Stronger Than You

oh my god

I need the rest of this story

right okay, her husband pays these dudes to kill her, and they kidnap her, but rather than kill her (they told her they don’t kill women) after a day, they drop her off with a cell phone, the recording of her husband asking for her to be killed, plus the $7000 he paid them, and tell her to go make sure it doesn’t do that again, so she fucking turns up right after the funeral about a week later??, and his ass freaks out and he screams some shit about ghosts, but shes like “lol no bitch i’m real” and hes in jail now and she free af to be with her 8 kids.

I’ve seen so many girls do this recently, it’s like a craze! Hey, guess what — not having the same rights as opposite-sex couples, dealing with day-to-day slurs, and not being taken seriously because “silly girls” use the term “wife” or “totes married to x” to mean a best friend or a roommate is pretty shitty! And even if you don’t believe in the institution of marriage — which is fine — it’s still a pretty big deal to me, that in the country I live in, my spouse could be denied seeing me in the hospital. So why not just respect those that wish to have marriage (with or without the religious connotations) as a fundamental right that opposite-sex couples already get to have? Why don’t we choose some different words the next time we feel like remarking that our female-bodied friend is super-duper cool? And yes, this applies to queer/bisexual/poly/lesbian ladies, too — if you’re not actually married, just, y’know, don’t use those terms like they’re frivolous. Because to some of us, they mean a lot of struggling, a lot of heartache and a lot of bigoted speech/homophobia being thrown our way. You get to use the terms for “fun” on a whim — I get to use them to fight oppression on a daily basis. There’s a difference. Please try to respect that.

In which my (actual) wife sums up mutual ire perfectly. 

There are so many things we can (and have) point(ed) to that trivialize real people’s day-to-day struggles, whether that’s marriage, sexualities, or mental illness, simply because this generation seems to think taking things to the extreme is a way to stand out and be noticed. 

Be quirky in your own way, step off my goddamned turf.