Idk why it is so hard to simply Not Be Around Someone You Don't Like
Your mutual friends are like 'hey you hate this person and it's unpleasant being around the two of you' so you eventually go 'well fair enough I hate being around them and I'm miserable to be around with them so I will not be around them' and then your mutual friends act as if you're creating a massive drama or as if something terrible must have transpired
no, I'm not accusing them of anything and no, I'm not asking you to stop being friends with them and no, I'm not asking you to choose between us, I am simply saying I'm going to choose to avoid them. Myself. Doesn't reflect on you or mean you need to do anything. Not a big fucking thing.
'whatever's going on with you and X' well YOU told ME a couple of months ago that I was clearly triggered and overreacting whenever I see them so I listened to the thing you said and went 'huh, yeah, that's true and I don't have a solution other than not seeing them' and now you're acting like something major has transpired between me and X? Like my GOD can a bitch not simply hit the bricks????
I swear to Christ we all need to get much chiller about the idea that it's literally fine to not want to be around someone and it doesn't have to indicate some deep and terrible trauma it can just be. that nobody's enjoying that interaction.
Can we simply. As a culture. Agree on a sort of no-fault friend divorce where you say 'yeah this isn't working' and it is not a WHOLE FUCKING THING?????
and this does actually upset me also bc having said it doesn't need to be a trauma thing, and this one isn't, there have been multiple times where it uhhhh kinda has been that deep and people STILL treat the cutting ties thing as being more drama-causing than the doing significant harm thing? so that's not this situation but it does mean I'm a bit uhhhhh sensitive to how much of a fucking Thing it always is to say 'i don't want to be around this person just fyi'