Transgender Teen Survival Guide

Lee says:

This can seem counterintuitive, but sometimes if you have a very specific experience, a more general label is the best way to describe it because it’s an umbrella that you’re included under.

You can use whatever term you feel fit you best, whether it’s a microlabel or a more general umbrella. If there’s a particular label that feels comfortable and right for you, it’s okay to use that word- you don’t necessarily need a label that describes all the intricacies of your gender identity if you’re okay with providing that further explanation as needed.

That’s why I call myself queer instead of a more specific sexual orientation label- it’s vague enough to describe my identity (non-binary person attracted to other nb people and women as well), and well-known enough that I don’t feel like I have to then do a little lesson plan 101 each time I mention my label. I use genderqueer and non-binary to describe my gender identity for similar reasons.

So if you’re not comfortable using maleflux because sometimes you go into the female side, simply using genderflux might be the solution you’re looking for.

Genderflux means your gender moves between genderlessness and genderedness, and it doesn’t specify what that gendered part is so it could be male, like it is for you most of the time, or it could be (on occasion) female.

I also have heard of some people using the term fluidflux. Fluidflux is combination of genderfluid and genderflux, where your gender moves between two or more genders and also fluctuates in intensity. 

Followers, any other label ideas for anon?

Followers say:

mymainis-soft-enbee said: Maybe bigenderflux? The two Genders being male and female, acording to anon’s ask

Lee says:

This can seem counterintuitive, but sometimes if you have a very specific experience, a more general label is the best way to describe it because it’s an umbrella that you’re included under.

So if you’re between agenderflux and bigenderflux, instead of zooming in to a tinier label between the two, you can zoom out and call yourself genderflux.

That’s why I call myself queer instead of a more specific sexual orientation label- it’s vague enough to describe my identity (non-binary person attracted to other nb people and women as well), and well-known enough that I don’t feel like I have to then do a little lesson plan 101 each time I mention my label. I use genderqueer and non-binary to describe my gender identity for similar reasons.

So simply using genderflux might be the solution you’re looking for.

But honestly, you can use whatever terms you feel fit you best! If you want to call yourself abigenderflux that’s fine- microlabels are valid and if there isn’t a popularly used term that describes your exact gender experience, it’s okay to use a lesser-known label or coin a term yourself.

Followers, any label ideas for anon?

Lee says:

If you’re genderflux, then you also count as non-binary if you choose to identify that way. Here’s an image of the trans umbrella to help explain that concept! And you can’t appropriate being non-binary when you yourself fall under the non-binary umbrella, so you don’t have to worry.

Besides, using they/them pronouns isn’t restricted only to people who are currently identifying as non-binary! Pronouns are not the same thing as gender identity, which means anybody of any gender can use any pronouns.

So if you want to use they/them pronouns even if you identify as partially or fully female at the moment, that’s totally valid.

Lee says:

Yes, genderfluid and genderflux people fall under the non-binary umbrella!

Lee says:

Maybe you’re genderflux between male and agender?

From our NB Flowchart:  “Genderflux: This identity is a fluid one, going between genderlessness and genderedness. That means they have a gender which changes in intensity, which could be considered as being fluid between gendered (any binary or non-binary gender) and agender. What that gendered part is, only you can tell, but for now, if you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info, and the blog @askagenderfluidandgenderflux.

Other possible labels that come to mind include genderfluid, demiboy, and bigender.

Our What am I? post has more info on questioning your gender and finding the right label, so check that post out!

Followers, any suggestions for anon?

Lee says:

Yes, we have lots of posts- you can check our #genderflux tag for posts about fluctuating between a gendered identity (male) and agender, and our genderfluid and agender tags too!

Lee says:

Non-binary means identifying as a gender that isn’t fully male or fully female. Non-binary is an umbrella term that includes a lot of other genders- Here’s a little graphic I made to explain. Non-binary people may be a binary gender sometimes, like if they’re genderfluid and identify as male sometimes and female at other times, but since they aren’t the same binary gender 100% of the time, they’re still non-binary. Some people identify as non-binary and another gender under the non-binary label, and other people use only the label non-binary as their identity.

Genderfluid people switch between two or more genders, and shifts in gender can happen at any time, sometimes within days, sometimes over months, sometimes over years, or any amount of time. Some genderfluid folks identify between the binary genders, but others can go from female to neutrois, or agender to bigender, or anywhere that they feel they fit at that point in time. Sometimes they even go between more than two genders. These genders can happen at the same time, or apart.

