reading progressive sex ed caricatures with accurate and detailed and realistic diagrams of sexual organs + shows their variation, but all i can think about is how there is no discussion of what srs is besides the fact that it exists

how may people know the before and afters of vaginoplasty? phalloplasty? meta? how it works at all?

this one has been passed around recently from the mayo clinic and that actually makes me so happy because how many of transfeminine people are aware of what their options even look like?

there’s a diagram for phallo and meta from springer link(i believe) and. honestly i’d never seen these before and i dont think i’ve ever seen any diagrams. i know vaguely because of reading papers or listening to people talk about their experience but i’ve never seen it, yk? it makes me more confident in my choice to get meta when i’m older

There’s a website called Transbucket that has a whole archive of before and after photos, surgery costs, surgeon names and locations, and general feedback on complications, sensation, everything. It’s been around for at least a decade, and there are photos of some folks five or eight years down the line. It’s organized by procedure, and it’s very comprehensive. It’s NSFW of course but it’s an amazing resource!!!

Demystify transition! Break irrational medical fear!

I've actually really wondered the specifics of phallo and meta so seeing diagrams is fucking awesome

Just thinking about how republicans are going after normie sex shit like "internet porn" and "dildos" now

we fucking told y'all

to be clear: the right views any sex that isn't purely procreative as deviant. it's not just kink, or queer sex they find abhorrent. And they genuinely believe that the better educated you are about sex in general, including about gender shit, the more deviant you are. they're legitimately trying to claw everyone down to hell with them.

Now? Before 2003 it was legit technically illegal in some states for even straight couples to have oral or anal sex, and there are still laws in some states restricting how many dildos you can own etc.

I don't really know what the goal is with putting a numerical limit on dildos, but with republicans the answer is usually "There isn't one. Die."

This is your periodic reminder that it is currently right now illegal in the united states to own porn that the average person in your community would be offended by. That's the legal definition of obscenity (a piece of media that 1. Exists to turn people on 2. has no other "redeeming" purpose and 3. would be offensive to most people in your jurisdiction) and you can theoretically be arrested and go to jail for owning "obscene" media or giving it to other people.

"But that's ridiculous," you say, "porn that the average taxpayer would think was ~offensive~ is absolutely fuckin' everywhere, on the internet and in real life, and nobody gets in trouble for it." And you'd be right about that. Realistically, this is a law that cannot be enforced: it is way too easy to break, way too hard to track, and way too many people are interested in breaking it.

Same with the pre-Lawrence v. Texas laws against "sodomy" that headspace-hotel is talking about. Yeah, it was illegal to give a blowjob in the privacy of your own home. But of course most people who like blowjobs never even thought twice about those laws, because it's usually pretty easy to Not tell a cop what you do in the privacy of your bedroom with your spouse.

"So if laws like this don't actually stop people from doing whatever sexual things they want to do, why are you concerned about it? You just said these laws don't hurt anybody, right?" Here's the thing. The purpose of laws like this is to create an atmosphere where you can get away with doing ""deviant"" things... if you hide it from polite society, if you keep it secret, if you know your place.

What you can't do is go out in public and say that actually gay people can have happy relationships, or that masturbating sometimes doesn't make you a depraved sex addict, or that it's okay to want to enjoy having sex and not just do it as your Duty To Your Husband.

You can get away with doing what you want in private if you never challenge the dominant cultural message that what you're doing is gross and immoral and people who do it are disgusting freaks. If you dare to speak up and point out that your ""shameful secret"" is actually normal, off you go to jail.

That's the purpose of laws like this. To make it impossible to challenge the rhetorical stranglehold of conservative christianity on society. To shift the Overton window once and for all to the right. And that's why we need to fight laws like this with all our strength, every time the right tries to push them forward, even when the specifics are stuff like "you can't own more than five dildoes" that might seem like a silly thing to go to war over. It's not about the specifics. It's about limiting everyone's speech to things a conservative preacher would say from the pulpit.

The other thing laws like this are good for is giving the police excuses

Younger Americans NEED to understand why Lawrence vs Texas went to the Supreme Court.

In 2003, police raided the private home of two gay men and charged them with sodomy. I cannot emphasize enough that THEY WERE NOT CURRENTLY HAVING SEX AT ALL when the police raided them. But the cops had “probable cause” to believe that they had, at some point, had non-procreative sex, which was illegal under Texas’s sodomy law, so they were charged with a crime.

Ultimately, the SCOTUS ruled that sodomy laws are unconstitutional because US citizens have a right to privacy: what consenting adults do in their own homes is their own business.

