tangleofrainbows reblogged
Mother:
The extended family is coming over, please wear something more “girly”.
Me:
. . . did you seriously just try to argue that no one belonging anywhere under the lgbtq umbrella is told that they’re not beautiful, that physical appearance policing is not a tool that is used for any queer people? like, really? if you were referring very narrowly to cis, masc, rich, white gay men, i’d probably be inclined to agree, but like . . . transmisogyny exists? i cannot take seriously the claim that the united states is a society that regularly and universally affirms trans women (even white trans women) as beautiful.
tangleofrainbows reblogged
transgirladventures
This example is mostly in ‘female-empowerment’ circles, but it comes up everywhere. Binary Trans people are expected to live up to ridiculous extremes for their gender in order to be accepted as credible. And if we don’t, then we get the lovely comment of “If you wanted to do X so much, why didn’t you just stay as your birth gender”. THAT’S NOT HOW IT WORKS. And most people aren’t even conscious of it. But if you have ever thought that of course that transwoman didn’t pass, she won’t even shave her legs! Or that transman shouldn’t be wearing such feminine clothes YOU ARE PART OF THE PROBLEM. YOU ARE SUPPORTING AND FORCING GENDER STEREOTYPES ON US. AND WE WANT YOU TO STOP.
My boyfriend wrote a lovely rant to go with this post.