a lot of people have reached out to me about their gofundmes so I thought I'd make a post to promote them. all of these have been vetted, so if you're looking for somebody to donate to, consider one of these!

I think Frisk would like Kirby...

Palestinian girls and women are forced to use tents as pads. People boost. Donate if you can

Help me and my family please 🙏

@el-shab-hussein @ibtisams-blog @northgazaupdates @northgazaupdates2 @90-ghost

Noha’s campaign has been verified by el-shab-hussein and nabulsi, she is #157 on their spreadsheet of verified campaigns

I think some people forget that some literature and some media is meant to be deeply uncomfortable and unsettling. It's meant to make you have a very visceral reaction to it. If you genuinely can't handle these stories then you are under no obligation to consume them but acting as if they have no purpose or as if people don't have a right to tell these stories, stories that often relate to the darkest or most disturbing parts of life, then you should do some introspection.

I’ve read some things that deal in sad/dark/actually depressing and disturbing subject matter. I’ve loved them and the points they make without endorsing the events portrayed.

It’s always disappointing to get online and see that the conversation is “X thing shouldn’t exist” on the grounds that it made somebody feel badly. It was meant to make you feel that way and it’s normal that it did - it’s okay that you stop reading it or don’t finish it but I am BEGGING you to consider why it made you uncomfortable and why the author felt the need (if the answer isn’t immediately obvious, as it can be). There isn’t shame in something putting you off so badly that you shelve it.

The sterilization of reality is a detriment to all who exist within it. To censor stories with painful themes is to erase the reality that such stories are based in some horrific truth and works to erase the reality that many people have endured.

This trend or whatever we want to call it has gotten so bad that I listened to an entire lecture from somebody about how awful a book was and how it shouldn’t exist at all, how the author was a terrible person for concocting it and how it hurt people. When I asked what the book was, this person not only could barely recall the name but HAD NEVER READ IT. I bought the book. I read the book. It accomplished its task beautifully and I found it to be a cathartic experience. I also understood how it could make people so uncomfortable and would never judge anybody for setting it down.

It’s okay not to like something and distance yourself from it. Remember that those rules apply only to you, though, because they speak only to your own psyche.

Periodic reminder that one of the many roles of fiction is microdosing on big scary feelings so you build resilience, empathy, understanding, and defense against the real thing.

Sometimes I do ship something and it's not unpopular its just that fanon harbors enough popular misconceptions to make the content frequently unreadable. So I will be like "can I have my ship please" and the internet will go "sure! here are a thousand results!" and I will go "is it actually my ship or is it some guys who are basically totally different characters in all meaningful ways that someone is having masquerade as my blorbos?" and the answer is yes often enough that I give up

Palestine campaigns with under a thousand donations

Trying a new tactic with the fundraisers on my pinned list. These campaigns appear to gain a lot more traction when the number of donations hits a thousand, so here's a way to highlight those that could use more. Just like the main list, I'll keep you all updated with how things progress, and as always, if you can't donate, reblog.

LAST UPDATED 7/29

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Palestine campaigns with under a thousand donations

Trying a new tactic with the fundraisers on my pinned list. These campaigns appear to gain a lot more traction when the number of donations hits a thousand, so here's a way to highlight those that could use more. Just like the main list, I'll keep you all updated with how things progress, and as always, if you can't donate, reblog.

LAST UPDATED 7/23

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today's vetted fundraisers. please please continue to share and donate in whatever capacities you're able. these families just want to live.

june 25th:

every link on here is an opportunity to give life and hope. don't turn away. your help is urgently needed, whatever form it takes

while we're all online and memeing the failed assassination of a usamerican fascist please take a second to [donate to save a family in Gaza] and do your [daily click for Palestine]

while we're debating if COVID will kill Biden please consider buying an [esim for someone in Gaza], and helping sustain efforts to provide [medical] [relief], [food] and [clean water] on the ground in Gaza

you know the drill, Biden dropped out of the race so click the links above and while you're here also check out [Operation Olive Branch] for more resources to directly support and save lives in Palestine

vetted fundraisers from today. please continue to give support to families like these in whatever capacities you can, they are suffering such unfathomable deprivation and grief.

july 18th:

not yet vetted:

a small amount of your time and effort can have an immeasurable impact. please don't scroll past without engaging in some way, it really makes a difference

Donate to Helping Ahmed's Family: Escaping War to a New Life ‼️❗️🚨

please continue to share and donate if you have the means! Ahmed and his family need 3500€ , they are at 31,500€, and donations have been slowing down. please take the time to support these family in pursuing their dream.

