Listen to say that someone only wants to *do* the Bad Kink things to someone because they want to do Bad Things is so fucking stupid. So fucking reductive. Ignores so much of human nature.
Like I have always had zero desire to dom but now I am in a different relationship situation with someone who would appreciate some of that sometimes and all of a sudden I'm like hey actually I WOULD like to do those things but it's very much "I respect and value this person and I want him to have a good time". There's the trust of it. There's a lot more very explicitly horny things I could say about the appeal but I'm trying to keep this a PG discourse post. There is no desire to be a bad person or use someone for my benefit to their detriment.
Like. Sex is a cooperative social activity, is it really so alien a thought that people might want to make each other happy?