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I hope to make this the new home for the Aspec communities on Tumblr, though of course other identities are welcome as well. No TERFS, SWERFS, exclusionists, bigots, Nazis, or bullying will be permitted. Queer is not a slur, no arguments.Transandrophobia is real, and acknowledging that does nothing to harm transfeminine people. I'm old enough to be mother to a lot of you and I know my history. Sorry, but for everyone's safety there will be no anon privileges, and I will block hate and never think of you again. ETA: Okay, the spammers have just lost the new people commenting privileges.
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Hello, everyone!

ETA: if you hate the changes to Tumblr as much as I do, please go here, select “Feedback” from the dropdown menu, and tell @support how you feel and why. Be as detailed as you can. Staff have rolled back unpopular features before when we complained enough. In the meantime, you can get the old dash back by following the instructions on this post.

Now, back to business:

You can call me Moira (She/He/They, whatever). I used to follow @theasexualityblog back in the day, but the Disk Horse drove so many of us away. I want to revive the community. I’m old and tough; the exclusionists can’t do anything that I can’t handle. I don’t have much experience managing a community blog, so anyone’s input is welcome.

For those who want more information on asexuality as an orientation, particularly in the capacity of an educator, visit What Is Asexuality?

For those who are over eighteen years old, please consider also joining Acebook, which is ostensibly a dating site, but I don’t think any of us actually uses it that way.

For those under eighteen, or anyone seeking further categorized information on asexuality, visit the Asexual Visibility and Awareness Network, or their Tumblr page @avenpt

I’ll answer questions to the best of my ability, of course, but those three resources predate me, so make sure to check them out.

This part is probably going to lose me some followers, but I want to make my position clear.

I recently saw an infographic that had an addendum that “acehet” and “arohet” people don’t count as part of the community.

Now, listen: if a trans woman were exclusively attracted to men, would we say she wasn’t part of the community because she’s “basically straight”? Of course not. Not unless she chose to identify that way. Her shared experience of being trans would be, by itself, enough to make her part of the trans community if she wanted to be.

Why should we make different rules for other identities? We are not defined by who our partners are—if we were, every person in the world who is not currently in a relationship would be “basically aroace.”

So-called “acehet” and “arohet” people share our experiences of being aspec, and that by itself is intersection enough to include them in our community if they want to be part of it.

I’m not going to tolerate any form of exclusionism on this blog. We need all the solidarity we can get, especially at times like these, when queer rights are under attack. Labels are for us to adopt for ourselves, not to force upon others. If you disagree with me, well, you’re entitled to have your own opinion, but if you actively try to exclude anyone on claims of their being “basically het,” I don’t care if we’ve known each other for years; I will block you without hesitation.

I block and report all bots, so if you’re new and want to follow this blog, please make a post that says something like “Hi, I’m not a bot, just a lurker” or something to that effect so I’ll know you’re a real person. I assume all empty blogs with no user pic and no posts to be bots.

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Whatever you do, DON'T sign up for this rally in Madison Square Garden with no intention of attending. I didn't do it twice using different phones and email addresses, and I didn't get a couple of text messages containing a confirmation number and one email each time to secure a total of four seats that I absolutely will not occupy on October 27th at Madison Square Garden starting at noon. I also didn't have to use a different internet browser the second time because using the same one twice didn't give me an error message.

Anyway, it would be terrible if lots of people reserved seats and nobody came.

