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Submit your comment here TODAY! Comments must be submitted by the end of tomorrow, August 13th.

The Trump-Pence Administration is trying to undermine the Health Care Rights Law, a lifesaving law that helps transgender people access the health care they need without discrimination from health care providers or insurers. Now, the Department of Health and Human Services is proposing a regulation that falsely says discrimination against transgender people is legal.

Regulations don’t change the law, but they are meant to help people understand the law and follow it. Regulations (sometimes called “rules”) explain how the government interprets the law. Without clear and accurate regulations, businesses or officials may misunderstand the law or simply refuse to follow it.

While they can’t change the law, this new regulation would confuse patients, providers, and insurers, and make it much harder for many transgender people to access life-saving care.

In order to adopt or change a regulation, the government is required by a federal law to first get feedback from the public on what they think about the proposed change, by asking people to submit public comments.

The federal government must summarize and consider public comments before implementing a new rule. A large number of comments forces the government to study the issue closely and explain itself—and it’s the best way to show widespread public opposition. This can lead to a proposed regulation being slowed down, changed, or even abandoned.

Submitting comments is a way to make your voice heard directly by the people writing regulations that could have a big impact on your life. Tell the Trump Administration to treat us fairly and Protect Trans Health!

Tips:

1. Briefly introduce yourself (‘My name is ______ and I am against this proposed rule”)

2. State why you oppose the new rule (e.g. “I am against this proposed rule because it will make it harder for transgender people to obtain life-saving care”) and why it is important to you that transgender people can access health care without discrimination.

3. Share a time you or a loved one faced discrimination from a provider or insurer. Your story matters!

Today is the last day!!

This is really important so please take a moment to respond and submit a comment. Stand up for trans rights!

Submit your comment here TODAY! Comments must be submitted by the end of tomorrow, August 13th.

The Trump-Pence Administration is trying to undermine the Health Care Rights Law, a lifesaving law that helps transgender people access the health care they need without discrimination from health care providers or insurers. Now, the Department of Health and Human Services is proposing a regulation that falsely says discrimination against transgender people is legal.

Regulations don’t change the law, but they are meant to help people understand the law and follow it. Regulations (sometimes called “rules”) explain how the government interprets the law. Without clear and accurate regulations, businesses or officials may misunderstand the law or simply refuse to follow it.

While they can’t change the law, this new regulation would confuse patients, providers, and insurers, and make it much harder for many transgender people to access life-saving care.

In order to adopt or change a regulation, the government is required by a federal law to first get feedback from the public on what they think about the proposed change, by asking people to submit public comments.

The federal government must summarize and consider public comments before implementing a new rule. A large number of comments forces the government to study the issue closely and explain itself—and it’s the best way to show widespread public opposition. This can lead to a proposed regulation being slowed down, changed, or even abandoned.

Submitting comments is a way to make your voice heard directly by the people writing regulations that could have a big impact on your life. Tell the Trump Administration to treat us fairly and Protect Trans Health!

Tips:

1. Briefly introduce yourself (‘My name is ______ and I am against this proposed rule”)

2. State why you oppose the new rule (e.g. “I am against this proposed rule because it will make it harder for transgender people to obtain life-saving care”) and why it is important to you that transgender people can access health care without discrimination.

3. Share a time you or a loved one faced discrimination from a provider or insurer. Your story matters!

Today is the last day!!

This is really important so please take a moment to respond and submit a comment. Stand up for trans rights!

Just an FYI for those in the US with insurance issues

Important information! Insurance coverage decisions are made by medically ignorant bean-counters. Until we can dismantle the whole shitty system, know how to scare them into submission.

This is like that procedure Mr. Incredible told that old lady

[ID:

Screenshot of black plain text on a white background that reads the following:

“MEDICAL HACK:

So your doctor ordered a test or treatment and your insurance company denied it. That is a typical cost saving method.

OK, here is what you do:

End ID.]

Kii says:

Correction to original post: The US Office of Civil Rights can be reached at HHS.gov, not OCR.gov, at least as of May 2019. Here is their contact page with their national office info as well as their regional office info.

Love Pokémon? Need more LGBT+ friends?

When why not combine the two?   I made a Pokémon discord server months ago because of the release of Pokémon Sun and Moon!! It’s for people to trade, share theories, watch the anime/movie and do much much more! We’re like a big LGBT+ family. However we will only be looking at applications to join this server until August 18th. We only have one person who looks at applications and they will be starting college soon! Less time to look at applications. Last chance to join the server until they take a break from school!

