shocked that i haven’t seen a post about this already but the way that “full body deodorant” is being pushed on us is so vile. that woman in the commercials being like “i’m a woman and i know how it feels to be ashamed of your body’s natural odors. that’s why i invented this shit to rub between your thighs so you, too, can feel ashamed of your body’s natural odors. unless you buy my product :)” die die die die kill yourself fuck you fuck you

the people in my grandparents’ generation who were marketed baby powder to keep their pussies dry and odorless and got fucking cancer from it are rolling in their graves rn. please stop i’m begging you just let your body do its thing i promise hey. look at me. i promise you don’t smell bad. no one can smell you. and if they can, i promise they will be fine. please i’m begging

if i take a girl’s underwear off and smell chemical imitation lavender or rose or whatever instead of sweat and musk and girlstink the way god intended i’m burning down a cvs

Reminder:

Demisexual was made up on an roleplaying forum as an excuse for why a character would fuck around with some people and not others.

It was then ‘imported’ to Tumblr by one of their users at the time, FactualWiley, as a joke.  People then began using it unironically, not realizing it was entirely made up.

I. What? I don’t. Trying not to have a personal crisis rn cause I’m grey ace/demisexual…. what…

Brutal honesty here and not for the sake of being mean, but I think you should probably hear this.

Tumblr has a very, very bad habit of creating spaces where group-think becomes the norm.  It is, for lack of a better term, a bunch of cults who keep people in line by oscillating between validation  and abuse, which is precise how cults (and abusers in general) break people down.

I can’t speak to your entire history here, but I’ve seen it several times where certain behaviors are suddenly deemed a sexuality/gender/etc to create the illusion of validity. 

I’m going to guess you had certain feelings and behaviors and you found others to tell you that you were valid and special because of them.  When, in reality, demisexuality is just a set of behaviors straight/bi/gay people exhibit as is the norm.

You’ve been shown that you were lied to.  I really hope you don’t double down and go right back to believing that lie just because it is easier.  That’s not healthy.

I would honestly suggest stepping back and reassessing your sexuality without the demisexual label.  Maybe you’re bi, gay, straight, I dunno, but there’s nothing wrong with any of those labels and you don’t need ‘demisexual’ to feel valid.  You were valid already.

I don’t normally do this, but I’ve been alive and LGBT longer than you have by a significant margin.  So if you need to hash some things out, you can message me and I’ll do my best.

Seriously.  Don’t go back to the lie.  You won’t be happy because you will always, deep down, know it was a lie.  It will only cause you stress, pain and damage in the future.

Legitimately hope you read this and take what I said seriously.

dude where tf do you think “real” sexualities come from? damn, if someone feels happy under the demisexual label who cares. 

Nature. That’s where “real” sexual orientations — homosexuality, bisexuality, heterosexuality — come from.

“Demisexuality” is also known as, “not into one night stands”, and that isn’t a sexual orientation, it’s a dating choice.

A great one, but a dating choice never the less. Get off your special sauce.

i’m not demisexual myself, but i have friends that identify with the label. and from what i understand, it’s not “not into one night stands” but “doesnt feel sexual attraction until a strong emotional bond is formed”.

i’m allosexual, meaning i’m not Ace or anywhere on that spectrum. i dont do one night stands (dating choice), but i can still feel sexual attraction when i meet someone for the first time (not a choice).

my friend doesnt experience this, he is not allosexual. but he can experience sexual attraction once he and his partner develope a deeper romantic relationship, so he is not completely asexual. and no, he’s not just a “sex possitive ace”. he can feel sexual attraction some times.

maybe the origin of the term demisexual came from an rp forum, but the definition has changed. just because the word is new in the lexicon doesn’t mean humans haventever had this experience before the word came about. it’s a situation of “there’s a word for that?? i’m not the only one who experiences this??” even if that word wasnt created with the intent of being a real identity.

i honestly dont think telling people that a label they use, one that makes themselves feel good and not alone, is a “lie” is going to do way more harm than good. telling ppl “you were and are valid even without the label” doesnt negate that you just told them that part of their identity isnt real and is made up and have given them no alternative, you just ripped away part of who they feel they are. who tf cares where the word came from? “gay” originally had jothing to do with homosexuality, but now look. its that main term for it. and an abuse/cult cycle? really? you talked about the ‘validation’ part of the cycle, but where the abuse? what part of going “hey, here’s a term to simply expain a complicated experience of mine to someone else and they’ll understand” abusive? no one is forcing ppl to identify and ascep or greyace. infact, they’re the part of the LBGT+ queer community that gets shat on the most because of terfs. and you coming in here trying to gatekeep terms really feels like anti ace discourse, and i’m not going to just let that slide.

