A 3 AM thought: Wynne's dynamic with Alistair vs the Warden really is so much crunchier if you're playing Surana/Amell. With the former Templar Wynne is every inch the doting grandmother: she nags him lovingly, she mends his clothes, she fusses over him, he can get basically anything out of her just by acting pathetic until she gives in. She comes across as... for lack of a better word, harmless in a way that's a little uncomfortable when you remember where she grew up. There's an element where I get the sense she's trying to manage Alistair and keep him on her side the way a Circle mage might try to manage a Circle Templar to keep themself safe.

But with the Warden she's very different in a way that doesn't make sense with most Wardens, given that at least on paper they and Alistair hold basically the same position? With the Warden Wynne is harsh, demanding. They have to get everything right, no distractions, no missteps, no fumbles. They can't fall in love, they can't hesitate, they must in short be the fairytale, knight in shining armour image of a "perfect" Grey Warden. Which... y'know, isn't how the Wardens work? But if you're playing Surana/Amell and looking at their conversations with Wynne through the lens of a senior Circle mage speaking to a much younger and less experienced Circle mage... that's basically the advice that that senior mage would give in the Circle. If you want to live, be perfect. You can't slip, you can't fall in love, you must be the very best you can be to the point of inhumanity (for lack of a better term in a setting where not everyone's human) because anything less is unforgivable. No one wants you to be a person, just a tool; that's a feeling that I think both mages and Wardens would understand. The way Wynne treats the Warden makes the most sense with Surana/Amell by a mile, because she is in a way treating the whole situation like being in the Circle!