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Anonymous asked:

When I think about what I'd like to look like, I keep imagining myself as a really feminine boy who wears dresses and skirts and such (I'm AFAB). Is there like... a word for that? It's made gender identity stuff really confusing, because I want to look more "masculine" but not necessarily like a man...

Lee says:

I think the word is just “boy”? If you identify as a trans boy, then that’s what you are. If you feel like you’re not a binary trans guy then maybe the label transmasculine or nonbinary boy might fit, but you can be a boy and also want to be feminine- the two don’t cancel out. If you’re looking for other labels, check the links in the What am I? post!

Gender expression ≠ gender identity, as shown on the genderbread person, and guys can wear whatever clothes they want to and they’re still guys. So it’s defs possible to be a feminine trans guy and wear dresses and skirts and such if that’s what makes you feel the most comfortable.

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Anonymous asked:

I'm a transboy but I still like to wear dresses and put on makeup sometimes and it's been confusing a lot of my friends, how do I explain to them that gender identity isn't the same as gender expression?

Lee says:

You can tell them that boys can wear dresses and it doesn’t mean they aren’t boys, and explain why you identify as trans and how that isn’t canceled out by your clothing.

You show them the genderbread diagram or something similar if they’re visual learners. I’ve seen one article on it: Separating Out Gender Identity from Gender Expression

Followers, how have you explained the difference in your gender identity vs your gender expression?

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Anonymous asked:

I'm a trans guy, but I don't know what to do because I still own a LOT of jewelry and makeup and nail polish and women's clothing (like crop tops, a lot of my deceased mother's shirts, leggings, pretty much all of my jeans, a couple of dresses I really love) and I don't know what to do because I still love a lot of these things, but it's been a struggle to get my family to accept me as a guy in general, and I don't want to ever be called a woman again, but I still want to wear these sometimes.

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Anonymous asked:

I'm a trans guy but I still love being feminine. I don't like my face with makeup anymore (pre-everything) but I still love the cutesy fashion that I see lots of girls wearing. I want to pass as male but also look softer and be able to wear pastel colours and more of a 'kawaii' look. I'm not sure how to explain it but I would just like some advice on passing as male but not being too masc! Thanks!

Lee says:

Just a heads up, I don’t know if you’re Japanese or not but I have some concern about cultural appropriation when you talk about a ‘kawaii’ look so I’m not saying you shouldn’t do/say it but it’s something you should consciously consider.

We have a Passing as male link which might help. Dressing in a feminine/less masculine way when you’re pre-everything can make it harder to pass. The unfortunate truth is you may have to choose between your #aesthetic and passing until you’ve been on T for a while.

Followers, if anyone has any advice for anon on passing as male when pre-everything but simultaneously not being too masc please comment!

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Anonymous asked:

Sorry if this is a weird thing to send in. I'm just not sure who else to ask. I'm afab and I've been questioning since I was 15 (I'm 17 now) and now I'm pretty sure I'm either masc nb, or a trans boy? But I really like makeup, jewellery, etc., and I feel like if I like those things then I'm just faking being trans... So I guess I just wanted to ask someone who would know, are there trans guys out there that wear makeup at all? am I still trans if I like these things...?

Kii says:

Yes, trans guys can have any interests and still be trans.

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Anonymous asked:

I'm afab and currently identifying as genderfluid (male/agender) and I used to shy away from traditionally feminine clothing. Now a days, I've taken a liking to clothing such as skirts, dresses, and pink frilly things. I like these things because they are feminine but I absolutely do not like being mistaken for a woman and I have no idea how to deal with this in public. Even on my agender times I hate this. Are there tips on wearing/presenting feminine while still wanting to be called he/they?

Kii says:

I would recommend @cutefeminineboys or @transboyfemmes because they specialize in this type of advice and inspiration pictures!

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Anonymous asked:

I id mostly as nonbinary, but internally I see myself more as a boy who presents feminine... I want others to view me more as a boy than a girl but I still love dresses and makeup and stuff. Is there any way to do that? Also is there a word for that type of identity?

Kii says:

The word for a boy who wears dresses is just a boy. Presenting outside of stereotypical boundaries for a gender doesn’t change your gender. Girls who have beards and wear suits are still girls, and boys who wear makeup and dresses are still boys. If you’re looking for fashion advice, maybe you could take some inspiration from @cutefeminineboys (there are some other blogs too, but I forgot them)

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Anonymous asked:

I hope you can help I'm questioning my gender...I'm afab but I feel more male, and often experience dysphoria towards my body. However I feel most comfortable when I'm wearing make up, heels and typically "female" stuff, "boyish" stuff doesn't appeal to me. I wondered if there was a term for this? Thank you

Kii says:

If you feel like a male and present femininely, then that doesn’t make you less of a male. Your gender does not depend on how you present yourself.

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Anonymous asked:

What's the difference between being a fem transboy and a nonbinary transboy?

Kii says:

So, if you’re not talking about yourself, the correct term is trans boy, not transboy.

Feminine boys are just boys who present femininely, but still identify completely as male. The term nonbinary boy relates to one’s gender identity, not how they like to present. So, someone could be both a nonbinary boy and a feminine boy.

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Anonymous asked:

Im a female to male trans boy and i like to wear makeup whenever i go out. Does that make me always in drag?

Kii says:

No. It just means you’re a boy in makeup. Boys who wear makeup aren’t necessarily crossdressing or in drag.

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Anonymous asked:

Do you have any tips on how to pass better as male while still doing things like wearing makeup and dresses? (without hormones or surgery)

Kii says:

Other than the usual binding, haircuts, etc. I’ve never really heard of anyone doing this sucessfully. But, followers, if you have any idea how to do this, I and this anon both would love to know how.

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Anonymous asked:

I've been thinking, what if I'm not bigender/trans in general? What if I'm just really feminine? My mom's convinced I'm really just dominantly feminine and it's nout to do with gender, she's really wise and I kind of agree with her. (Ask Part 1)

I've noticed as much as I understand the concept of gender, I just have really feminine traits - wearing light makeup, wearing androgynous clothing, walking feminine, shaving body hair etc Would she be right and I'm really just an ally? (Ask Part 2)

Kii says:

We can’t tell you whether you’re trans or not. Feminine boys definitely do exist, but if you don’t feel like a boy, then you probably aren’t one. However, you’re the one that needs to figure out how you feel, preferably without the influence of others: Do you feel like something other than a boy? Or are you just agreeing with your mom because she’s usually right or you see her as wise?

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Anonymous asked:

I'm sorry that this was probably already asked, but I id as genderfluid, and now I'm not sure if it's just the fluxuation of being gender fluid, but I'm starting to think that I'm actually more comfortable as a man, even if I'm still partly feminine, are there any strings of advise or identities? I'm sorry if this has already been asked, and thank you for your time.

Kii says:

Men can be feminine! You could also look into the labels of demiboy, nonbinary boy, and boy-proximal.

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Anonymous asked:

Can I be a boy without feeling masculine at all? I just feel like I am, even though I want to present more femininely sometimes. And I know presentation doesnt equal gender but for me it feels like dressing fem. IS part of my gender? And I dont think Im nonbinary, just a boy. Maybe.

Kii says:

You are entirely right that presentation doesn’t equal gender, so you can definitely a feminine-presenting boy.

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