Requirements: -Must be part of the LGBT+ community -Older than 16 (We do have younger members but we are no longer accepting anyone younger that 16) -Not be a terf/swerf/”gender critical” person or a general bigot

We have more rules here!

PLEASE HAVE YOUR MESSAGING OPEN TO PEOPLE WHO DON’T FOLLOW YOU I NEED TO CONTACT YOU SOMEHOW!

Fill out this form if you want to join an LGBTQ+ pokemon discord server! Wait! I want to know more about the server! Okay! Check out our blog links!: FAQ ; Answered Asks ; Testimonies Not sold yet? Check below the cut for additional features! 

Keep reading

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It feels necessary for me to mention that The American Psychiatric Association has openly stated that you do not need to suffer from dysphoria to be transgender and also acknowledges the existence of non binary genders.

Here is the link. Here’s a quote defining transgender:

“Transgender is a non-medical term that has been used increasingly since the 1990s as an umbrella term describing individuals whose gender identity (inner sense of gender) or gender expression (outward performance of gender) differs from the sex or gender to which they were assigned at birth. Some people who use this term do not consider themselves as matching a binary gender category. In addition, new terms such as genderqueer, bigendered, and agendered are increasingly in use.”

Here’s the followup:

“Not all transgender people suffer from gender dysphoria and that distinction is important to keep in mind. Gender dysphoria and/or coming out as transgender can occur at any age.”

Here’s more about gender dysphoria.

Also, in early 2017 in Denmark it is no longer possible to “diagnose” someone with being transgender. Of course this doesn’t include dysphoria, just the act of being trans.

Gender Dysphoria is in the DSM-V, but being transgender is not. More on the changing of the terminology for the purpose of removing stigma.

Oh, and the American Psychological Association had something interesting to say, too: 

“Is being transgender a mental disorder?

A psychological state is considered a mental disorder only if it causes significant distress or disability. Many transgender people do not experience their gender as distressing or disabling, which implies that identifying as transgender does not constitute a mental disorder.”

Conclusion: if the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric association, the DSM-V, and Denmark’s laws all agree that being trans isn’t a mental disorder, I’d be happy to sit on that fence.

This took me literally 10 minutes of googling.

I’m gonna keep adding resources to support trans people! Trigger warning for suicide up ahead, just fyi.

Here’s a Harvard study about the neurological divergence between genders.

Key quotes:

The essay conclusion:

Summary: gender isn’t binary and being transgender isn’t a mental illness.

The World Health Organization no longer considers being transgender a mental illness.

oh, and to shut the REGs up:

IE: proof that you can declassify being transgender as a mental illness but rather recategorize it to reduce the spread of stigma while also allowing trans people to have care

Some truscum/reg type tried to tell me that “trans people are obviously mentally ill because of the high suicide rate!”

YES, the high suicide rates stems from oppression, NOT because trans people are mentally fucked up inherently, because the suicide rate for INUIT TEENAGERS in Canada is THE WORST IN THE ENTIRE WORLD! It’s one of the leading causes of death among Aboriginal peoples in Canada.

Article quotes: 

and

Here’s an interesting article about trans suicide rate (and also how race plays into it) and gives us percentages.

My point is that trans people aren’t inherently fucked up and don’t suffer from mental illnesses because they’re trans, they suffer from mental illnesses because they are an at-risk group like any other minority.

Truscum do not interact, these aren’t up for debate, these are articles. If you want me to add more to this list, hmu!

For all the truscum/transmeds coming to my blog, please read this!

Hey the first source included people who like to cross dress as trans which they are not so uh what

Hey! Which source are you talking about? The first one was the Expert Q and A, and this is what it had to say about crossdressing:

Unless it was one of the other sources? I’m not super keen on the phrase “transvestitism” since it’s a bit dated, but it acknowledges that it’s a separate thing from being transgender.

Also the American Psychological Association link makes a point to say: 

The way that it’d defined here explains the difference between gender nonconforming peoples and transgender, but some of the people use “transgender” as an umbrella term for any/all gender nonconforming identities, which isn’t exactly here-nor-there at best, inaccurate at worst.

