A couple of years ago I was tidying a rarely-tidied storage space, and found this painting that I bought long pre-transition (and then hid away, and eventually forgot about), because I had been captivated by the beauty of it, and wished dearly that it could be me, and settled for "in another life", and now, it's basically me (if I put my hair up):

...even down to the small boobs and big hands and that dress, and this is what I thought I could never be

Published in “Transvestia” magazine #38 (April 1966). I think original art could be by Bob Tupper.

not sure if anyone’s added this info here but because I wanted to know more I checked and….

Every issue of transvestia magazine, which ran from the 60’s through to the 80’s is available through the uVic archives. It was a groundbreaking publication for the crossdressing and later the transgender community. Check it out.

https://vault.library.uvic.ca/collections/6576cedf-1282-4089-8351-08f73f4199b4

Hey trans friends in the US, has your state made it difficult or next to impossible to get the healthcare you need? Can't afford to leave home and/or want to stay and fight? Yah me too.

Well I know of many, many sky friends spread throughout the us who would like to go on a free little weekend sky adventure. :]

Check em out and chat about em with even more friends.

Ps: they also help those with uteruses go on a safe vaycay too ✨️✨️

The pilots giving a hand are highly experienced professionals(unlike me, I'm still a newbie😅), most who fly the big planes for work also own little planes either for fun &/or to keep up their skills. Pilots often use their little birds to hop around to visit friends far away anyways, so what's a few more flights to a friend in need?

Btw if anyone wants to help in any way pilots, mechanics, funds, people organizing, or just anything in general, contact them and see what you can offer.

Or hell, since it seems we're gonna be in this hellscape for a long time (hopefully not) if you have the means too, look into becoming a pilot or plane mechanic yourself. Cant afford too? Check out the National Gay Pilot's Association, they offer scholarships for a local flying or a&p school near you. Being real, it's not easy, ngl. But worth :]

In case this post/I get nuked or for whatever, uuuuh it'd be good if all 5000+ of yall made a post (not just a reblog) of this too. + It'd be good if more people can get the news thru other reaches too, like on other socials, etc. I've met the organizers of this and many pilots and other volunteers. They're genuinely good people/ excellent and the ones I know are very safe pilots.

this organization is amazing. Here’s an article about one of their pilots and the work they do: https://www.marieclaire.com/politics/elevated-access-abortion-pilots/

(April 12th 2024)

No medical confirmation or psychological evaluation necessary. The law will be active by the 1st of November this year.

First names can also be changed while changing gender. One all inclusive package with minimum effort.

Here's the AP article about it for anyone who wants it

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I need people outside of Germany to understand how huge this is!

It came into effect yesterday, November 1st, 2024!!!!

The funniest thing I ever did on tumblr dot com is send myself an anon ask apologizing for a previous anonymous ask that was being transphobic. I then publicly answered to say, thank you for doing the right thing and then I turned off anonymous asks. That was 7 years ago, and I just found this sitting in my inbox:

Imagine logging on and seeing that your mortal enemy has finally decided to admit the truth after 7 years but now you’re being clowned on by 10 thousand people

I can’t believe anon was right about me. We are BOTH trans now. We’ve come full circle.

Tapping the sign.

I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans women I love you trans w

Long magical girl transformation and the whole audience is so excited to see how I will subvert it, but in the end I just look like a normal magical girl and they're all booing me because I didn't subvert the genre and I'm crying because I just wanted to be a normal magical girl

i made this post to make fun of irony poisoned people who have to subvert everything, but this is literally just what being a trans woman is like

also my original drawing that sparked probably the wildest death threat attack against me has been salvaged, after tumblr took it down and pretended to give it back to me

goth hijabi and her sweet lolita gf

[id: a digital drawing of two muslim women standing together. The woman on the left has dark brown skin and is smiling and blushing as she talks excitedly. She is wearing a frilly, short pink and white dress with pale pink trousers on underneath. She also has on a pink jacket, white gloves, and a light pink hijab which is tied to the side of her face, she is carrying a small pink heart bag across her shoulder. The woman next to her is taller with pale olive skin, she is draped in black fabric that leaves only her face visible and forms a long layered dress \end id]

also this is old but wanted to note to all my current followrts and those who may see this the sweet lolita hijabi is not a woman but a nonbinary lesbian as they are my oc

only the goth hijabi is a woman and goes by she/her

[id: A second drawing of the muslim woman and non-binary person. They are dressed in the same outfits, this time posed with the goth woman holding a trans flag and lolita styled person holding the non-binary flag\end id]

Thanks for reminding me about this lovely art! I’ve updated my origional description to reflect their identities though I don’t know if it will change on old reblogs.