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mlarayoukai

I'm not a trans women but last year over a dozen of my art featuring feminine characters with viable penis bulges got flag literally minutes from my posting them, while my equally nsfw woman without penises did not get flagged. So yes, this website has had a history of specifically transmisogynistic problems, even at a minor scale of posting fictional characters that wore panties with a bulge

Why did this get flagged when I also posted a woman with q cup tits in a micro bikini who never got flagged once. I posted this in 2022 but a bunch of my artwork featuring this specific character got flagged in 2023

I don't want to speak over trans women, but I want to reiterate. My poc feminine character with a penis got flagged for sexual content while my white cis female presenting character never got flagged. This is because bodies outside of the norm (trans and otherwise not white or thin/ablebodied) are considered sexual and fetish content regardless of context. I fully believe Ms Rita was targeted for being transgender

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Tumblr has been a home to queer people for years. It was the last place we felt safe online. If you attack trans women, you attack all of us, and if the tumblr polls are to be trusted, about 90% of your clientele will leave and never return. Pick your fucking battles Matt. Justice for predestrogen.

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God photomatt following Avery to Twitter to commit DATA LAW BREACHES and effectively STALKING AND HARASSING HER when Avery's only complain in the first place was not getting any help with all the STALKING AND HARASSMENT she suffered for TWO GODDAMN YEARS is genuinely fucking INSANE.

I wish photomatt a very lose all your money.

How is this a data law breach? She had 15 blogs dedicated to porn, which is not allowed according to tumblr TOS, and that is all public information.

Go outside and feel the dew on a leaf on a spring morning

IDK how to tell you this but the CEO can't just post all of a users personal information publicly, especially on a secondary site. There are literal factual laws regarding this. Like, the violations are so blatant, we wouldn't be surprised if lawyers are contacting Avery to take her case.

Also it was a very 'letter of the law' type violation. Perhaps instead of sucking your own dick you should ruminate on why is it that literally no one but trans women are ever held to these standards? Why were no less than SIX accounts of trans women voided after speaking up for her? Why has photomatt continued to edit and delete the posts he made about this while making new ones trying to push the same narrative you are?

Given you believe posting 'go outside' is a good use of your limited time on earth, it shouldn't be hard to allocate some to think on these questions.

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tyke-dyke

i heard they were her backup blogs, for if she ever wanted to change urls. just empty shells. and he posted them to be like "oooh look at this disgusting sex freak" because some of the urls had words like "penis" or "burp" in them.

there was nothing there.

even if they were porn blogs. Matt is still a stalker, he followed her to twitter to harass her. his staff was useless in getting rid of her stalkers on tumblr, and beyond that, they fucking nuked her when she did nothing wrong. also, its not allowed for a CEO to POST A USERS PERSONAL INFO on a secondary platform. matt is very much in the wrong here. he's a filthy bigot

Lmao y'all keep calling it "personal information" - they were publicly visible URLs, nothing personal about that, unless you mean that the ~intellectual property~ of pornsick usernames should be kept under wraps so no one "steals" them? Which would be even more absurd so y'know, you can't come out of this one looking like anything less than a clown, unfortunately.

believe it or not but aggregating and posting what blogs belong to which person is personal information as far as the law is concerned. Like, say I worked at tumblr and gathered all the blogs you use and posted them publicly where your all your family and friends can see you for the TERF you are for example :3

I had to look this up bc I agree that this whole situation is fucked, but I was also initially confused about the link between the law and this situation.

I ended up searching through the GDPR bc it is one of the most stringent data protection laws out there (at least that's my impression based on the trainings I've taken for work). On their website they provide the following definition of "personal data":

Several major tech companies have also placed public usernames under the umbrella of personal data. Here's an excerpt from a 2019 article:

It's a small screenshot, but the gist is that Google considers public usernames to be on par with data like your Government ID or name.

Additionally, the GDPR explicitly states that personal data MUST be used only for its intended purpose:

Obviously I'm not a lawyer, but I assume the Tumblr TOS states that a username is, in general, for use as a personal identifier on Tumblr. Based on what OP is saying I assume that the violation here is (1) sharing what the GDPR considers to be personal data and (2) doing so in a way that breaches the purpose limitation as outlined by the Tumblr TOS.

Oh and also I know GDPR is for the EU, but American companies and citizens who collect data from EU citizens must abide by it.

