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Puritanism is getting worse around the globe and conservatives and fascists will absolutely be first going harder against porn, then use that against queer people. You HAVE to realise this and oppose anti porn measures and laws, be in solidarity with sex workers, and listen to them when they call this shit out. It's going to be vitally important.

Reminder that keeping porn legal means that pornstars have legal protections that they will lose if porn is made illegal. Reminder that keeping porn legal means there are legal standards that can be put in place and enforced which results in better safety for all who are involved in porn's creation.

Reminder that porn will never stop being a thing. It just won't. If it's made illegal, then it will continue to be created and distributed - its just that it will now be done under the table, and with no safety regulations or protections for anyone.

Yes, the hard-right's ultimate plan is to use porn as a gateway from which to attack queer people, but even if that wasn't their plan, you should want to protect the legality of porn anyway.

Keeping porn legal means that the chances of sexual assault on those who work in the industry are reduced, and means that victims of assault are able to pursue legal action against their attackers. Keeping porn legal means that human trafficking is decreased, and it gives victims of human trafficking a legally supported escape route that would be lost if porn were made illegal.

Keeping porn legal means that anyone who is involved in making it - regardless of whether theyre making it simply because they want to, or because they're financially desperate -- is granted a measure of protection that they otherwise would not be. People love to raise the "but porn is made by desperate people who sell their body to survive," but a) some people make porn because they like it, and b) someone who is desperate enough to sell their body will do so regardless of whether it's legal or not. But when it's legal, that desperate person has far more protections and is less likely to be taken advantage of than when it's illegal.

Keeping porn legal protects people. Making it illegal will harm people. It's that simple.

"But it's demeaning!"

That's a you problem. No, really - it's your opinion is that sex work is demeaning, but I've had some really demeaning jobs that were legal and "proper". Just because a job involves sex doesn't mean it has less value than being a salesperson, or an accountant.

To quote the great John Waters.

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I am so pleased to report that in addition to being absolutely shaped, these guys are also very, very sized.

RL pics of merch from the Japanese Pokemon Center GS 25th anniversary line.

Feeling super amped up that we got Executive Director, Julie Packard, and Chief Conservation and Science Officer, Margaret Spring joining the trend to tell you all about the based things at our Aquarium. They truly were the moment💅✨🌊

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i don't care how uncomfortable you are around cis men, queer cis men still need places to go, and sometimes, those spaces will be shared with yours. disabled and neurodivergent queer men and queer men of color especially need a place to go. the queer community isn't the "fuck cis men" community. that is the rad fem community. if you think cis men and people who read as cis men are inherently "too scary" or shouldn't be allowed in queer spaces, you joined the wrong community.

additionally: hi, trans woman here. who gets called a cis man by the queers around me pretty consistently. literally no matter what im wearing or doing or what my makeup, nails, clothes look like. trans girls will come up to me and compliment my partner for having such a gnc cis boyfriend. just wanted to say: well i cant say that but im gonna say: dont do this shit.

also it becomes real fucking clear after a while of this that its not even "cis men bad" in their heads, its "anyone im not attracted to is bad" and theyre only attracted to skinny white femme. cis men bad is just a "progressive" label for pushing white supremacist ideals.

not to fucking mention how "cis men bad" forces trans men who could be mistaken for cis to disclose their trans identity. which a cis guy could just lie about anyway so like. whats the end game here are we gonna start doing genital checks or can we all just settle the fuck down and believe that if somebody showed up to the queer event they prolly belong there and its none of our fucking business why

okay last thing, sorta unrelated, but if u never dated a woman with a beard then i think ur a loser and beneath contempt. okay i love you byyyyye

thank you so much for this addition- this is exactly what i was implying when i said that people who "read" as cis men also need safe spaces to go and should never have to disclose their trans or cis status in order to be able to find safety. this mentality disproportionately affects trans women and trans men. this affects trans people way more than it does cis people- people project their idea of what a cis man "looks like" on to whoever they want to without discretion. you summed it up perfectly. thank you

Id also like to add, if it's not a big deal, to not act bad towards people you view as straight men either. There are a million reasons why someone you perceive as a man could be with or interested in people you perceive as women. Trans men, bi men, intersex men, ace/aro men, gender fluid people, trans women being interpreted wrong, non binary people being interpreted wrong, butch women being interpreted wrong, straight guy who loves his queer partner/family/friends, GNC straight guy who can only be safe in queer spaces, it doesn't matter. You cannot no matter what expect people in queer spaces to disclose what "kind" of queer they are just because you don't value them based on appearances.

Also also, being in a queer space while not being hot to you personally is not a reason to act as though they are predatory. Id argue in fact the more conventionally attractive someone is the easier it is for them to get away with abusing others.

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Fucked up that you could have said rattweiler but didnt

If your democrat friends start muttering about stolen election conspiracy theories, the time to have a sit down with them and express your concerns is NOW, while you still have a chance to reach them, not 6 months from now when they're fully conspiracy-pilled.

Here's some of the talking points and why they're bullshit:

But just as importantly as the facts: sit down with your friend and talk about the anxiety that's behind their conspiracy leanings. Acknowledge their pain and fear. Help them find ways to feel less powerless and regain their sense of agency. Take them to a mutual aid event, involve them in a fundraising event for a marginalized group, invite them to a local community effort. If they spend more time feeling connection and empowerment and less time doom scrolling online, they're far more likely to stay in reality.

