i just wanna say that i’m 25 and still figuring shit out. what i wanna do and who i like and what i like.
the idea that you’re supposed to inherently know your true gender/sexuality by like age 6 and then just not mention it until you’re a teen or in college is strange because it assumes that gender/sexuality is a fixed trait from birth for every single person and also that the self-discovery process is something that should be, at its core, shameful and repressed. and that everyone who didn’t realize they weren’t straight from their zygote state is fake or deceptive or attention seeking
and also just in general tumblr’s idea that everyone 18+ is ideologically static for life or has permanent character traits. adults are growing and changing all the time. you don’t turn 18 or 21 and have the outlook or opinions you’re going to have for the rest of your life. and even OLD people 30 or 35 can totally come out or learn new things and have radically different perspectives than they had 10 years ago!
relax, you’ve got time!
basically no identity or life change has a time line or expiration date. adulthood isn’t the cement that solidifies your personhood forever. everyone is always redefining themselves and how they see the world. i know being a teen feels like you have to undergo massive transformations (whether it be identity or politics or professional goals) year to year and i’m sure everyone over 20 seems like a Certified Grandparent to a lot of y’all, but we’re all still becoming who we’re meant to be.
adulthood isn’t cement, it’s more like jello. jello with bills.
jello with bills
We are all works in progress