Does that help at all? If not, tell me which source it was and I can fix it! :D

Wow!!! Over 1000 notes now! Heck, while we’re at it, let’s talk a little bit more about being nonbinary!

As many of you know, binary genders are a western construct. Here is a SUPER COOL INTERACTIVE EXPLORATION TOOL provided by the PBS (Public Broadcasting Service) that tells us about nonbinary cultures around the world! It’s an interactive map where you can click on pins and it’ll tell you information about the genders of the culture! It’s not super in depth, but it’s a great survey!

Website quote:

So basically, it’s not that “other cultures have nonbinary genders”, but more like “other cultures don’t have a gender binary to begin with! Gender is a construct and is constantly evolving.

A real anthropologist will never shit on you for making up a name for your gender. It doesn’t matter if “it’s silly”, you’re subverting the western tradition of the binary and that’s super rad!

Here’s the wikipedia page for genders around the world! Now, I don’t have to tell you that wikipedia can be edited by anyone really easily (how do I know? Me and three classmates made a page about a local artist. It took us 3 hours), so not all of the information is going to be accurate, but think of it as another good starting point before hitting the books!

And of course, Teen Vogue has been totally on it lately so here’s an article about genders around the world!

Here are some key quotes:

And yes, those links in the first paragraph are clickable!

Summary of Vogue: trans people are NOT a contemporary phenomenon, but a historical one. They exist in cultures across the world and in our own culture dating back centuries and millennia.

I highly recommend taking a peek at the article, since there are TONS of links in there that you can take a look more trans history. JUST AS A WARNING: they are mostly articles written by blogs/newspapers/etc and therefore have singular author bias and I haven’t gotten my way through many of them yet to tell you which ones are good and which ones are bad, but it’s a great place to start digging for trans history! If you find anything really cool, please feel free to add it!

!!!

-Fy

Free trans voice resources

Let’s be honest: voice dysphoria sucks. I’ve heard so many trans folks say that they hate their voice; that their voice is the one thing that disrupts their gender presentation; that they’ve developed secondary, avoidance behaviors to avoid speaking at whatever cost. Some trans folks stop offering their opinions at their workplace or amongst their friends. This loss of trans voices due to societal discrimination and internal dysphoria is a tragedy, and rebuilding one’s relationship with their voice may seem next to impossible. Those who have the means can seek the assistance of a speech-language pathologist; however, these services can be expensive, and not everyone is fortunate enough to have enough disposable income to seek skilled intervention.

Those who cannot (or simply don’t to) seek a speech-language pathologist’s help often attempt to alter their voice independently. Working on your voice without a speech therapist can be tough, but is absolutely not impossible! Many people have been successful at experimenting with their voice independently and finding a vocal presentation which works for them. As long as one approaches the experimentation from a vocally hygienic perspective, and doesn’t stress their voice too much while playing with presentation, one may very well be able to find a voice that causes them less distress independently. That said, if you frequently attempt to play with your voice, and find yourself frequently exhausted, out of breath, sore, hoarse, or tense, you are highly encouraged to stop experimenting with your voice independently and seek a speech-language pathologist’s assistance in experimenting with your voice.

With that disclaimer out of the way, let’s get to the resources! Though my business’ tumblr, Facebook, and Twitter, I publish a couple articles a month with free trans vocal training information for anyone looking to experiment on their own! If curious, please take a look at some of the subjects I’ve written about thus far:

Relax, Take a Breath: The Basics of Respiration

Trans 101: An Introduction

Gender and Voice Dysphoria

What’s the Buzz? An Introduction to Pitch

Telepractice: Long-Distance Speech Services

I hope that these resources, along with ones I’ll publish in the future, are useful to the trans community. Finding one’s voice is an exhilarating, exhausting, and ultimately, very rewarding process for many. Be brave, be patient, be safe, and happy exploring!

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Sleep Hygiene Protocol

To increase the likelihood of restfulness/sleep:

If you are calm but wide awake:

If you are anxious or ruminating:

If nothing else works, with eyes closed, listen to public radio at a low volume (use headphones if necessary). Public radio is a good choice for this because there is little fluctuation in voice tone or volume.

Calling all trans people of color!

Do you create content in some way? Submit us a link and we’ll add it to this page!

There isn’t enough representation of TPOC in the media, so we’ll make our own.

What is packing? 

