell you what to do. So instead I’m going to ask that you share this because it being named as an exciting new LGBTQ film is going to make LGBTQ teens want to see it. And they should know beforehand how hurtful it could be. They should be able to arm themselves with that knowledge.

Don’t make queer kids see this film believing it will represent them only to be exposed to this hatred of their identities. 

Please reblog.

Transfem Lower Surgery Masterpost

Note: Not everyone who wants these surgeries identifies as transfeminine, nor does every transfem person want these surgeries.

& if anyone else has any other good resources you want to share, please do feel free to add to this post! <3

General good-to-know for before surgeries:

Orchiectomy / Scrotectomy:

Penectomy:

Vaginoplasty:

About sex:

Previous Masterposts:

Transmasc Lower Surgery Masterpost

Note: Not everyone who wants these surgeries identifies as transmasculine, nor does every transmasculine person want these surgeries.

& if anyone else has any other good resources you want to share, please do feel free to add to this post! <3

Metoidioplasty:

Phalloplasty:

Scrotoplasty:

Vaginectomy:

General:

Previous Masterposts:

Tucking masterpost

Tucking refers to tucking up your genitals in order to get a flatter apperance. I’ve tried to put together some links with info about it in this post, to save others time and energy on searching. But as always, if someone know of any good additional recoursed please feel free to add to this post!

Text based info & resources:

Video based info & resources:

Info & resources in Swedish:

Previous Masterposts:

Some information for becoming pregnant after using testosterone (T) for transitioning.

[IMAGE DESCRIPTION:]

A series of 10 slides from a Prezi presentation are shown.

Slide 1. The title is “Pregnancy For Trans Men” by Chloé from TheMidwifeIsIn.tumblr.com. A light blue theme, with feather and dandelion tufts is used.

Slide 2: text reads: “Trans men are people who were designated female at birth, but identify as male regardless of their genitalia.”

Slide 3. Title: “How do trans men transition?” Underneath: “Many trans men will transition genders just by changing the way they dress, use pronouns, and interact with others. Some trans men will transition using testosterone, a hormone, to help change their physical appearance. Others have surgery to remove their breasts, ovaries, and uterus.”

Addition: “Some will have surgery to add a penis and testicles and close their vagina.”

Slide 4. Title: “Does using testosterone (T) prevent pregnancy?” Underneath: “Most people who use T to transition from female to male will no longer be fertile after they have used T for long enough that they stop having a period. It is assumed that this permanently affects the stored eggs making pregnancy difficult even if T were stopped.” Bold addition: “However people CAN become pregnant even while using T if they have unprotected penis-in-vagina sex therefore if you are not trying to become pregnant, use protection.”

Slide 5: Title: “ How trans man can become pregnant:” underneath as a bulleted list: “First, trans men should consult their endocrinologist, or the provider who is prescribing them T.

Next, they should stop taking T.

By the time their menstrual cycles return, they should be ready to begin trying to conceive.

If their partner does not produce sperm, they will need to find a sperm donor, and a provider to administer intra-vaginal or intra-uterine insemination.”

Slide 6. Title: “ If I stop taking T will I go back to looking like a woman?” Underneath: “ Nope. When testosterone is used for trans men to transition, it affects their biology in very specific ways. For example, T will deepen the trans man’s voice through thickening the vocal chords. This is not reversible. T will also encourage the growth of hair follicles in the face, causing facial hair, and this is also not reversible. Even if you stop taking T, these things will stay the same.

The change in body composition (where fat is distributed to) is reversible. This may change after you stop taking T. Acne caused by T will dissipate. Libido may decrease in breast size may increase.”

Slide 7. Title: “ What about breast-feeding?” Underneath: “ Afterbirth, trans men can breastfeed without worry. If they have had top surgery ( the removal of breasts), it may be difficult to produce enough milk to feed the baby. In that situation, herbs and medications can be used to increase milk production, and an at-breast supplementor can provide enough milk for the baby while supporting and encouraging the breast-feeding relationship. [In italics] Continuing to use T during this time period is not suggested, as it may interfere with the supply and be transmitted through the milk to the baby.[end italics]” [A drawn image of a breast milk supplementor is shown. A string holds an upside down bottle like a necklace around the parent’s neck. From the mouth of the bottle, a tube runs and is taped with its end on the parent’s nipple. The baby is sucking on the nipple, and the tube.]

Slide 8. Title: “What is it like to be a pregnant man?” Underneath: “ I don’t know. I’ve never carried to term, and I’m a cis woman, so I cannot begin to understand what it is like for men to become pregnant. However, there are resources online. My favorite blog is:

www.milkjunkies.net

the blog of a trans man who gave birth to his son and has been breast-feeding him ever since.”

Slide 9. Title: “Will my provider respect my decision?” Underneath: “All healthcare providers are different in the way they interact with their patients and understand their patients life histories. If you don’t have a provider you trust, try interviewing a few different ones as you start this process. Here are a few questions you can ask: [as a bulleted list] ” have you had a transgender patient before?

Do you understand what transgender means?

How would you support me if I had a complication and needed to go to the hospital?

What are your C-section, epidural, epistotomy, and successful breast-feeding rates?

Have you worked with the a doula before?

I would not like to have unnecessary vaginal exams how will you help me achieve that goal?

How will you explain my situation to your staff members? Can I expect to be called by a preferred name and pronouns when I enter your clinic?“

Slide 10. Title: ” Resources “ Underneath: ” [as a bulleted list] www.milkjunkies.net

www.LGBTQparentingconnection.ca

www.facebook.com/groups/transgengerparents/

www.bfar.org/index.shtml

www.facebook.com/groups/449750635045499/

midwifethinking.com"

[Addition in bold] “Have more questions? Visit: themidwifeisin.Tumblr.com”

[END IMAGE DESCRIPTION]

If you’d like to help TTSG write image descriptions to make trans content on Tumblr more accessible, please see this post!

Kii says:

Previously called the “female condom,” the internal condom finally has a new name thanks to a reclassification by the FDA! This new name tells us what we already knew — anyone, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation, can use the internal condom. Here’s a step-by-step on how to use it. 

[ID: A series of infographics in blue and white.

First image: A line drawing of an internal condom, with the text “What You Need To Know About Internal Condoms”

Second image: Text “What is it? The internal condom is a small plastic pouch that anyone can use, regardless of gender identity or sexual orientation, inside the vagina or anus to help prevent pregnancy and/or STDs.”

Third image: Image of ring being removed from internal condom. Text “How do you use it? For anal sex, remove the inner ring and insert the condom into your anus with your finger, leaving the outer ring hanging out.”

Fourth image: Diagram of a person with a vagina inserting the internal condom. Text: “How do you use it? Squeeze together the ring at the closed end of the condom and slide it into your body like a tampon. Let the outer ring hang about an inch outside the body.”

Fifth image: Text: “How do you get it? Internal condoms can be found at: FC2 Female Condom website, many Planned Parenthood health centers, family planning and health clinics, by prescription in drugstores.” 

End ID.]

If you’d like to help TTSG write image descriptions to make trans content on Tumblr more accessible, please see this post!

Fun facts for non trans women about tucking and why you shouldn’t demand it from us

This guide is for cis people and trans men and nonbinary people who don’t need to tuck

I haven’t done it so far, no one’s pointed it out, except Tumblr users who will “,just check in to see if I’m tuckin okay? I just wanna help you pass!”