This one broke containment and that's good. The people I'm trying to reach are probably not my usual audience.

However, it is fucking annoying to see people in the notes going 'YES! We should be putting all the blame on the non voters instead!'. No, fuck you. Drop the conspiracy thinking but also drop the scapegoating. It's the Party's job to offer people something that they want to vote for, not the other way around.

It's time to face head on that the Democratic Party has failed people. By supporting a genocide, by not raising minimum wage and living standards, by not actually ending the pandemic, by pushing anti-immigrant ads and campaigning towards the right and taking their base for granted. They've failed.

There's multiple ways to move forward from this. Improve the democrats, join a third party, prepare to protest, or focus on mutual aid and community building instead: choose your own adventure. There are a lot of ways to make things a little less shit. All of them involve building bridges towards the people that have been failed by the Democratic Party. All of them involve solidarity and understanding.

Spending the next 4 years shouting at nonvoters or disappearing into a conspiracy is going to make things worse, not better.

Stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare stop calling it women’s healthcare

i think about this often

If you read "maybe it's not helping us if the only thing boys and young men see from equity-seeking spaces is how they, personally, are to blame for everything and we actively hate them and they're garbage, regardless of behaviour, their own experiences/situations/marginalizations, and maybe we need to address that"...

...and you immediately interpret that as "you're telling me I have to prioritize never hurting men's feelings" and so on....

....maybe stop and consider that there are in fact a range of ways to treat people and interact with people and even work for change that include more options than "any criticism at all hurts feelings and is not allowed" and "people who have a characteristic that is more privileged than mine in society can be rightfully subjected to anything I want to do or say to them and I don't have to think about the impact, accuracy or justice of anything I say, ever."

Like there are some other options here. Human communication and consideration allows for a whole range in between these two comical yet so often foregrounded extremes.

Another fascinating facet of this post so far is that people really are inserting quite a lot of . . . .assumptions into what I'm saying.

For instance those who are objecting are really frequently jumping in to talk about white men and while firstly white guys are still potentially subject to class, disability and economic marginalization and can even, you know, be trans and intersex (I as a woman from a professional middle-class home who has her Masters' degree do in fact hold economic, educational and class privilege over a guy with highschool or equivalent who's been working as a stocker for a grocery store his whole life; that's a simple fuckin' fact, my darlin's*), I did not say a damn thing about ethnicity or race in my original post.

That's what I meant when I said "regardless of their own experiences/situations/marginalizations."

"Men" includes disabled men, gay/bi/pan/ace men**, trans men, intersex men, Latino men, Indigenous men, Black men, and I pulled those three out specifically because of current topics but also obviously all other racialized men, a bunch of men I have probably forgot what the categories even are (sorry, it's been a long day, it's not because they aren't important it's because my brain is full), it is a huge fucking tent and they all are, you know: men.

Just another, you know, minor note.

(*it doesn't stop being fucking ablism because the target is a guy.

Nor does it stop being ablism because the guy in question isn't aware that the way the world is fucked so that he has to keep doing work despite agonizing joint/skeletal/muscle pain, so that his print disability fucks up his job prospects, so that his stutter messes with his life, so that . . . . and so on, because he has not realized that this makes him part of a potential solidarity group? Doesn't stop it being marginalization because of disability. Just as a Fucking Tip.)

(**if you fucking start anti-ace discourse here I will just block you. Fuck off.)

Honestly, what's been strange to me about the "how dare you" responses to this post is that they've mostly been denying that this actually happens. People absolutely swearing up down and sideways that nobody (except terfs, they say, in a staggering no-true-scotsman position from people who seem to hate men every bit as much as terfs) is just unloading on men unless they do something wrong! And therefore, this post must be saying that unloading on men is wrong even when they've done something evil!

So is it poor reading comprehension? Do they see "You can't treat men like garbage all the time just because they're men" and "That doesn't mean you have to refrain from criticizing their positions when they're wrong" and smush the two together to arrive at "You can't criticize men even when they're wrong"?

Because otherwise, I am forced to conclude that the response comes from people being livid at the idea that they have to stop treating men like garbage, and their response is to deny that anyone is doing that .........while defending the position that it would, in fact, be okay if they were, because obviously those men deserve it.

Edit: Actually, I went through the angry reblogs and all the sudden it makes sense.

Marytylermoar is, in fact, a radfem. Scrolling well into her blog shows that she often, often posts fairly subtle radfem talking points - most directly anti-kink, but plenty of quieter ones. So she reblogged the post with a nasty comment about how people only yell at men (or, apparently, anyone) when they do bad things.

Feather, as OP, reblogged that take calling it out as wrong.

In a staggering twist of irony, someone else reblogged that particular chain arguing that only TERFs and trauma victims are yelling at men for not having done anything wrong, and accusing OP of hanging out with TERFs. (I don't know if they specifically reblogged it from Marytylermoar, since they've deleted it since.)

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"Oh, so should I care about not hurting men's feelings?" You should care about not hurting anyone's feelings. That's like pre-k shit. You're an adult, you should know that

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