When I meet up with people that I haven't seen in person for a while, the most hilarious part is how they handle nonsexually complimenting my boobs. So many people want to, cuz like shit they're nice, and they're probably the most visible, easy to notice marker of how much hormones have done for me so far. But it always seems like it's some kind of Saw chamber for them: they want to compliment my transition progress with a more specific comment than "wow you look good", but they also don't want to sound like a creep. Sometimes they get themselves in massive conversational loops about it, to the point where I have to say "you can compliment my chest if you want to". Even other transfemmes don't want to turn it into a weird jealousy thing, or want to get detailed about it, so end up being kinda awkward about it sometimes.
Cis lesbians are the exception. They just say "nice tits" with enthusiasm.
Wait is this a thing? Is it not normal to compliment other transfemmes on the specific physical traits you notice are being brought out / enhanced by hormones????? Am I missing social cues here??
Weirdly enough, in my (off of tumblr) experience, a lot of transfemmes start to get a little awkward about it, or hesitant, moreso than cis lesbians. Usually once the initial barrier is broken though, it becomes a detailed discussion about HRT progress, which is absolutely not normal. So I guess with other transfemmes, its more of a binary state. Could just be a sample size issue.
Luckily and obviously it's just the sample size that's small nowadays 🫡