tangle of rainbows

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so like to be fair i’m p sure that the person i talked to in admissions wasn’t going from Official NYU Policy (that policy is p clearly “no u gotta use ur legal name on everything”) but was just being like “what seems like a reasonable answer in this situation to something we don’t have a set policy on?”, so like, tbqh i’m not quite willing to give them full marks for that yet. but like i’m not gonna feel bad about making full use of the mistakes of ppl who don’t understand the full transphobia of the system and i’m not gonna go down without a fight if someone somewhere else in the nyu bureaucracy is like “hold up wait we need to change this”

(i am also, like, legit intrigued by the possibilities that having a photo id under my real name might possibly open up. i think i probably am going to have to get a court order eventually despite established common law, but i want to spend some more time with this puzzle before i toss it aside completely. even if it doesn’t wind up being a viable route for me, sorting out the status of common law name changes and whether civil name change requirements are an undue burden on them feels like an important plank to have a firm grasp of if things do progress to title ix levels)

the offer for help is v v v much appreciated! i’m fortunate in that i don’t really have triggers (except lbr maybe being called by my deadname) and i’m actually super into delving into the legal intricacies of it all — one of my Background Interests is figuring out how to design systems that maximize the production of justice while minimizing the potential for bad actors to Fuck Shit Up, so reading long legal articles about the current lay of the land is defs Very Much My Jam. getting a corrected australian birth certificate sounds like it’s going to be obnoxious and involve lots of public notarizing and international package shipping — tbqh i’m definitely going to keep a tally of all of the expenses i incur thruout this entire process; there’s no way i’ll ever get any of them back, but it will be satisfying on some level to point to the total and go “this is what the cis in the australian and united states governments collectively owe me for imposing all these hurdles to getting my real name recognized by their respective bureaucracies”

tbh i think at this point once i’m done reading this lengthy overview of legal name change legislation and jurisprudence in the us [pdf], i’m gonna move on to looking at forms of new york state/nyc identification that have lower requirements for establishing identity and move on from there. so like, if you happen to know any, defs send them my way? but also defs don’t go out of your way to look any up if you’ve got other things to do. i think the real strugglebus stuff is gonna be coming later . . . 

so this past saturday i went down to the garment district with ladymurgatroid to get some alterations made on my new concert dress, and it was such a good experience? like, we walked around, found the tailor shop, went on a SubQuest to find fabric that matched it, went back to the shop, spent another two hours bouncing around, and then went back and picked it up and slowly moseyed back towards our bus stops. and like, doing that on my own would have been completely overwhelming and terrifying b/c like YIIIIIIIKES so much overstimulation and so many possibilities to make Gross Social Missteps or The Wrong Choices About Fabric or to Find A Sub-Par Option But Go With It Anyway Because Saying No Is Hard and like i probably could’ve done it? but it would have been stressful and made me v v sad and lbr i probably would have gotten not as good a result in the end

but instead it was so much fun! b/c i had someone else to anchor me in social situations and be like “no it’s fine we’re fine we can walk into this shop and look at things and not buy anything and also this fabric is not what you want so you should not buy it also you are being silly they definitely said five thirty and that’s probably also what they meant they must be open past five we don’t need to be there an hour early just in case they misspoke hush” and also (window) shopping with someone with a similar aesthetic is just . . . fun? like, finding ways to describe the aura of fabric is so much fun! imagining garments with various prints and whether they would be Good Life Choices is so great! gawking at absurdly tacky things gives me life. and like, do i want to spend six hours doing that every day of my life? no. but do i like that i can do that sometimes? yes. very very very yes

so i was talking to humboldt-squid the other day about finding community theatres i might be able to help out at in the area and at one point she said "Where there are community theatres, there are Things Needing Doing" and idk, it just kind of stuck with me like a superhero mantra: Wherever there are community theatres, there are Things Needing Doing, and wherever there are Things Needing Doing, i will be there, gaffing cables, checking levels, running sound checks. *flips cloak mysteriously around face and somersaults off balcony into sound booth*