Transgender Teen Survival Guide

Devon says:

First, try getting to a calm environment and doing breathing exercises if you’re still on the verge of a breakdown. You might also find our mental health resources helpful :)

I am Autistic and trans! And so are some of the other mods! (Check out the meet the mods page for specific info.) Also, it’s actually more likely for Autistic people to be transgender than other people.

It’s possible to have a Special Interest or hyperfixation in trans people or trans identities or something similar. But, having a Special Interest in trans people doesn’t mean that you’re not a trans person yourself!

Of course, you are the only one who can define if being trans is a Special Interest / hyperfixation. It sounds like your family is labeling this as a hyperfixation because they don’t want you to be trans, don’t accept the fact that you’re trans, or have a very narrow view of Autistic folks.

If you feel like you’re FTM, I would say that you’re FTM! Your family, or anybody else, can’t define that for you. If you have further doubts, you could check out our “What Am I?” page and/or our trans masculine resources.

You could show your family videos from Ask An Autistic on youtube or resources from ASAN if they seem to be ignorant about Autistic folks. And we have a For Parents/Guardians page and an Ally Resources page that might be helpful for them, to learn about trans identities.

Our coming out page has tips about coming out in various contexts (including to family members, and what to do if people aren’t supportive after you come out).

Good luck! I hope all goes well, and send another ask if I didn’t entirely answer your question.

Kii says:

I am a disabled person, and my personal opinion is that you can use it as long as you make sure there isn’t a disabled person waiting to use it first, because they often physically can’t use other toilets. But, if it’s vacant, go ahead.