She in her madness prays for storms

if you regularly get into discourse about sex/sexuality/sex politics but you've never actually had sex, you should be legally required to put "virgin" in your bio. nothing wrong with not having sex, but you need to be honest that you are only talking theory.

when more people started conceptualizing pansexuality as a real and legit sexuality we started slipping into a darker timeline. we should've cringed harder

that's where it all began imo... the beginning of micro-labels for (bi)sexuality that were born on tumblr with an utter disregard and lack of respect towards actual lgb people.

so much could've been avoided if "exclusion" wasn't considered a hate crime of sorts and if more people told pansexuals and pansexual truthers how offensive it is to posit their attraction to both sexes as somehow different and holier than bisexuals' because they care about "hearts, not parts"... as if bisexuals only cared about genitals and sex, which is literally a biphobic stereotype. we have always been way too nice and tolerant to these weirdos

Pansexuality is an inherently biphoic and borderline homophobic identity, from it's CONCEPTION.

oh so you "liked the word better than bisexual"? could that "specific reason" be the fact that the word "bisexual" is associated with negative stereotypes like the one highlighted above? and that pansexuality as a concept is meant to be a sanitized and holier version of bisexuality?

there is something so fundamentally insidious about the way that two particular messages were simultaneously pushed on young girls, firstly that sex does not require or inherently contain trust and intimacy, and secondly that trust and intimacy are most purely expressed by letting someone hurt you.

it’s so obvious in hindsight that these messages came as a pair, because on some level everyone knows the first is a lie, that the details may vary person to person, but everyone (and especially young, vulnerable, inexperienced people) require a level of trust and intimacy in sex, and would realize the falsehood if an alternative wasn’t presented. of course girls, upon hearing that sex is purely casual and entirely separate from legitimate connection, would want to find something that offered intimacy, and as soon as they turned away they were immediately presented with violence.

people are still saying “demisexual” is a real sexual orientation please stop

“I’m only attracted to people I have a connection to” like yeah that’s normal, that’s healthy. Why would you be attracted to someone you don’t know and have no relationship with? It’s like do you hear yourself. You have standards that’s very normal of you.

So sick of people thinking the nuance of how they’re attracted to someone is on par with being gay.

Happy International Female Orgasm Day 🎉👍

Make sure you participate!

“withholding sex” is an evil phrase that should be abolished from our collective vocabulary 

This is absolutely unbearably disgusting. I feel like there needs to be some warning, just in case you were getting ready to eat or something.

Imagine this abomination being your first relationship experience. I wasn't considering men in wigs who call themselves lesbians before, but somehow they've maganed to repel me more.

There's a good chance the neovagina was made with bits of colon, which explains the putrid smell

That or there's tissue dying, which wouldn't be a surprise

First relationship. Virgin.

Bottom surgery 12 years ago.

Now, this may be a real late bloomer or a real early transition but I would've loved ages on this post.

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Oh my god, this poor girl. Trapped in a relationship with a manipulative sexual predator. Jesus.

Yup that’s lesbian spaces for you. Really on point with the mod response too

heterosexual and bisexual girls and women should have the language to freely criticize male–female interactions, including the power imbalances in heterosexual relationships and the idealization of male dominance/female submission. women should not feel that they’re different, have an unusual sexuality, have a kink, or are not women if they prize relationships that are equal and free from misogyny and sexism. women who value loving relationships and being treated as an equal partner are recognizing what they should be entitled to as human beings—not demisexuality, not a praise kink, not ‘loving men queerly,’ not being domineering.  

The relationship so many women have with sex is really sad and awful.