Genderflux people switch between genderlessness and genderedness. That means they have a gender which changes in intensity, which could be considered as being fluid between gendered (any binary or non-binary gender) and agender. Genderflux is sometimes considered to fall under the genderfluid umbrella.

Non-binary is an umbrella term that includes genderfluid and genderflux people, so most genderfluid or genderflux people also identify as non-binary- but not all non-binary people are genderfluid or genderflux, they could be genderqueer, or bigender, or agender, or any other identity that falls under the nb umbrella. It’s like the squares and rectangles thing, all squares are rectangles, but not all rectangles are squares.

More info: NB Flowchart and Ally resources

Followers say:

queerbert said: @askagenderfluidandgenderflux is also a great resource!

Kii says:

Here’s a post about the differences!

Lee says:

Maybe genderflux?

genders / more genders / neurogenders 

Kai says:

yes, that’s valid!

Kai says:

Yes, that is still genderflux.

Lee says:

Genderflux or girlflux?

Devon says:

I’ve heard people say that they’re “girlflux” before! I’d say: go by whatever label makes the most sense to you personally. Take into account how much you want to explain your gender/labels to people that you choose to come out to.

Lee says:Genderfluid maybe? Some genderfluid folks identify between the binary genders, but others can go from female to neutrois, or agender to bigender, or anywhere that they feel they fit at that point in time. Sometimes they even go between more than two genders. These genders can happen at the same time, or apart.

Or genderflux? This identity is a fluid one, going between genderlessness and genderedness. That means having a gender which changes in intensity, which could be considered as being fluid between gendered and agender.

https://transgenderteensurvivalguide.tumblr.com/post/59381012320/what-am-i

Followers, any label suggestions for anon?

Lee says:

If you’re genderflux, then you’re already trans! Trans is an umbrella term that covers a wide range of identities; anyone who doesn’t identify with the gender assigned to them at birth 100% of the time can identify as trans.

Our What am I? link has more information on figuring out your identity. I can’t answer how you know that you’re trans; you just kinda do. You’re on the right path to figuring out who you are if you are exploring your presentation with clothing and binding, and you should just take your time and give yourself a chance to continue exploring!

You may be interested in seeing them discuss bottom surgery, but if you don’t want a phallus all the time, you should look into packing! Our Packers and STPs post has more links on that.

You can be non-binary and still want to medically transition (although there is no such thing as a “male body” because guys can have a variety of bods). I’m  genderqueer, and I’m on T and I’m getting top surgery, and bottom surgery is something I’m considering for the far future. But I’m not a male or a boy, I’m non-binary, and I’d like if people recognized that and didn’t see me as male- Although I’d choose for people to see me as male over female, I’d rather they not pick either!

You don’t need to know what to think yet, just keep on doing what makes you comfortable and looking into the different identities in the trans community, and one day it’ll all click for you and you’ll find a label that you’re comfortable with.

Lee says:

Genderfluid can be any gender! Genderflux refers to going from agender to a different gender, which could also describe what you’re talking about. But you might want to look for an alternative to Pangender [x] like multigender, maxigender, or polygender.

You might be GENDERFLUX (also known as GENDERFLEX)! This identity is a fluid one, going between genderlessness and genderedness. What that gendered part is, only you can tell, but for now, if you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info!

You might be GENDERFLUID! Some genderfluid folks identify between the binary genders, but others can go from female to neutrois, or agender to male, or anywhere that they feel they fit at that point in time. Sometimes they even go between more than two genders. These genders can happen at the same time, or apart. Shifts in gender can happen at any time, sometimes within days, sometimes within minutes, sometimes within years - although some people have noticed correlations between their hormonal cycles and shifting genders. If you think this describes you, check out these resources for more info (or talk to mod Ren, who IDs as genderfluid)! (Close but not quite? Check out #17.)

Lee says:

You are not faking! Your gender is valid, and you are trans. I get so angry at people who gatekeep other trans folks, and I’m sorry if anyone ever made you doubt yourself. 

I know it can be hard to dismiss those intrusive thoughts about faking your identity, but you can try to re-affirm yourself whenever you feel them in your mind and say “I am trans enough” and let the thoughts pass through.