What you need to know is that in four states, including Texas and. Missouri, sodomy laws are still on the books. That means that if SCOTUS strikes down Lawrence vs Texas, these laws immediately go back into effect, and more states can add their own.

What would that look like?

If you’re on Tinder and your profile says you’re gay or bi, the police can subpoena your profile and use it to arrest you.

If you’re on Scruff or Grindr, the police can subpoena your location data and messages and use them to track down and arrest you and all your hookups.

If you’re in a same-sex marriage, the police can subpoena a list of same-sex marriage certificates and arrest every single couple—even if they’re widowed or divorced.

If your school has an LGBTQ club, the police can subpoena a list of members and arrest kids & college students.

They could subpoena data from FetLife and Facebook and Twitter and, yes, if they thought to do so, Tumblr. Rainbow flag in your profile? They’re drawing up charges.

And all of these people getting arrested and charged with sodomy, when convicted, will not only have their lives ruined by jail time, but will also likely be labeled sex offenders for the rest of their lives.

This is not ancient history. This was not “back in the day.” I WAS IN COLLEGE WHEN THIS HAPPENED.

And the Republicans are frothing at the fucking mouth to bring these horrors back.

for anyone still doubting the obvious transgender symbolism in breaking bad

rolling over and feeling my boobs shift weight cures depression

reaching for something and feeling my boob block my arm also cures depression

really any time during normal activities when I’m inadvertently reminded that my body has become irreversibly female I have some quiet euphoria all to myself

Contrary to popular belief u can support trans women for reasons other than pissing off terfs

Pissing off TERFs is just an added bonus

Read the original post again

I do support trans women for reasons other than pissing off terfs. I just ALSO like pissing off terfs. They are not mutually exclusive.

Y’know who has to deal with the fallout of u having ur little fun pissing off terfs? Trans women

Making a hate group angry isn’t a fun little bonus. Members of that hate group will attack and blame trans women when they are angry. The fact that ur so focused on pissing off terfs that u can’t conceive of supporting trans women without including the element of making terfs angry is weird. Your goal should be to protect trans women but you and many other ppl reblogging this post and making nearly identical comments seem really concerned with the “fun bonus” of making members of a violent hate group angry. And if u can’t conceive of the fact that your fun little bonus does harm to trans women, or don’t care, guess what? U don’t care about trans women. U view trans women as a tool to make terfs mad for ur amusement

The fact that ur deliberately ignoring the premise of this post, the fact that so many self-described allies are preoccupied with “pissing off terfs” adding “reblog to make a terf mad!” on support posts, CONSTANTLY reminding trans women of the ppl who spend their entire day posting abt how they want us dead or banned from society? Makes u a pretty shitty ally to trans women. I’m out here begging ppl to actually concern themselves with the safety of the trans women in their life and everybody is taking that as an opportunity to make jokes abt how it’s “icing on the cake” as if making terfs angry and lionizing them to attack their perceived enemies isn’t directly contrary to keeping trans women safe

The trans women in ur life are suffering for u to have ur fun. Do better

I have so much love in my heart for trans girls like. girls girls girls literally omg youre a GIRL ISNT IT WONDERFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! any girl who’s been like “I wish I was a girl” and then found out they actually ARE a girl is a precious jewel. I love girls

Part of trans advocacy is recognizing that a trans person might be wary of others, that they might come across as angry or sullen, that they might outright say "I will not trust you" and recognizing that they still are a person who needs rights. Part of this is fighting for their rights, anyway.

Part of trans advocacy is understanding that trans people who are like this have damned good reasons to be and even if you’re not like that or are trans yourself you should fight for their rights BECAUSE the way the world treats non-cis people is probably WHY they are like this.

There are angry, untrusting members of every marginalised group who have good reason to be like that and if you don’t understand that you might be one of the reasons why.

trans girls are the cutest girls

In case you haven’t caught on: catgirl

My favorite pirate joke is “why does it take pirates so long to learn the alphabet? Because they spend years at c” not because it’s THAT funny but because it’s a relatively simple joke that nobody ive told it to has ever correctly guessed the punchline for because they all think it’s gonna be a joke about arrrr

Another classic is

“Why couldn’t the pirates play cards? Because the captain was standing on the deck!”

For more hilarious pirate jokes like these go to google and type pirate jokes into the search bar and click search

The extent to which gender is the center of your life is up to you.

It can be the heart of your activism or just another aspect of who you are.

This is your life and you get to decide what's most important in it.

#LwiththeT