As a brown trans boy it sucked so badly to watch those “gender envy” slides on tik tok and see only white boys with fluffy hair. It was a little thing but it made me feel invisible even in my own community. So these are men that look like me and give me gender envy. If you’re POC disabled/ don’t see your self in common trans discussions feel free to add on.
Bitch daughter/Bastard son
I missed the one year anniversary of this post, but I wanted to celebrate this all the same. Happy one year(+) to this comic, and the day I stood up for myself and went no-contact with my family.
chewing on drywall thinking about how many people never pursue phalloplasty because of transphobic misinformation about functionality & appearance & the belief that anything less than the Platonic Ideal of Human Penis is completely worthless
My mother tells me it's not an option for "Someone like me", but I was a little interested in the concept as a potential procedure to look into. Do you have any links where I could read up on it?
I was told that no one who gets phalloplasty feels it, there's no nerves there, the ability to feel pleasure is completely gone, and that there is a high risk for mistakes. I never really believed any of the stuff people told me about it, but I have no other sources to get truthful resources.
Yes! phallo.net is a good resource for information. They have a ton of articles explaining all different parts of the process (including stuff for nonbinary people) and have resources on finding surgeons. (There's also metoidioplasty.net for people interested in meta!). r/phallo on Reddit is another good place to check out. There's a lot of discussion about the process & different experiences, & people post photos ranging from "day after first surgery" to "fully completed, healed and tattooed." You can also check out Finley Games, who has extensively documented his experience with phalloplasty on his blog and in his memoir.
Its not true that phallo means you won't have any nerves or be able to feel pleasure. Nerves are taken from the donor site and connected to the nerves in the pelvis (like the clitoris), & they regrow so that the new penis develops sensation. The most common type of phalloplasty (RFF, where the skin is taken from the forearm) has high success rates. Dr. Blair Peters is a queer surgeon who specializes bottom surgery & has done a lot of work focusing on sensation; they were the doctor who did the study that found out how many nerves are in the clitoris. He has written a lot of articles looking into improving sensation in bottom surgery & their team at OHSU has a guide on how to improve post-op nerve rehab.
Phallo.net has a page on the risks & complications here. It is nowhere near as bad as people will make it out to be (it is extremely unlikely that it will become necrotic, despite how much people love talking about that). From what I know, most complications come from urethral lengthening, which is what is done to allow people to stand to pee. Phalloplasty is much more complicated than top surgery, but its not a butcher job & it has been shown to have a high satisfaction rate despite this. A good doctor will ask you what you want to prioritize and avoid in your bottom surgery, & work with you to find out the best course to take.
Interview With Jamison Green. Originally posted on Youtube, by Dr. Lindsey Doe.
TRANSCRIPT: [Jamison Green sitting on a couch, being interviewed by Dr. Doe. He is wearing a suit shirt and a black jacket, and has a grey beard.] JAMISON: When I first transitioned, I thought I was going to go get a sex change, then go home and mow my lawn. I did not ever imagine that my life would change at all, because already people- at least half the time, sometimes more- thought I was male. And so, I figured nothing was going to change, I would just feel more comfortable in my body. I realised that there were all these other people out there who were living in fear and shame, because of their differences. And I thought, that is not right. And so I said to them, I’m going to start using my full name in public, and I’m going to start talking about who we are. Don’t be afraid to change in all kinds of ways. Your self can change. [Jamison and the interviewer high-five.] INTERVIEWER: I’m impressed by what you’ve done. JAMISON: Thank you. END TRANSCRIPT.
Jamison Green was born in 1948. He came out as a trans man the late 1980s and made his transition public, for the benefit of others. He has been an activist since then, and led the FTM community after Lou Sullivan's death.
His contributions to trans rights have been largely erased by mainstream narratives around trans history.
Mr. Green wrote the book Becoming a Visible Man, exploring his experiences as a bisexual trans guy, his relationships with lovers and family, and his struggle to transition. He was involved in the 2012 documentary TRANS, where he advocated on behalf of trans people, and discussed his experiences with being s*xually assaulted.