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cryptotheism

Please think about the situation that trans Tumblr staff members are in right now. Every Matt-Critical statement a trans employee makes is gambling their health insurance.

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vaspider

Mmhmm.

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staff

A message from a few of the trans staff at Tumblr & Automattic:

We want trans people, and LGBTQ+ people broadly, to feel welcome on Tumblr, in part because we as trans people at Tumblr and Automattic want it to be a space where we ourselves feel included. We want to feel like this is a platform that supports us and fights for our safety. Tumblr is made brighter and more vibrant by your presence, and the LGBTQ+ folks who help run it are fighting all the time for this, for you, internally. 

A few days ago, Matt Mullenweg (the CEO of Automattic, Tumblr’s parent company) responded to a user’s ask about an account suspension in a way that negatively affected Tumblr’s LGBTQ+ community. We believe that Matt's response to this ask and his continued commentary has been unwarranted and harmful. Tumblr staff do not comment on moderation decisions as a matter of policy for a variety of reasons—including the privacy of those involved, and the practicalities of moderating thousands of reports a day. The downside of this policy is that it is very easy for rumors and incorrect information about actions taken by our Trust & Safety team to spread unchecked. Given this, we want to clarify a few different pieces of this situation:

  • The reality of predstrogen's suspension was not accurately conveyed, and made it seem like we were reaching for opportunities to ban trans feminine people on the platform. This is not the case. The example comment shared in the post linked above does not meet our definition of a realistic threat of violence, and was not the deciding factor in the account suspension.
  • Matt thereafter failed to recognize the harm to the community as a result of this suspension. Matt does not speak on behalf of the LGBTQ+ people who help run Tumblr or Automattic, and we were not consulted in the construction of a response to these events.
  • Last year, the "mature" and "sexual themes" community labels were erroneously applied to some users' posts. An outside team of contractors tasked with applying community labels to posts were responsible for this larger trend of mislabeling trans-related content. When our Trust & Safety team discovered this issue (thanks largely to reports from the community), we removed the contracted team’s ability to apply community labels and added more oversight to ensure it does not happen again. In the Staff post about this, LGBTQ+ staff pushed to be more transparent but were overruled by leadership. The termination of a contractor mentioned in the original ask response was for an unrelated incident which was incorrectly attributed to this case. We regret that the mislabeling ever happened, and the negative impact it has had on the trans community on Tumblr. 
  • Transition timelines are not against our community guidelines, and weren’t a factor considered by the moderation team when discussing suspensions and subsequent appeals. We do not take action against content that is related to transitioning or trans bodies unless it includes violations of the Community Guidelines.
  • When it comes to the experience of trans folks on Tumblr encountering transphobic content, and interacting with bigoted users, we understand and share your frustrations. Tumblr’s policies, and Automattic’s policies, are written to ensure freedom of speech and expression. We prohibit harassment as defined in our Community Guidelines, but we know that this policy falls short of protecting users from the wider scope of harmful speech often used against LGBTQ+ and other marginalized people.
  • Going forward, Tumblr is taking the following actions:
  • Prioritizing anti-harassment features that will empower users to more effectively protect themselves from harassment.
  • Building more internal tooling for us as Staff to proactively identify and mitigate instances of harassment.
  • Reviewing which of the tags frequently used by the trans community are blocked, and working to make them available next week.

We’re sorry for how this all transpired, and we’re actively fighting to make our voices heard more and prevent something like this from happening again in the future. We know firsthand that having to deal with situations like this as a Tumblr user is difficult, particularly as a member of an already frequently targeted and harassed community. We know it will take time to regain your trust, and we’re going to put in the work to rebuild it.

We appreciate the space we have been given to express our concerns and dissent, and we are thankful that Matt’s (and Automattic’s) strong commitment to freedom of expression has facilitated it.

We will continue to fight to make Tumblr safe for us all.

This statement was authored by multiple trans employees of Tumblr and Automattic.

