I thought back to all the times I'd spoken using that phrasing...thinking it was standard when it wasn't. Did everyone else know this? Did I use that during talks? Yes. Job interviews? Yes. Why didn't any one tell me? The idea that I wasn't fully aware and in control of how I spoke was disconcerting. I needed to know when I was being other and when I wasn't. What's the big deal if you can't code-switch at all? My high school classmate had trouble being taken seriously by people who associate standard English with intelligence. I even know of an academic who is AAVE all the time. She ended up stuck in the lots of interviews but no job offers limbo...She suspects a lack of code-switching skill is hurting her prospects...It-shouldn't-be-that-ways aside it's clear that managing your otherness is a career, if not life skill.