if you hear about a bi woman being in an abusive relationship with a man and your immediate thought is something along the lines of “that’s what you get for dating men lol” i think you honestly should just drop dead
honestly fuck y’all who do this
it erases women abusers and the abuse issues in the community and helps no one and nothing but ur superiority complex
“Will women always die? Let some men die too,” Dogan told police. “I killed him for my honor.”
Since it was not included in the article, I thought I would provide a rough translation of her historical defense on court;
“When men wear suits and look down they get their sentences lowered; I dont have a suit, my mom barely managed to find this shirt for me. I won’t lie, there is also the joy of being able to survive that i can’t conceal. I’ve walked the corridors of these courthouses countless times, my face covered in bruises, for a restraining order. I didn’t have any other choice. If he hadn’t died, I was going to. He wasn’t going to tell you he had decided to pimp me out, he wasn’t going to talk about his plans of putting me in the arms of other men, he wasn’t going to tell you about the beatings I endured just because the eggplants were slightly overcooked, because the curtains were dirty, because there were leftover crumbs on the table. He wasn’t going to mention how many times I was hospitalized. There is a picture of me taken in the teahouse. I’ve smiled a bit lopsidedly. Maybe he was going to show you that picture and tell you I looked like a dishonorable woman. He was going to tell you he ‘cleansed my honor’ as if he wasn’t planning to pimp me out. You were going to sentence him to 3-5 years and pardon him because i had dishonored him and see my lopsided smile as provocation and feel sad for him. However, honor is mine Mr. Judge, I won’t leave it to anyone else just because I signed a paper.”
her name is Çilem Doğan and she was sentenced to 15 years for this. the court initially wanted to give her life imprisonment. she was released on bail in june 2016 and has since become a symbol for the movement against femicide and violence against women in Turkey.
the translation is accurate - also thanks for translating - but I feel like the post’s missing a vital bit of context: the concept of “honour” is frequently weaponized against women in turkey. reclaiming it the way she does, especially at a court, is a lot more powerful than it sounds.
something about aba therapy that i feel is worth noting:
aba therapists are the only type of therapists in the united states that are not required to have a college degree in order to practice. the vast majority of aba therapists i've met don't have one.
then what are the requirements, you may ask?
be at least 18. have a high school diploma. complete a few hours of general training.
that's it.
they're also allowed to teach your child literally whatever they want. i saw a video of someone the other day who was put thru aba as a child. they were obsessed with the color blue, so what did the aba therapist do? gave every child in their class except them a blue piece of paper for weeks until they stopped crying about it. aka, until they were too numb to the emotional pain of being left out to react anymore.
i guess the end goal was to make them...not like...the color blue anymore? like, seriously. what was the point of that???
they teach children to smile on command even when they don't feel happy. they teach autistic children not to stim - something that has been proven not only beneficial but necessary for autistic people's wellbeing.
they can withhold water, food, or affection from your child until the child complies with whatever behavior they want them to complete. i wish i was joking.
this is literal child abuse.
the only therapy that does not require a degree to practice, abusive as hell, manipulative, they are literally allowed to teach your child whatever the hell they want...and yet it's also the only therapy for autistic children that is covered by most insurance companies.
make it make sense.
When you watch ABA training in action, you realize that it’s dog training. It’s dog training a human child who can’t advocate for better treatment or more respect. I hate it with every fiber of my being.
PEOPLE ARE LITERALLY TREATING OTHER PEOPLE WORSE THAN DOGS AND ITS COVERED BY INSURANCE
