“what if a heterosexual cisgender man said he was aro just to get access to the queer community” what if
you just made up a guy to get mad at. i get it you hate alloaros and think theyre weird and are using the word “man” to get everyone to think some outside force is invading your pure lgbt community but like. really. if some mlw aromantic man wants to share his community with me then great whatever i dont care.
honestly though, what do they mean by "gain access to the queer community?" The queer community isn't like some closed special group you need a membership card to, it's not like someone is forging their ID to get in. The queer community is meant to exist as a space for people to explore identity, to find others who they can relate to, and to join together in a push for progress. If someone wants to join in that, great! It's not going to affect you on a personal level, and odds are, if someone wants to be accepted in a queer space, it's because they're queer, and they relate to the queer experience. Even if you don't think so. Even if you don't think they're "really" lgbtq+ or if you don't think they're "oppressed enough" to be here.
Next to nobody is trying to infiltrate the queer community. What would the point of that even be? We're not offering money or cookies or special privileges to our fellow queer people, we're offering support. Support that really would only be relevant if you are a queer person. I don't care that you think this hypothetical cishet alloaro man isn't queer enough, because if he wants the support of the queer community, there is a reason. And they deserve to be seen and heard and accepted like every other shade of queer there is.
The recent surge of aphobia (specifically towards alloaros) and all this fearmongering over hypothetical "invalid" people is really disheartening. Seeing lgbt people outcast other queer people from the community who are "too weird" when we ourselves have been outcast from cishet society for being "too weird" is just. Ironic in the worst possible way. The lack of compassion for other peoples' experiences just goes to show how gatekeep-y this community that's supposed to be about acceptance has become.
Anyways, aspec people are queer. Yes, if they're hetero-alligned. Yes, if they're also allo. If you're aspec, I love you and I will welcome you and I will fight alongside you, because aspec people will always be part of the queer community.
If some hypothetical bad actor wanted to try and "infiltrate" the queer community, whatever that means, you know what else they could just as easily do? Pretend to be gay. Or bi, or trans, and oops now we have to prevent anyone from joining for fear of strawmen. Gatekeeping people from queer identity is a losing prospect no matter how you look at it
Also, minor point, let's not ignore how that's literally just transphobic rhetoric with words replaced. The "men" who are "pretending to be women" to access some nebulous "woman space" is like the most basic terf argument and it should immediately ring a bell that people who pretend to care about trans people would be so willing to reuse those arguments.
If you're willing to exclude people from our community with the same arguments as transphobes use to exclude us from human rights, you're no better than said transphobes and I'd much rather an allocishet person in my community than you.