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Op how do I know that you aren't a fed? 😭
Because that would require the U.S government to care about your mental health.
does it count if the thoughts of hurting myself are sexual in nature? Like I'm not doing it cuz I'm sad (anymore) and now I just do it cuz I'm a freak
Muzzles aren't some sort of torture or punishment device, nor do they force the animal's mouth to remain completely shut at all times. They also don't stop barking, growling, or drooling. They're tools to help keep you, others, and your dog safe. With the right muzzle, your dog will still have full range of motion, and be able to eat and drink with ease. Here's my list:
Insurance: If you have a dog breed that's stereotyped as violent and aggressive, even if your dog is the sweetest thing in the world, making sure to muzzle train it, and ideally have it wear the muzzle whenever it's on walks and such, means that people can't accuse your animal of biting them. How could it? It had the muzzle on. What did the accuser do, shove their fingers into the mouth of a clearly muzzled animal?
Veterinary care: Even the best-behaved animal can get stressed at a vet clinic, and stressed animals are unpredictable animals. Even if you're absolutely certain your dog won't bite, having it wear a muzzle at the vet will provide extra security and make it easier to perform general wellness checks and other medical procedures. It also puts less stress on the vets and vet techs. (This applies to groomers as well!!)
Keeping others away: If you're out walking your dog, chances are that people are going to want to interact with it. And hey, that's fine! But maybe you're uncomfortable with that. Maybe your dog is terrified of these interactions. If your dog is a service animal, then it gets even more complicated, and actively dangerous, because others are distracting your dog from its job. If the animal has a muzzle on, people might decide that it's not worth it to go up to the dog in the first place, and assume it's unfriendly.
Future Issues: No matter how nice and sweet and gentle your dog is now, future trauma, injury, and neurodegenerative disorders are always possible, and can change your pet's response to stressors. This can make your pet far more aggressive than it naturally is. But if it's already tolerant of muzzles, then that will be extremely helpful in managing the behavior.
Self-Injury and Destructive Behavior: Even if your dog doesn't bite others, it can bite itself out of stress or compulsion, and also chew things you really don't need destroyed. Muzzling can keep dogs from engaging in a lot of destructive behaviors, just because it can't bite at things. It's not exactly an alternative to using a surgical cone, though; a dog can still rip out stitches with a muzzle, even if it can't chew at them.
Eating: Dogs eat all sorts of things they shouldn't. Depending on the muzzle and situation, you might opt for a closed-type muzzle, which doesn't obstruct breathing, but doesn't allow it to eat. Even with open-type muzzles, there's a limit to the kinds of things they can fit through the wires. Kibble and wet food? Yes. Grass, poop, twigs, small rocks, pieces of candy, marbles? Also yes. An animal, stick, wrought-iron fence post, goose down comforter? No.
If anyone has more to put here, then please add!! There's a ton of reasons to muzzle train a non-violent dog, and I'm sure I've only scratched the service. Muzzles aren't abusive! It's like crate training and leash training. They're just good skills for your dog to have.
Intrusive Thoughts are unwanted thoughts or images that you find distressing and/or disturbing.
more information on what intrusive thoughts are!
what intrusive thoughts are: https://moodsmith.com/intrusive-thoughts/
how to cope with them: https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/how-to/how-to-stop-intrusive-thoughts-and-live-your-life/
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.
psych majors should be required to kick it with a mentally ill person for at least 80 hours just to be reminded that we are human and not experiments
As both a psych major and a mentally ill person I cannot begin to tell you how many people I have met in my classes who make me concerned for the safety and health of mentally ill people everywhere, especially the young children who struggle.
My first psychology class was fucking wild. Put of around 35 of us only three (one being a close friend of mine) of us had any sort of mental illness. Intro Psych is mainly about brain development with only a small section at the end being about mental illness but Oh Fucking Boy did everyone’s weird ass stereotypes and fetishes jump out in the last chapter.
We were talking about schizophrenia and the one other girl with mental illness was a schizophrenic (it wasn’t known until this exact moment). We were talking about symptoms when someone just asked outloud, “Aren’t schizos like super likely to murder people though?”
I thought, okay, one guy still stuck in the fucking 80’s, whatever.
But Then A Bunch Of People Start Agreeing
And soon we were 20minutes into class and everyone had shared a case of a schizophrenic murdering, abusing, etc etc and They Saw Nothing Wrong With Thinking These Stereotypes Were A Standard
The prof finally stopped them and asked if anyone wanted to make one last statement and this poor girl just raises her hands and “I just thought you all should know that I’m schizophrenic and have never thought about murdering someone, nor have I ever hurt anyone apart from myself.”
And… no one apologized. They literally felt no guilt at all for bashing this girl.
The same exact thing happened when we talked about depression, anxiety, and ptsd.
“Ptsd is what soldiers get after war right?”
“Yeah sometimes, but anyone can suffer from it after a traumatic event”
“How would you know, are you the professor now?”
“No, but I have ptsd from a car crash that nearly killed me so…”
Like god damn I really fucking hate neurotypicals trying to satisfy some weird curiosity they have for “crazy” people or whatever it is like please stay like 3000ft away from anyone with a mental illness and never fucking talk to them dear god
Colleagues at a government-contracted shelter in Arizona had a specific request for Antar Davidson when three Brazilian migrant children arrived: “Tell them they can’t hug.”
Davidson, 32, is of Brazilian descent and speaks Portuguese. He said the siblings — ages 16, 10 and 6 — were distraught after being separated from their parents at the border. The children were “huddled together, tears streaming down their faces,” he said.
Officials had told them their parents were “lost,” which they interpreted to mean dead. Davidson said he told the children he didn’t know where their parents were, but that they had to be strong.
“The 16-year-old, he looks at me and says, ‘How?’” Davidson said. As he watched the youth cry, he thought, “This is not healthy.”
Davidson quit this week after being a youth care worker at the Tucson shelter, Estrella del Norte, for just a few months. He decided to speak out about his experiences there in hopes of improving a system often shielded from public scrutiny. His comments in a telephone interview offer a rare look into the operation of a migrant shelter.
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The caseload is straining a facility he described as understaffed and unequipped to deal with children experiencing trauma, such as the three Brazilians. During his time at the shelter, children were running away, screaming, throwing furniture and attempting suicide, Davidson said. Several were being monitored this week because they were at risk of running away, self-harm and suicide, records show.
[…]
Davidson saw more and more confused and upset children, most from Latin America. There also were more of what staff call “tender age” children, those under 13. Some were as young as 4, he said.
“What was once a transient facility with a staff that was strained and struggling is now becoming a more permanent facility,” and more “prison-like,” Davidson said.
[…]
“They had no idea where their parents were. The case managers said it’s going to be a week until we even find their parents and another week until we talk to them. I just saw how they were bungling these cases,” he said. “At that point zero tolerance was in full swing and you could see the desperation: kids running down the hall, screaming for their moms.”
These are internment camps. Plain and simple, that’s what they are. Re-education camps too, in come cases, but in every case, these are internment camps. That’s what “internment camp” means.
This is the point at which shit begins to accelerate. This is the point at which we need to fight the fuck back if we want to stop it. I would say burn the fuckers down, but there are kids in there. Cut the fences, smash the locks, and smash the fucking state that allowed this to happen.
Please do something. Please don’t let this happen. Please don’t let this happen again.
Please destroy the racists and fascists committing this genocide.
Organize.
Fight.
Tell people.
Scream.
Rage.
Do not let this happen.
These are children. They’re targeting babies.
Please. Not again. I’m begging you.