One unexpected thing about being on T is the way that cis men are also jealous of you

Trans men being jealous? Especially those who aren't on T yet? Yeah fair, expected that one

I did not expect cis men to start being like "how are you 4 months on T and already have a deeper voice and more facial hair than me" lmao

But also it really just goes to show you that testosterone affects everyone differently and that 100% includes cis men as well. Chances are that if you're dysphoric about your voice, height, etc. there is also a cis man out there rn insecure about the exact same things

Make your own 💀

Cisgender men are extremely jealous of the way I travel through Boston

Great post everyone, hit the showers

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Confront yourself with the uncomfortable reality that gender, sex, and sexuality are all fuzzier than you want them to be.

You cannot hold the idea that gender is a social construct while also holding the idea that sex and sexuality are rigid, unchanging boxes. It's all just words and definitions we created to try to explain human experience and guess what! Human experience is messy and complex and not beholden to a dictionary!

Just like gender, sex and sexuality are also more complicated and complex than any lines you attempt to draw in sand around them. Do what you want forever.

Literally sick to death of twitter throwing a fit every single day about art depicting visibly trans people, GNC trans people, etc, and calling it a hateful caricature. ESPECIALLY when often it turns out to be explicitly based on someone the artist is friends with, and people still say the most horrible things about their appearance.

Like, I get it. Many trans people feel defensive because there absolutely are a lot of shitty caricatures of us. And since two out of the three 'controversies' I've seen most recently were transmasc artists drawing transfem characters - Yes, trans artists should think about the ways they depict other types of trans people and ideally not stereotype them and show their diversity too.

But all too often people just project their own issues and judgements on a particular piece of art and basically end up making up a guy to get mad at.

This is the one I saw today -

It's not even a drawing of a trans woman, turns out. According to the trans man artist who drew it, the piece is called 'genderless' and it's based on a real person he knows. It's at a gay bar.

And it bothers me that people were so quick to assume, and many even to double down on gendering the person depicted in this drawing. This is just a clear representation of a trans person whose gender and sex are ambiguous, intentionally. They are intentionally visibly trans, but crucially, not in a way that tells you anything about what type of trans person they are.

Or do these people just not realise there are transmasc people who look exactly like this? Who have stubble and hairy chests and small, 'deflated' breasts. It's not uncommon at all. There are trans women who look like this. There are nonbinary people and genderfluid people and agender people and genderqueer people who look like this.

So it's honestly really shitty to assume a trans artist just decided to draw a hateful caricature at a gay bar instead of simply representing one of these people. Which is what actually happened.

Frankly it just feels like weird respectability politics, and some people having a disgust response to a visibly non cis, non comforming body presented in a neutral way. And finding ways to justify that after the fact.

(At least in some cases. I have no issues with trans women who didn't personally like it and suggested at least the name of the art piece should be available for context in a little plaque or something. That makes sense!)

Hot take even trans people who "look like" transphobic caricatures deserve to be celebrated and perhaps we should instead be targeting people who think looking like that is a bad thing.

YEAH thank you!! Like I don't know how that's not obvious to more people

There were so many replies just absolutely insulting this person's appearance and reinforcing the idea that looking like this is wrong or disgusting. Someone said "my partner looks like this and I think they're beautiful" and got told they were insulting their partner with the comparison. As if looking like this is some unthinkable flaw

This is honestly something that has tanked my self esteem lately. I was really happy with the changes I was getting from HRT, but with the general state of the world and the constant influx of anti-trans hate and a little sprinkling of scrupulosity, when I look in the mirror I see a caricature. I put on outfits I used to love and think to myself "I can't go out like this- it's an insult to other people" because when they look at me they won't see a human being, they'll see a caricature of a trans person

Real people cannot be caricatures by simply looking like themselves. The way you look doesn't say anything about anyone else, it's just part of who you are, and there is nothing wrong with it. I'm really sorry you have to deal with this. It's really just such bullshit.

Love answering ”why are you transgender?” with “God told me to” because it’s funny and it confuses everyone except for me. And God. Because he told me to.

People see being queer as being fundamentally divorced from the concept of religion so if I tell people that my faith is interconnected with my journey to coming out as trans and played a big role in it they don’t really believe me. So saying “God told me to” is funnier than telling the whole story.

The day I came out to my dad and brother as trans was a Sunday and during the holding hands part after communion I looked up at the stained glass on the ceiling in the church and got this overwhelming sickening terrifying feeling that I’d been in the closet too long.

You normally think of spiritual experiences as happy but I felt sick in that moment deep in my chest because I knew I had to do it now. I’d been hiding too long. And you might read that moment differently than I did but to me that was my sign. And I was terrified the whole time but I did come out to my family that day. It was like pulling a thorn out. Painful but absolutely necessary.

Sometimes a sign from God is comforting and other times it’s Him telling you to do your homework. And that’s also a part of faith.

I’m not asking all of you to believe the same things I do. I don’t do that. Evangelizing isn’t one of my gifts or something I’m interested in. But I would ask you to make space for stories that don’t fit your idea of how being trans is supposed to work. Whether they involve religion or not.

