Stardew Valley MBTI x Enneagram: Emily
Following my last post about the Stardew marriage candidates and their MBTI types, I've been learning more about Enneagram, how it pairs with MBTI, and how it changes some of the typical characteristics of each type.
The Enneagram and MBTI complement each other wonderfully, providing greater depth and understanding of how a person interacts with the world [Cognitive Functions] and their motivations why [Core Desire/Core Fear].
Here are my thoughts on Emily's MBTI and Enneagram pairing.
Emily - ESFP 2w1: “The Companion”
“ESFPs are everything you think they are, plus some more. Energetic, charismatic, and suckers for the limelight, ESFPs are intriguing. ESFP 2w1s, however, are a different breed.
ESFP 2w1s are big personalities. They are cheerful people who show up when it counts. They especially love their friends and cherish the memories they share. Because of their wing, ESFP 2w1s also have strong morals.”– Personality Hunt
Emily’s Core Desire: To be helpful
"The core desire of the ESFP 2w1 is to be helpful. They want to be indispensable in their relationship with others. Because of this need, they go to great lengths to make others happy. " - Personality Hunt
We see Emily's desire to be helpful in her desire to support her community, her family, and even injured/orphaned animals.
“Oh, good, [the egg is] still warm... Poor thing, where's it's mother? *Whisper* ...I'll be your mother, don't worry... Poor baby. I'm glad you gave this to me, Farmer. I'll take very good care of it.”
“I meant to let the parrot go free, but his wing never fully healed. He seems content, though. I give him lots of attention. He told me that he's happy here.”
Emily’s Core Fear: To be abandoned
"The core fear of the ESFP 2w1 is to be abandoned. To combat this, this personality type combines the perfectionistic tendencies of type 1 and the people-pleasing traits of type 2." - Personality Hunt
“This house was left in our care by my parents. They've been traveling the world for the last two years. We have no idea when they'll be back.”
“Farmer... You broke my heart... I just can't talk to you anymore. Please, let me try to heal...”
“I hope you'll still like me when I grow old and my hair turns to a dull, faded steel.”
"Th... That night in the tent... you whispered such sweet things to me in the dark...Now I have to face each day knowing it was all a lie.”
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How Enneagram 2w1 changes typical ESFP behaviour:
New Strengths
1. Fi Mimics Fe
ESFPs have Introverted Feeling [Fi] as their secondary function, meaning they primarily use it as an 'internal check' to see if they are comfortable with an idea or course of action. ESFP 2w1s are slightly different. They are much more concerned with the thoughts and feelings of others before concerning their own. There is a debate on whether their Fi is imitating Extroverted Feeling [Fe] or if they simply have a stronger grasp of it. That being said, as a high Fi user myself [Elaho - INFP], I believe that Emily's strong empathy is a result of her Extroverted Sensing [Se] and Introverted Feeling [Fi] functions working together to outwardly 'mimic' [at least, at first glance], Extroverted Feeling instead of consciously using more Fe:
A common misconception of Introverted Feeling is that it only cares about the user's core values, feelings, and emotions and no one else's. Not so. Fi is much more than simply evaluating what internal values the user holds. It is also a complex and vastly nuanced system of 'emotion mapping', allowing a high Fi user to enter another person's emotional experience and understand it, with almost near perfection, as if it were their own - they intensely feel the highs and lows of other people's inner world deep in their bodies alongside their own.
Introverted Feeling is highly individualistic and cares deeply about each specific person's inner harmony and personal happiness, as opposed to Extroverted Feeling's focus on group harmony and external happiness. Fi's focus is on creating inner harmony for each individual person which will, in turn, result in more authentic harmony and happiness for everyone.
How this information is obtained will differ between Intuitive and Sensing types [whether through Extroverted Intuition - Ne or Extroverted Sensing- Se], but the end result is the same.
We see Emily gather emotional information externally through her Se, and try to 'feel' and comprehend it internally with her Fi. She might have occasional 'bursts' of Fe awareness, but these are short-lived and are extremely rare for strong Fi users like ESFPs.
Examples:
“There's good people in this town who just can't seem to find happiness. It makes me sad. Working in the saloon, I hear first-hand about everyone's problems.”
“Did you really think so? That's exactly the effect I was shooting for! I'm so glad you liked it.”
“I feel bad for Linus. People judge him, but he's just living a different lifestyle. I wish everyone could learn to be accepting of others.”
"I think Clint's mad at me. He never looks at me anymore...I always thought we were friends."