Packing is when an assigned female at birth person without a biological penis wears something in their pants in order to mimic the appearance or function of having a penis. Usually, trans-masculine people pack but anyone is allowed to and able to if they are interested in doing so (despite the language in the links which is geared towards trans guys). Some AFAB people just aren’t interested in any of this; that’s totally ok and vald. 

To be quite honest, packing usually doesn’t make or break passing, if passing is something you care about. You don’t have to pack to pass as a guy in most circumstances! In general, if you aren’t swimming in a speedo, peeing at a urinal, changing in front of others, or getting groped/felt up, people won’t notice if you don’t have a penis. Packing doesn’t help everyone’s dysphoria either; some people find that it can make them feel worse, because they’re more aware of the part that they’re “missing”. 

What do I want?

(Read the links! They go way more in depth than this post.)

Before rushing into a purchase, it’s important to consider what you’re looking for. You may be able to make a basic packer or STP yourself. That can save you money, and help you decide if you want to purchase a product.

Single-function items that are either just for packing, just for peeing, or just for sex are often less expensive than multiple function ones. If only one aspect bothers you, like if you only want to be able to pee standing up, then looking at only STP devices would be a good place to start, for example. 

If you’re looking for something that can be used to pack and have sex with, or pack and pee with, or pack, pee, and have sex with, the price starts to rise (if you aren’t making something yourself and you’re buying something).

Choosing the size of your packer

I’m making this a whole section because I have very strong feelings on this issue. Let’s say you’ve decided you’re going to buy a soft packer. You’re looking at the different models online. You’ve chosen one, and now you need to pick a size. 

If you are packing without the intention of having sex with your packer, you want it to look like a flaccid penis, not an erection. There’s a lot of pressure to have a big ol’ dick, but I want you to know that it is not what most cis men with penises have in their pants. Yes, 3.5 inches is the average flaccid penis size- this means that about half of all men have a flaccid penis that’s a bit bigger, and half have a flaccid penis that’s a bit smaller. Everyone’s got a different penis, and it’s okay if you’re bigger or smaller than average, but I think it’s extremely important to be aware of what the average is so you are making a conscientious choice to go bigger or smaller. Penises get larger when they’re erect, so if you’re getting a dildo or a hard packer, you should consider if you want to go larger or not, but if you’re just soft packing, I want you to take a moment and think about it; I know your instinct is to go for a medium or large sized packer, but the labeling is deceiving. What packer companies label as “small” is usually the average size flaccid penis; “medium” is usually bigger than average. It’s harder to pack with a larger packer than it is with a smaller packer, larger packers are often more expensive than smaller ones, and large packers are often not realistically flaccid lengths and look like hard-ons. 

I’m not saying that no cis men have large flaccid penises; that isn’t true. I am saying that the media makes it seem like men on average have larger penises than they do. Men in porn usually have larger than average size penises, and they’re usually erect, which means they’re sometimes double the length of the flaccid penis. Because society makes having a larger penis seem enviable, men sometimes overstate the size of their penis if you ask them because they’re worried that their penis is small. Small penis jokes made to emasculate men continue to perpetrate the myth of the Ubiquitous Large Dick because nobody wants to admit that their penis is small. Let’s have some radical body acceptance up in here and say that it’s okay to have whatever size penis or packer you have, and it doesn’t make you unmanly to have a small one, or extra-masculine to have a large one. 

I want you to look at a ruler. Stop reading this post, get up, get a ruler, and come back. Okay? Now measure out the length of the average flaccid penis. Three and a half inches. Look at it. Now look at the length of the packer you were considering buying. How different is it? This is an activity to make you more mindful of what size is average. Pay attention to the the junk of the guys you see in the street and who you interact with on the daily. Chances are you can hardly notice a dick print, especially if you’re at work or at school. Even the Nude standing men gallery on Wikipedia is somewhere to start. 

Below is a paragraph from Hudson’s FTM guide saying the same thing:

I’m trying to save you from falling into the trap of buying a big dick for the hell of buying a big dick without considering it. Packer companies will try to lure you into buying a bigger packer because they make more money that way. It’s just a body part, y’all, let’s not get too caught up in the hype. Don’t buy into toxic masculinity! There’s nothing wrong with having a small penis. There’s nothing wrong with having an average penis. 

