So I tried CBT once with my therapist, and found it to be massively damaging, but my memories of why are vague. And I’ve seen a lot of people in MAD circles talking about it being gaslighty but again, these conversations are vague.
So I’m gonna look at what I can find online and try and pinpoint how these things manifest in CBT.
OH WERE OFF TO A GREAT START HERE. VICTIM BLAMING!!!!
Buddy my problem is I live in an ableist, transphobic, queerphobic, capitalist society. That’s what needs to change. U think I’m gonna manage that with a self help book?
WHY IS ON ME TO ENSURE THESE THINGS DO NOT PREVENT ME FROM ACHIEVING MY GOALS AND OVERCOMING MY PROBLEMS? IT’S KINDA OUT OF MY HANDS.
I get the feeling CBT was developed for a very specific kind of person and not like, 90% of people with anxiety and low moods.
“People couldn’t possibly be anxious about less tangible things that cannot be confronted, and they can’t possibly be anxious for a reason. Absolutely not. Just go out presenting how you feel comfortable and go tell that person getting aggressive what your pronouns are. It will reduce your anxiety!”
Do u see what I been saying about the construct of mental illness being used to pathologize reasonable reactions that make oppressors uncomfortable?
Hmmm let’s see, I avoid most social activities and going out in general because I have an ex who wants to hurt me and my child. I’m…. not even going to attempt this activity.
Ok so it’s not even “this is just a bad thing to use for people in my situation”
THIS IS EXPLICITLY INTENDED TO FORCE PEOPLE LIKE ME TO PUT OURSELVES AT RISK. I’M LOSING MY FUCKING MIND.
Oh now I’m onto challenging the thoughts! The thing that really fucked me up last time! Lets look at the examples of negative thoughts that are obviously untrue because you’re just a fucking crazy!
What kind of a life must you have led for these to not be true at least sometimes? Come the fuck on! I mean who is not at constant risk of losing their job for being late these days! I’m a fucking queer, I go outside and trust me, eeeeveryone hates me! Jesus fucking christ!
Hey serious advice to people doing CBT, when it comes to this:
PLEASE do not do this for anything you are absolutely certain is true because you WILL end up on a suicidal spiral because you’ll have backed up that everything sucks! And it’s not fun to prove that!!!
AIGHT NAH YAH JUS TEKIN THA PISH