€31,500/€35,000 goal 🙏🍉

Your donation of just 5 euros could make a significant impact on our lives and help ensure my children's safety.

My family urgently need your assistance and help and support 🍉🙏🙏🙏🙏🍉‼️❗️‼️

I am Ahmed Al-Nabih from Gaza, and this is my twin brother Abdul Rahman. I am 30 years old. I used to live a beautiful life with my family and my brother. The idea of ​​marriage was on the table and we were going to continue our lives in our beautiful house, but something happened like a nightmare. The war came and took all our dreams and destroyed our house. Our lives became very difficult and arduous. We lived in tents. In the extreme heat, my mother suffers from chronic diseases, heart disease, blood pressure, and diabetes. Please help me save my family and my elderly mother. I ask for your support and participation. A small donation makes a difference. I have only collected 1,60euros in about five months! Thank you all!❤️🙏

Verified by @palestinegenocide @queerstudiesnatural @90-ghost @northgazaupdates @apollos-olives @riding-with-the-wild-hunt

Vetted Gaza Fundraiser List #218 🇵🇸🇵🇸 @el-shab-hussein

Pictures of me and my twin brother before the war!

Pictures of us with my mother before the war, when our lives were beautiful and stable!☹️

A picture in the war of my mother, who is 62 years old, due to the lack of medicine because she suffers from chronic diseases, blood pressure, heart, and diabetes. Her health condition deteriorated due to the difficult life in Gaza and famine, and because we live in tents in the extreme heat.!🥹

I am during the war and my life has become arduous and tiring!😌

Now we live here, it is a terrifying life, more like a nightmare!☹️

Our beautiful house has become rubble!😢

putting together a list of gofundme's from people who have reached out to me via asks or dms. please donate if you can and reblog if you can't.

Hey, let's talk about anons like this, because I know some people haven't been in a position to see the patterns these play out in on broader scale and may indeed not spot the trap.

And it is a trap.

An ask like this has several purposes.

First, it uses social justice language in passive aggressive and manipulative ways to try to coerce a behavior. In this case, the desired behavior is usually for the recipent to participate in community shunning and/or harrassment. The language above is intended to put the recipient on the defensive where, in the haste to disassociate themself from the Bad Thing, they quickly disassociate themself from the bad person, often with no particular fact checking or evidence.

The message is also intended to create a sense of being surveilled and judged by an unknown amount of people with unknown amount of social power and an unknown amount of relevance to your life.

Notice that these asks are usually framed as if they are coming from a follower or potential follower, someone who is addressing you personally and who cares about your opinion and who your blog has an effect on. However this is usually.... very much not the case. If you've ever had the misfortune to watch a gossip campaign from like this from the outside, you will very quickly notice that messages like this get sent in mass batches to dozens and dozens of strangers. (You can often turn these up with a tumblr search, if you look.)

The sender does not know you and probably does not follow you. They have a person they don't like (possibly for their stated reason and possibly not), and they are going through the reblogs of a post from that blog and mass messaging *everyone* with a form letter. They will not see your response and they will probably never even see your blog again.

Which brings us to the second goal of whisper campaigns like this:

Notice that I blacked out the names above? That's because when the recipient answers anonymous asks like this, they provide a platform for the opinion on their blog. An anonymous message like this that gets posted doesn't just spread gossip and apply pressure to the recipient, it is spread to the recipient's entire community.

The *goal* is to get access to your community. The *goal* is to use you as a soapbox.

Is the information accurate? Did anyone check? Does the anon have an ulterior social motive? BIG SHRUG

If you go into the comments on one of these whisper campaigns you will see that *most people never bother to check.*

They assume good faith from a follower, they're off balance defending themselves, and they jump straight to conciliation.

It's a really, really effective form of social manipulation, and really really commonly misused.

This is what bullying on social media can look like especially in left-leaning/social justice minded circles. This is how otherwise caring people get roped into participating in harassment campaigns.

my absolute favorite of this, a while back, was this ask which i can't find anymore, but someone sent jumpingjacktrash a note about how they liked his writing and wanted to recommend it to people and so on, but they weren't comfortable with it because of his continued reblogging of posts from the-real-seebs, a known homophobe, and they just felt like if he'd block me and stop reblogging my posts, they would be comfortable recommending his fanfic to people. and since jesse is a gay man, it stands to reason he would be shocked and horrified to find out he was associating with a known homophobe.

ultimately, i think, the thing that decided him on this question, and led to him accepting the possible loss of fame and fandom, was that we'd been married for over twenty years at this point.