TL;DR there is literally zero harm in letting people call themself demisexual, especially since sexual attraction isnt cut and dry between Ace and Allo, just like how it isnt between Hetero and Homo. the world isnt black and white and we are constantly inventing new words to describe personal experiences. it no longer matters where it came from, the meaning has changed.

stop trying to gatekeep the community. you’re not the Identity Police

“There are many times when we’re planning a season that you kind of have to avoid giving the audience exactly what they want because things start to become predictable…” Dave Benioff

Honestly fuck this storytelling style. 

Fuck this style of storytelling that puts authorial masturbation over a satisfying conclusion to a story. Fuck this obsession with “swerves” and “subverting expectations.” 

Fuck this mentality that you have to outsmart the audience in order to make a good product. 

Fuck the idea that “predictable” is automatically boring. Fuck the idea that people who have been paying attention to long-running story arcs should be punished for giving a shit and expecting a cohesive conclusion to a long running story. 

Fuck this idea that disappointing endings are okay if they’re “unexpected.” Fuck this auteur mentality where writers have to prove that they’re the cleverest boys in the whole wide world. 

Tell a goddamned story; nobody tunes in for twists. 

Also, check out what George R.R. Martin himself said:

“The fans use to come up with theories; lots of them are just speculative but some of them are in the right way. Before the Internet, one reader could guess the ending you wanna do for your novel, but the other 10.000 wouldn’t know anything and they would be surprised. However, now, those 10.000 people use the Internet and read the right theories. They say: “Oh God, the butler did it!”, to use an example of a mystery novel. Then, you think: “I have to change the ending! The maiden would be the criminal!” To my mind that way is a disaster because if you are doing well you work, the books are full of clues that point to the butler doing it and help you to figure up the butler did it, but if you change the ending to point the maiden, the clues make no sense anymore; they are wrong or are lies, and I am not a liar.”

*drops mic*

okay, adding my own tags bc fuck it

yes   and it IS fun when you read something and go OMG I SAW THAT FORESHADOW AND DIDN’T REALIZE  but  there is nothing less fun than an ending that makes no sense   that is what you reread FOR   because you love the story and maybe  once you know the ending  you SEE even more little clues  and it all makes sense now

What can a female character do without being criticized mercilessly?

Examples of Stockholm Syndrome in Disney

 Frollo and Quasimodo

Mother Gothel and Rapunzel

Frollo and Mother Gothel convince Quasimodo and Rapunzel that their lives are dependent on them. The two villains claim the outside world is a terrible place even though they know this is not true. They also constantly emotionally abuse their victims by implying their worthlessness and destroying their self-esteems. Quasimodo and Rapunzel sympathize with their captors and even believe their captors are protecting them and treating them with kindness. However, both captors are merely using and manipulating their victims for their own selfish purposes.

NOT:

The Beast and Belle

 Belle does not sympathize with the Beast when she is treated poorly. She becomes angry and leaves the castle, only returning by her own wish so that the Beast (who saves her) does not freeze to death. She does not respond nicely towards the Beast until he treats her with respect. In this situation, Belle has control and is not manipulated into feeling for the Beast, nor does the Beast treat her disrespectfully after the first night. While the Beast does have an underlying motive as to keeping Belle in his castle, he abandons this idea and sets her free to make her happy. If anything, this story is a case of Lima Syndrome where the captor starts to sympathize with the victim.

Check out this post which refocuses the purpose of Beauty and the Beast from merely (and wrongly) being about Stockholm Syndrome to it’s original purpose.

FUCKING FINALLY

I don’t usually reblog stuff like this, but Beauty and the Beast is my favorite movie and I’d like to have this on my page!

this is actually a very good analysis. I take back all the times I’ve called Beauty and the Beast a ‘stockholm syndrome’ romance.