the urge to blame women for men's problems runs so fucking deep in culture. from Male Loneliness to the alt right pipeline we talk about these things like it's womens' obligation to do the emotional labor for these men.
like i do think that pulling people out of the alt-right pipeline is valuable, but uh, frankly i think it's something that cishet white men should step up to bat for, considering that they are categorically the most safe when interacting with these people and also the most likely to be actually listened to and respected.
also yeah "you have privilege over other people and oppressed people might not always be polite about it" is just a bandaid that needs to be ripped off at some point. some people just hear "you have privilege" as "you are evil and deserve to be punished" and thats just something that they are going to have to get over.