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myconetted

i think most of the negative commenters here have no idea how to read corpo-speak when the employees actually care but their bosses are making dumbass decisions. people are acting like the staff who wrote this are oppressors when they're literally saying they are having to fight internally to be heard by the people making decisions.

this basically says, "sorry our CEO is being a dipshit, we really don't like it and we were overruled on decisions that made things worse. now that he's blown this up we can finally do the things higher-ups didn't let us do earlier."

the note about being thankful for "matt's strong commitment to freedom of expression", i'm not sure how sincere it is, but it reads to me like "thanks for not firing us for making this post, and thanks for listening (or being strong-armed into listening) to us when we told you that you're fucking things up and you should let us fix it."

my heart goes out to y'all for dealing with this bullshit, both internally and externally, and i hope you get the changes that you want and deserve to make tumblr a better workplace and a better posting zone. a lot of ppl really don't understand how hard it is to be in a company whose work you believe in when leadership is doing things you disagree with and you have to thread the needle of communicating that while being professional (i.e. compliant with corporate communication guidelines).

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biglawbear

Corpo speak professional here. I'm the lawyer that corpo consults when they want to make a corpo speak apology or do some PR management.

In all my career, I have never seen a corporation issue a public statement written by line employees like the post above on an official account. A corporation will always issue an apology or something like this from the highest level - the CEO itself or speaking on behalf of the corporation as a whole, written by their lawyers and/or PR team.

For Tumblr to allow and issue a statement written by employees speaking on behalf of themselves is incredibly rare and frankly shows tumblrs commitment to it's queer staff and users.

That in and of itself should make this be a positive sign

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jv

Let me add it here again: I have no idea if the interim CEO informed Matt or not about this post going out, but it was him (Toni Schneider, the interim CEO and Automattic's board of director member) who gave the folks who have written this post the thumbs up to be able to share their thoughts, not Matt Mullenweg.

Given how Matt was still fighting people on twitter barely 10 hours before this post went live, I suspect he either wasn't aware that it was going to be posted, or if he was, he was informed in a "this is going to happen, head's up" way in the last few hours and not asked for permission.

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always love transfems more than you love dunking on transmisogynists. love transfems more than you hate terfs. don't just reblog transfem funnyposts; love transfem music, art, writing, fashion, photography, selfies. love transfems. love transfems. love transfems with your whole heart.

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If I can take a moment to share my experience as a trans woman on the internet

My experience is by no means unique, it's just one experience in the plethora of trans feminine experiences and not unique to only tumblr. Though, I'll mostly talk about what I've experienced here. In the light of recent events, the reaction of "the ceo," and the comments he contributed regarding dog pile harassment; I simply wish to share my experiences that I have had to juxtapose the dynamic of his statements against a lived experience.

This account started as a way to document my social transition and eventually my journey with HRT. Tumblr had always had a large lgbtqia+ community. The queer people here inspired me and gave me hope. What I didn't know, but soon learned, is that there were people here who hated me for being trans. Being early in my transition I was a prime target. TERF groups would plan raids on my account. What this entailed was: rebloging my selfies into circles that would say the most vile things about me, threaten to kill, tell me I was ugly, tell me that everyone I knew thought I was a joke, I was a monster, my family hated me, that I should kill myself, they'd download and edit my photos into caricatures or depictions of violence. They would fill my ask box with hundreds of asks detailing how they'd kill me, call me slurs, describe the ways that I should kill myself, and pretty much everything else I mentioned above with the reblogs. Their words were carefully curated to try and break me, break my spirit, break my will to live. I tried reporting it. But it was impossible to keep up with, and like many others I saw no real response. Eventually I learned that I had to block all of them. 100's of blogs, eventually 1000's of blogs. My block list these days is incredibly extensive. I had to wade through their blogs, traverse sickening hate speech and imagery to eliminate entire circles of people harassing me. I became jaded to the hate speech, hardened to it. But mind you, I shouldn't have had to expose myself to all of this just to be at peace here amongst my community. I received no help, I was left to my own devices to protect myself. The people who hurt me never saw consequences. It was painful, it was unfair, and no one else should have to put the hours upon hours of effort and exposure to hate in to protect themselves like I did. But again my experience is not unique.