"The energy in our bodies fluctuate just as the seasons do. Understanding your own unique rhythm is the first step to inner harmony."
2. More Generous/Helpful
"[Typical] ESFPs help as much as they feel inclined to. ESFP 2w1s take this to another level. They help even when it’s bad for them.
Help could mean taking on people’s tasks, driving them to the hospital, or helping financially. ESFP 2w1s are willing to do whatever it takes to make their loved ones happy." - Personality Hunt
Emily always seems eager to lend a helping hand, even going out of her way to support the new arrival in the Valley. On top of her generosity towards the community, she also shoulders the financial burden of caring for her parent's house and supporting her younger sister who refuses to work, loves to shop, and won't help around the house- all to keep everyone around her happy.
Examples:
“Hi Farmer! Do you raise sheep in your barn? You can turn their wool into beautiful bolts of cloth! You'll need a loom, though. You can make them yourself if you know the crafting recipe.”
"Well, did you know that you can use cloth to tailor all kinds of clothes? All you need is access to a sewing machine…And I happen to have one at home! Feel free to swing by and use it any time."
“I swept the whole house, washed the windows, dusted, and cleaned the fridge. It was a very productive day!”
“Is that a new hole I see in your shirt? I can sew that up for you, no problem.”
“I wish Haley would get a job or at least contribute to cooking and cleaning. I think she's hoping to marry someone rich.”
3. More Excitable
ESFPs are naturally very excitable but 2w1s are even more so. They are eager to experience all that life offers, from epic adventures to simple tasks and treasures. However, ESFP 2w1s can have difficulty managing their own thrills and the thrills brought by others. This can cause them problems later on.
Examples:
“Yes, I'd love to dance with you, Farmer! Now I'm excited... This is going to be a lot of fun!”
“I drank a super-food smoothie this morning and I feel aaah-mazing.”
“Oh!... Heheh... I know exactly why you gave me this stone today. Very interesting...Wow, it's beautiful! This color makes me think of all the spiritual power within the forest... Can you feel that wood energy?”
“That's funny, I had a dream that you would give me a piece of jade today! Ooh, it's jade! This is supposed to attract wealth... And who couldn't do with a few extra coins in the pocket?”
4. Stronger Ethics/Morals
Due to their Introverted Feeling [Fi], ESFPs have a strong sense of morals and ethics and having a 1 wing makes them even more aware of their beliefs and values. Having strong morals and ethics is one thing, but consistency is another; how strongly they personally uphold their beliefs will depend on the strength of their wing.
Examples:
"You catch fish? I just hope you treat the poor things humanely. Every critter deserves our respect, even the slimy ones.”
“I hope you're farming in a sustainable way. The valley's ecosystem is fragile! How do I know? I have a strong gut-feeling!”
"Eating healthy is very important to me. I want to live a long and active life."
"My horoscope for the day isn't too good… but I'm going to make the best of it, as always. Let's get to work!"
5. More Family-Oriented
"ESFPs, like most sensors, value their family. They love the holidays and keep the memories they share with others. ESFP 2w1s are like that and more. This is enhanced by type 2’s need to be the perfect companion. They become the glue in the family." - Personality Hunt
Examples:
“I'm just working at Gus' to make ends meet [for me and Haley]... but my real passion is tailoring. I made these clothes from scratch, see?”
"Is one child enough, or should we raise another? I guess we'll just see where fate leads us."
"I've always loved sewing and making crafts… So I thought it'd be nice to make you something by hand. I had a lot of fun!... Now, when you wear those clothes, you'll think of me… and you'll know I'm here waiting for you to come home safe… okay?"
"This is so fun to live together! I always thought I'd be single my whole life."
6. More Emotional
ESFPs are highly in touch with their emotions and the emotions of others, and ESFPs are even more sensitive to emotions. They can be hypersensitive to criticism from family and friends. Even if the criticism is constructive and well-delivered, it can weigh heavily on them for a long time, resulting in either sadness or anger.
Examples:
"Nothing is more sad than an injured animal...”
“B...But I thought we had a special bond... *sniff*”
“Um... Okay. Sorry you didn't like it. I guess those three years of practice were a complete waste...” “*sigh*... Why does there have to be war and hatred in the world?”
"I can't help but think of all the poor, frozen squirrels out there right now."
New Weaknesses
1. Impulsive Behaviour Directed at Helping
"ESFP 2w1s retain the impulsive and sometimes erratic behaviour of [typical ESFPs]. However, rather than being directed to finances or adventures, it’s toward helping others.
