so this past saturday i went down to the garment district with ladymurgatroid to get some alterations made on my new concert dress, and it was such a good experience? like, we walked around, found the tailor shop, went on a SubQuest to find fabric that matched it, went back to the shop, spent another two hours bouncing around, and then went back and picked it up and slowly moseyed back towards our bus stops. and like, doing that on my own would have been completely overwhelming and terrifying b/c like YIIIIIIIKES so much overstimulation and so many possibilities to make Gross Social Missteps or The Wrong Choices About Fabric or to Find A Sub-Par Option But Go With It Anyway Because Saying No Is Hard and like i probably could’ve done it? but it would have been stressful and made me v v sad and lbr i probably would have gotten not as good a result in the end
but instead it was so much fun! b/c i had someone else to anchor me in social situations and be like “no it’s fine we’re fine we can walk into this shop and look at things and not buy anything and also this fabric is not what you want so you should not buy it also you are being silly they definitely said five thirty and that’s probably also what they meant they must be open past five we don’t need to be there an hour early just in case they misspoke hush” and also (window) shopping with someone with a similar aesthetic is just . . . fun? like, finding ways to describe the aura of fabric is so much fun! imagining garments with various prints and whether they would be Good Life Choices is so great! gawking at absurdly tacky things gives me life. and like, do i want to spend six hours doing that every day of my life? no. but do i like that i can do that sometimes? yes. very very very yes