I'm thinking back to when I was younger, late teens / early 20's, and my friends found out that I'd never had casual sex. They wouldn't let up with relentlessly pressuring me into going to parties just to hookup with random fuckboys because they insisted that the fact that I'd never had a hookup meant that I was sexually repressed and "not really living" and "not really experiencing life". I said that I wasn't attracted to random fuckboys at parties, that they were ugly and they were assholes and would probably be rude and disrespectful anyway. They said it didn't matter, that 'every girl needs to have an asshole phase and experience some asshole guys' and insisted it would still be fun and a necessary experience that every woman must have. Many of these friends pressuring me into hooking up with random fuckboys at parties would hookup with guys they admitted they weren't even attracted to and didn't like, and afterwards on several occasions they would cry afterwards because the sex was so terrible and the guys were so disrespectful and terrible to them during the sexual encounter. But they still insisted that I was repressed because I wasn't going out and having these experiences myself.

I had several friends when I was younger who identified as asexual, but they were still going out and having hookups almost every weekend. They insisted they didn't even like sex and didn't crave it but were just going out and having sex with men they weren't even attracted to because it gave them validation and they said they liked making other people feel good and making other people happy. When I'd get upset and say that was awful and sad they would tell me I was repressed and a prude.

It's really disheartening the way women perceive themselves sexually, the way so many women don't even think of their own pleasure or desires but feel obligated to endure bad sex and terrible treatment from sexual partners, for what? For the male validation? Because liberal feminism told you that's empowering, to let strangers treat you like a fleshlight during an experience you've even admitted you don't like and don't want?

it's also sad how most women will never question any of this and just enforce it on other women or try their hardest to make you feel like a social pariah for not practicing self harm and not putting yourself in harms way. just like mothers and granmothers often being the first ones to groom us into our role as subuman abuse receptacles, so do our female friends with peer pressure. victims can be perpetrators too. it's hard not to give in when all you receive from your peers both men and women is that smth is extremely wrong with you for not doing this for not screaming "I'm so empowered" one second and then going catatonic after their next encounter in a perpetual self destructive cycle.

all fetishism is bad because fetishes are fixations and sex is supposed to be relational - instead of being aroused by your partner and using things as props, you end up being aroused by a thing and using your partner as prop. if you fixate on a specific scenario for one and end up aroused by playing it out rather than the person you're having sex with, your partner is just an actor in it and could be replaced by whoever. that's why postmodernist pornography-fueled sexuality is so painfully unerotic - it's impersonal, without the intimate interpersonal element, desire of a partner as a person. it's literally regression in sexual development

PIV is not gay. Penis in vagina sex is heterosexual sex. You can call yourself what ever you want. You can dress whatever way you want but if there is a dick and a vagina involved in sex.... It is not gay.

some of the comments though

I cannot fucking deal w this delusion anymore. Why is same-sex attraction erased and homophobia completely normalized in the name of gender inclusivity and transgenderism?? Why do WE (gays and lesbians) have to be the ones that sacrifices for them?

I literally had to argue with another bisexual person last week that sexual orientation (being homosexual) is not bigoted. She tried to pull the same manipulative bull crap that many of these people try; “I’m not forcing you to have sex with anyone, but if your sexual orientation (homosexuality) doesn’t include the opposite sex, you’re a bigot.”

Like dude, we fucking see you. You can’t call somebody’s sexual orientation bigoted and then in the same fucking breath argue that you’re not forcing people to have sex with other people they don’t wanna have sex with. You’re literally telling them that if they don’t fuck the other person, they are a bigot. That is social pressure. That is force. Stop telling people their sexual orientations are bigoted. You will not win, all you will do is ensure that a lot of people who don’t wanna fuck end up having really bad sexual experiences. You can’t cancel culture somebody’s sexual orientation.

Reblogging again because this is LITERALLY just “Hate the sin, love the sinner” with a fun progressive coat of paint!

“There’s nothing wrong with BEING homosexual, but ACTING on your homosexuality itself is morally wrong!”

“Of course we love and accept homosexuals for who they are, but it’s the act of homosexuality that damns them to hell!”

You’ve gotta be kidding me

diversity loss!

gender havers have decimated whatever bisexual community existed by redefining bisexual to mean every single person on the planet. "im attracted to men and nonbinary people" you're straight. "im attracted to men and trans women" you're straight. "im attracted to both masculine and feminine men" you're straight. "but bi means more than two-genders-" get that shit out of here. you're straight