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also me: do not shout at me I am sensitive and will cry
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Anonymous asked:
every single goddamn time someone gets called out for abusive or shitty behavior (as in for real, not just crappy callout posts), people use it as an excuse to shit on their kinks & everyone who shares them. and then on the off chance the person was never abusive and it was all a lie or misunderstanding? everyone can just say "oh but she's into ___ so who cares what she thinks?" it's like they dont give a shit about actual victims and just want someone to have fun attacking-- oh wait lmao
That’s the one thing I hate- especially when people do it to like. Misogynistic, transphobic, racist dudes who reply to a post with some asinine garbage and the response to that is “lol bad kinks” like. You had all that material and you fucking chose THAT? In one particular grating instance of this bullshit someone said along the lines of “a grown-ass man has a piss kink” and I just. Yeah??? Do you think kinks, a sexual thing, AREN’T for grown adults or what? Who’s supposed to be into that? -mod taint
If I had to deal with a Nazi with a vore kink, I’m going to focus on the fact that they’re a Nazi and how that ideology is harmful, because their sex lives are very rarely relevant to any sort of argument and are therefore completely unimportant, and also obviously I’m going to want to address the fact that uh they’re a fucking NAZI, that’s kind of the important part here, fuck, y’all, who gives a shit about their kinks when they’re a literal Nazi, like prioritize your shit please
If you can’t discuss why they’re a bad person without bringing up their kinks, then they’re either probably not a bad person, you don’t understand why they’re a bad person, or, very very rarely, they actually have and engage in a kink that they both publicize to people who don’t want to know, and is actually dangerous or a huge red flag – and even then, the emphasis should always be less about the kink itself, and more about ‘this adult is telling minors to do things that are blatantly fetishistic, especially without telling them that it’s sexual,’ or ‘this person doesn’t understand that having a kink for X is automatically something that requires extreme care and consideration, may cause or be caused by Y prejudice, and makes it even more important to hold yourself and others accountable for Y prejudice,’ which is, again, less a ‘this person’s kink is bad,’ and more ‘this person is not doing this kink safely or while being aware of the risks, and is putting themself and others in danger.’