Last year, I wasted hundreds of hours fearing what others were saying about me, hundreds of hours wondering if I was good enough, hundreds of hours putting myself down.

And then I thought about all of the art I could have made during that time instead. All of the joy that I could have had. All of the happiness I missed out on.

This year my only resolution was that I would spend less time worrying about the things I couldn’t change and more time finding the joy I missed out on last year. Maybe that in itself is what they call growth.

- Nikita Gill, Excerpts from A New Year

She’s almost done, Felicia Forte

10 women i have been warned against becoming // featuring the 100 ladies:

the beautiful one, the long hair or the slim waist or the pretty eyes or the lips like bowstrings. this woman looks good in everything because she’s confident in whatever you put her in. she’ll cut her hair short on you no matter how you like it, she’ll wear high heels and step on your opinions, she’ll look hot as hell no matter what size she is. see, the reason you can’t trust her is because women like this don’t need your permission, they’ll do as they please and get away with it. they’ll say no to you, over and over. teach your daughters that beautiful means dangerous, teach them to distrust women who love themselves. equate beautiful with vapid, equate pretty with stupid, take their power from them. say they’re vain for their makeup, refuse to see them without it. these women are snakes, they are serpents. i said maybe the problem lies with you being unable to control yourself and was told to get off my pedestal.

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