The below graph shows the frequency of certain size penises in centimeters. (X)

Alright, I think you get the point. Flaccid penises aren’t as big as you might think they are. Now, I’m going to admit something: I have multiple packers, and they range in size from 4″ to 7.5″. Yeah, 7.5″ is big. It’s almost unrealistically big. I am not telling you that you can’t buy a big packer if you want a big packer; I have a large packer myself. Yes, getting a smaller packer is usually better to start out with if you’re new to packing. But if you’re experienced with packing or if you just really want a big packer, go ahead and get one! You may not be striving for realism and that’s 100% okay. And even though 3.5″ is the average flaccid penis size, there are people with larger penises! Penis size doesn’t correlate to your height, race, foot size, as some myths suggest. A smaller person could have a larger penis and a tall person could have a smaller one, the two variables aren’t dependant!The point of this paragraph is just to make sure that you’re making a conscious decision if you choose to get a packer that’s larger than usual knowing that it may be a bit unwieldy, not to police your packer buying. Some people have larger packers and they can pack easily with them and love them, and that’s a-okay. 

Spend time researching packers!

Look through different websites to see the packers available for purchase. Read reviews of the packers on forums and on Tumblr. Watch YouTube reviews of packers. Contact people about their packers and ask them questions if they’re open to it! This post is just a very cursory and topical overview of packers, it’s not all there is to know. There is so much out there on different blogs! Trawl the net, ask Dark Google what the best dick is (that’s a joke, but yeah, google ftm packers and stp packers and pack and play packers or whatever you want!) Make sure you know how much money you’re willing to spend buying a packer. Start to save up money if you’re broke.

Sidenote: Genitals can be a shade or two darker than the rest of your skin, so you might want to choose a packer one tone darker than your thigh. However, I urge you to be cautious with this- you don’t want a packer that’s way too dark for you! If you’re white, you shouldn’t be getting a black penis, that’s Too Far.

Make sure you read multiple reviews before you buy a packer, because some companies are scams or just shitty. Three companies to avoid are below:

Packers and STPs

Links:

How Do I Actually Buy One?

Method one: You have a credit/debit card.

1. Pick a packer 

2. Buy the packer. Clear your internet history. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to.

3. Either have it shipped to your house or to a friend’s house if your parents will be suspicious.

Method 2: You have cash

1. Go into a store and buy a prepaid VISA card. Make sure you have picked out a packer in advance and know the total cost plus shipping, because you will need to make sure you have enough money for the card. (You can also ask a friend to do this if you can’t drive or otherwise get to a store on your own)

2. Buy the packer. Put the name on the card as “Visa” in the payment section of the website. Clear your internet history. Make sure the invoice is sent to an email that only you have access to.

3. Either have it shipped to your house or to a friend’s house if your parents will be suspicious.

Please feel free to reblog with more information on packing, or more helpful links if you know any! 

This post will be occasionally updated if new info is needed, so contact me if a link is broken. This post is also okay and encouraged to be reblogged!

STDs! They’re pretty common. So if you’re in any type of  relationship — new, old, casual, serious — you have to talk about ‘em. Here are some common questions we get that deal with talking about STDs:

WHAT YOU HAVE ALL BEEN WAITING FOR! A BINDER GIVEAWAY!

I am giving away 18 binders, they are all black/white/grey/green and these are the sizes:

THE LAST DAY TO ENTER THIS GIVEAWAY WILL BE  AND THE OCTOBER 21st. THE WINNERS WILL BE ANNOUNCED OCTOBER 22nd. I WILL NOT ACCEPT ANYTHING AFTER THE OCTOBER 21st.

@gc2b-apparel has sent @transalike another batch of binders to give away. So a huge thank you to GC2B! For supporting our community.

You must follow all the rules to be entered into this giveaway!

Rules:

You must live in the US

1. I do not have the resources to do an international giveaway this time guys I’m sorry!

Follow these three accounts:

@gc2b-apparel​ on tumblr

2. @transalike​ on tumblr

3. @_pantheonaura on instagram ( I definitely am on my instagram more.  )

4. sub scribe to my YouTube https://m.youtube.com/results?q=transalike&sm=3

REBLOG REBLOG REBLOG this post. Give everyone a chance to win.

And finally send me a message with your favorite meme and what size binder you are entering for. You will not be considered for the giveaway if you do not message me. 

here

ALL RULES MUST BE FOLLOWED OR YOU WILL NOT BE ENTERED. I WILL BE CHECKING!

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