I have had to repeat this process of preemptive blocking periodically once a new circle discovers me. Blocking them all before they can start the process of hate all over again. A process of hate that seems to be hitting my community with rapidly increasing fervor as of late.

I've seen others experience far worse than me. The TERF circles will hunt down their personal information and doxx them. Expose their home address, telephone numbers, names of their family members. I can't begin to imagine the terror my queer siblings must feel when someone tells then that they want to murder them all while showing them that they know where you live. This is not a new thing, not a rare tactic, it happens. And we've all seen the news stories of trans people being murdered by people who planned it and were vocal about it.

I know this is depressing. And it doesn't reflect all of my experiences. I've had wonderful experiences here, met amazing people, made close friends, found inspiration, found hope. I found a community.

And it's my community, and I never want to let it go.

I do have fear that making this statement will get me banned. But, I wanted to say it. I wanted it to exist in the world so that everyone who doesn't know our experiences has a chance to understand and with luck empathize.

I'll part on these words and hope for the best both for myself and for every member of the community.

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fishermod

For those who don't remember, here's the lawsuit two years ago where Tumblr (or specifically Automattic) settled with the New York City Commission on Human Rights regarding Tumblr's terribly implemented porn ban targeting LGBTQ folk more than it should. Here's an excerpt detailing what the NYCCHR ordered Tumblr to do:

The settlement gives Tumblr 180 days to hire an expert on sexual orientation and gender identity (SOGI) issues and provide related training to moderators. It must also hire someone with experience in this area as well as expertise in image classification, who will review Tumblr’s moderation algorithms to see if they’re more likely to flag LGBTQ content. As part of an overall review, Tumblr will reexamine 3,000 old cases where a user successfully appealed a takedown, looking for patterns that could indicate bias.

Now, on a totally unrelated note, here's the complaint page for reporting discrimination to the NYCCHR. Completely unrelated to what's going on right now or the rest of this post, I swear.

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tisgroovy

You guys, please take the time to do this if you can.

The form asks for the date of the latest instance of harassment. I put 02/19/2024, which is the date of this post.

The form asks for the location of the company, Automattic's website's Contact Us page states it's in San Francisco, CA. Also, if you look up Automattic on Wikipedia, it will tell you the founders full name, which is Matthew Mullenweg.

It also asks for the Category of Discrimination, which is Discriminatory Harassment, and for the name of the person being discriminated against, I just put predstrogen.

It isn't required, but it does ask for uploads for documentation. I added these photos. The first is predstrogen's photo that triggered this particular mess, and the other is about Mullenweg's statement that he contacted the FBI which, if true, is harassment on an entirely different level. And the last one is the "threat" that is obviously a hyperbolic statement of frustration and anger, and does not at all state that predstrogen plans to harm him or other Tumblr staff.

Please show your support for predstrogen and the transgender people on this website by filling out the form. There's only 3 uploads allowed on the form, so if anyone has better documentation, please share!

Also, the uploads are optional, you can send the form without them, it's really easy.

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bd82dh82bd

by listing predstrogens sideblogs, matt is EXPOSING INFORMATION THAT IS ONLY VISIBLE AT AN ADMINISTRATOR LEVEL. under regular circumstances, you CANT see another users sideblogs. as per TUMBLRS PRIVACY POLICY. violating this is tantamount to a data breach like sharing someones password. a hacker might stuff your credentials and publish the names of your sideblogs to a pastebin — but this is a high-profile ceo digging into the database of his website to pull out confidential data and PUBLICALLY ANNOUNCE IT to slander someone for a personal vendetta. this would be a clear violation of privacy laws in my country and hes out of his mind

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