Hey there I have a thing where I will look into tarot and even tho it's a general reading I take it to the heart and fucking soul dude. I'm a male, Cancer sun leo moon cancer rising, I have aquarius in the 8th house so I guess it makes sense I'm so into this and of course it's a secret.. nobody knows. But I thought it's time to open up for once about my secret interest which is astrology and tarot but I use it for like emotional fulfillment dude. I'm talking if tarot tells me my crush is gonna reject me my whole mood is FUCKED. If it tells me she will accept me I'm elated. It's crazy how much influence it has on my emotions. Same exact thing with my daily horoscope. If my horoscope tells me my transit of the day is pluto opp mars... bruh. I'm deadass scared throughout the day especially if I'm working on that day. Got any advice? Like wth is wrong with me maybe I need something to fill the void so I use tarot/astrology? I think I got it bad. It's been like this for years... pls
Hey bud, thanks for your message.
First and foremost, you're not the first person to feel this way. I've had many clients over the years expressing the same thing to me. It's also the reason why many of us readers put up disclaimers about taking what resonates and leaving the rest behind and that it's for entertainment purposes only.
I think the best piece of advice I can give you is to treat tarot and astrology as guidelines, not actual facts. You know yourself better than a stranger on your screen. Especially when the reading itself isnt tailored specifically to you (ie pick a card readings; astro observations)
The whole point of tarot is a guideline or steps you can take to implement in the real world. But that's the thing...you have to implement it. You cant just keep doing the readings and not do anything with the information given to you. That will drive you bonkers, my dude!
My rule of thumb for myself is if I've done 2+ readings on a certain topic/situation that's weighing on me, it's about time to start taking action.
Like the situation with you and your crush, for example... Take this with a grain of salt as I don't know your entire situation with them, but.... Maybe it's time for you to ask yourself what you actually want from them? If it's just a crush that you feel will pass, maybe it's time to move on and focus your energy on a different topic. If you want to pursue a relationship, maybe it's time to tell them how you feel, regardless of the presumed rejection. Either option, you're doing it for your peace of mind because now you know what course of action to take, instead of wondering about the what ifs.
You'll become more sure of yourself once you start directing your energy into focusing on what you can control in the here and now that can and will help you elevate your life, rather than focusing on what's to come. What's to come is out of your control. If you try to control the uncontrollable, you're gonna get fucked. Plain and simple.
As you mentioned, it does seem like you're using astro and tarot for emotional fulfillment and it seems that fear is holding you back. So the best way to over come that is to actually implement it in your day to day. Transits aren't looking good? That's life bro! Be glad you have a guideline to help you through it. Pluto opp Mars transit... Take those challenges head on! So you're going to faces a few hard days...but you know what comes after that? Opportunities that you never thought would come. Pluto and Mars are powerful and strong planets ..their meant to test you. It's ok to be afraid of the challenge, just don't let it hinder you from experiencing life. You may not be able to control the challenges coming to you, but you CAN control your reactions to them. And THAT'S where your power is.
I guess to sum this up... Get out of your cerebral and start taking action. You'll be surprised by how many opportunities you're holding yourself back from because of being too scared of the outcome... Life is full of outcomes. Dont let that fear keep you trapped.
I hope this gave you peace of mind in some way.