There’s no one universal experience we all have and I feel like sometimes other trans people just assume that I’ve been burned by religion the exact same way they have. I haven’t been. In fact, religion and my faith community has often been there for me when secular society hasn’t been. And that too is a transgender experience. Not a universal trans experience, but my trans experience for sure.

HEY UM. This is Transmisogynistic.

you can discuss the ways trans men are shit on and ignored without repeating verbatim terf talking points and regurgitating the absolute bullshit that is ‘amab privilege’ i get it okay. i’ve fallen down this rabbithole of thinking before but trans women are not your fucking enemy they are your sisters. love and cherish them. okay? okay. there’s so much here i can’t unpack it all but all this? everything they’re saying? deeply, deeply transmisogynistic.

The AMAB privilege of being put on T-blockers without a sufficiently high dose of E, thus destroying your bone health without significant feminizing effects, or having to fight doctors every time you want to raise your dose or change your admin method from pills to patches or gel or injections, or ask for an alternative to fucking spiro because better alternatives exist yet they keep giving us the Alan Turing Sterilization Special, or asking for progesterone and being denied due to "insufficient research" despite basically every girl you know reporting beneficial effects after going on it and despite cis women having higher levels of P but doctors treating you as an entirely different species from cis women instead of just a different type of woman, or doctors believing E doesn't do as much as T and you'll never have as much breast growth as cis women despite the study that conclusion is based on ending at the two-year mark (breasts keep growing after two years), or being told by everyone around you that it's misogynistic to factually state the emotional changes you are actually experiencing due to the shift in your hormonal make-up, or the fact that most providers are basing their knowledge off outdated studies and target effectively menopausal levels of E and thus keep your dosage lower than it should be, or ... I could seriously keep going!

Tumblr queers please purge the idea that doctors still see us as men and roll out the red carpet for us! They see us as weird hysterical pervert freaks trying to ruin our male bodies and they keep fighting us, basing their treatments on bad and outdated research, and denying us epistemic authority over our own bodies and experiences.

YOU KNOW, SORT OF LIKE TEXTBOOK MEDICAL MISOGYNY. WHCH WE EXPERIENCE. BECAUSE WE'RE WOMEN.

Okay. I know this is literally old woman talk right now, but I used to drive three hours one-way to get exactly the treatment described above. My plea for finasteride to stop my hair loss was ignored on my first visit, so I had to wait three months. It was MISERABLE.

That was considered "good care" at the time. They were friendly. They were respectful of my pronouns. But they functionally delayed my transition, at a time when I was already very distressed.

The thing that is so evil about the person in the screenshot is how that's such a vibes based world view. No examples, no studies, no research, just how they imagine the world to be. And they just so happen to imagine the world the same way a transphobic conservative does

I think we need to sit down and talk about malgendering.

Not misgendering, malgendering.

We all know what misgendering means. Misgendering is when a trans person (or to be honest, even a cis person) has their gender denied to them in some fashion by implying, suggesting or outright stating that their gender is actually Something Else and not the one they identify as.

e.g. A trans woman being told she cannot attend a certain class because it's 'just for women'.

Malgendering is when the trans persons gender is not questioned or denied and may even be affirmed - but only in a context in which it can be used against them in some fashion (to make judgements on them as a person, to exclude them from something, to incite bigotry towards them etc).

e.g. That same trans woman taking her shirt off on a hot day and being arrested for indecent exposure.

This is misgendering;- "You're not a woman, you're a man." This is malgendering;- "Trans women are women, so obviously they exist to serve men."* *obvs it is also transmisogyny and all malgendering is transphobia.

But what you don't want to hear is that malgendering is a form of transphobia mainly used against trans masculine people and nonbinary people.

Most people recognise malgendering when it's;

Using the term 'theyfab' to ridicule an agender person or making jokes about how an agender they/them user looks (to you) to be a completely cis woman.

But you need to look out for how;

Malgendering is treating trans men like their transition has turned them into women-hating predators because of your own predjudices towards men/trans man were always inherently women-hating predators because maleness is what makes you those things not your actual thoughts, words and actions.

Malgendering is not listening to how trans masc people are marginalised 'because men aren't oppressed though' as if that's not ignoring a huge part of their identity (the being trans part) and how that works.

Malgendering is telling trans men 'this is just what it's like to be a man, people treat you like shit and you have to take it or not transition'.

Malgendering is insisting that any trans man who calls any attention to the fact that he is indeed, trans, and has/had female anatomy and faces misogyny due to being raised and still perceived (by transphobes) as a woman is misgendering himself, all other trans men and 'weaponising his AFABness'

All of this is transphobia. All of this is bigotry. This kind of predjudice and bullying doesn't magically become 'OK' once you find the 'right' group to do it to. You either want to end bigotry and transphobia and identity-specific targetted hate or you want to perpetuate it. But you can't call yourself a trans ally, or escape the bigotry allegations whilst malgendering people. And no you're not being sneaky by slipping in your hateful predjudice comments and actions whilst validating their gender.

Malgendering is transphobia.