ESFP 2w1s struggle with saying no. So, they could be super busy and still accept to take on more tasks without thinking it through." - Personality Hunt
Examples:
“If I wasn't so busy I'd come help you on the farm! But Gus would be upset if I had another job...”
"I'm going to visit town today, and later on I'm going to help out at the saloon. Have a nice day."
2. Strong Morals, but Fewer Standards
ESFP 2w1s have stronger morals than typical ESFPs, but because type 1 is only their wing, upholding standards derived from her morals is more difficult.
This can be for multiple reasons, but in Emily's case, she has difficulty maintaining and enforcing the shared responsibility and mutual contribution between herself and her sister.
Examples:
“I wish Haley would get a job or at least contribute to cooking and cleaning.”
"You're being childish, Haley. I do the vast majority of work in this house, and you know it.”
“Haley is a picky eater. It's so hard to cook for her.”
“*sigh*... I'm really sorry to involve you in this, Farmer. Haley is complaining because I asked her to clean under the cushions.”
3. Self-Critical
"[Being self-critical] also stems from their wing. Type 1 has high standards. So, they become self-critical when they can’t meet these standards.
If this happens repeatedly, they might lose their self-confidence. In worst-case scenarios, ESFP 2w1s might feel depressed or hopeless.
The extent to which this applies depends on the strength of their wing." - Personality Hunt
Emily's self-criticism comes from her desire to be the perfect helper - to maintain an entire household, work to support her family, and continue to be an uplifting and inspiring presence to everyone in her community.
Because of her desire for perfection, she has difficulty venting her frustrations, accepting her limitations, and embracing unpleasant emotions without feeling shame or guilt.
Examples:
"Haley and I aren't made for such a big house. It's a hassle to keep it clean. Ah well. I really shouldn't be complaining. Your farmhouse seems nice and cozy."
"I feel uninspired today [sad face]."
"My day went well... it's good to get out of the house now and then."
"Every moment has a unique and precious beauty… do you notice? It can be easy to forget, sometimes."
4. Lack of Self-Care
ESFP 2w1s often take on more than they can handle, causing them to neglect themselves and their relationships. If taken to the extreme, their eagerness to help others can seriously impact their physical and mental well-being.
Although it's part of her spiritual beliefs, Emliy's strong interest in crystals, energies, and Yoba seems more than just about religious devotion.
Not only does she have so much on her plate with trying to make ends meet and support her community, but she has so little support from the people closest to her [her parents and sister], that she seems to depend greatly on crystals, energies, and Yoba [far more than any other spiritual people in town] to simply keep her from collapsing from exhaustion.
Examples:
“If I didn't have to work I'd suggest we go on a nice picnic!”
“If I wasn't so busy I'd help you dig around in that cave by the lake. I bet there are some powerful crystals inside there.”
"Ah, an amethyst! This will protect me on those late nights working at the Saloon."
"Oh, this is perfect… I've been feeling a little sluggish lately. Rubies are great for energizing the spirit!"
"Ooh, it's jade! This is supposed to attract wealth… And who couldn't do with a few extra coins in the pocket?"
"The warm, soothing energy of this stone helps us re-center our thoughts… It's actually just what I needed on a day like this. Thanks!"
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Conclusion
Emily is one of the sweetest, kindest, most generous people in Stardew Valley. She may come across as overly dreamy, eccentric, and enthusiastic, but behind her cheerful exterior is someone who is deeply afraid of abandonment: her parents shouldered her the responsibility of caring for their house and youngest daughter to travel the world without her.
The only contact she has with her parents is the occasional letter and gift sent in the mail.
“This house was left in our care by my parents. They've been traveling the world for the last two years. We have no idea when they'll be back.”
As a result, she tries to make herself useful and indispensable to those still in her life. It isn't until her positive relationship with the farmer that she starts to heal from her parental abandonment and confidently create the loving and stable family life she's always wanted with the farmer's unconditional love.
"Good morning! I was wondering when you'd finally roll out of bed! It's okay, Farmer… you deserve a good night of rest."
"I hope we can raise our child to be kind and considerate. That's more important than getting A's in school."
Now, when you wear those clothes, you'll think of me… and you'll know I'm here waiting for you to come home safe… okay?"
Do you agree that Emily is an ESFP 2w1? If not, what type do you think she is? Let me know your thoughts in the comments :)
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