Jesse Ann💔
I am so glad I found your page. I am 19 and just lost my older sister to suicide about 2 months ago. Finding people that have been through similar circumstances is really helping. I love your posts.
Thank you. I'm sorry about your sister. Please know that you are not alone in this 💕
I just wanted to stop by and thank you for running this blog. Today marks the 6 month anniversary of losing my younger brother to suicide. Over these last few months I have been able to find comfort in your posts and I wanted you to much how much i appreciate you sharing your experiences. I have found that sibling grief is often pushed aside and not taken as seriously as it should be, and it is nice to know that there are people out there who understand just how difficult this grief is.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your message; I'm glad this blog can help a bit. Sibling grief is too often overlooked, but it's just as important. You are not alone 💖
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I lost my brother on 21.11.2015 after watching him battle cancer. He died in my arms. I recently lost a family friend who was like a second mum to me on the 21.4.2017. She also bit it from cancer. I don't know your pain because although we both lost siblings, we handle experiences differently and have different mindsets. But I do know that it's one of the hardest things in the world and I want to acknowledge your strength and endurance. Kudos to you. ❤️xx
Thank you so much. I'm very sorry for your loss 💕
I haven't posted in a while, and I'm sorry. I've needed a break, as I've been having a hard time lately. This week I turned 30 - an age my brother will never see. He passed away at 29. It's wrong to outlive your older sibling; it's just not what's supposed to happen. I don't know how to cope with that, but I'm working on it. I'm going to live for my brother, and to continue to carry him with me as I go through experiences he won't get to go through. It's all I can do.
We are learning how to live inside that which cannot be fixed. There is no resolution: what you've lost cannot be returned. You can't change your thoughts, practice gratitude, or look for beauty and have things suddenly be alright. Knowing that leaves us with one clear path: to find a way to live here with as much grace, peace, and self-kindness as we can. To find what remains, and to live into that.
Megan Devine, refugeingrief.com
The thing that the 'stages of grief' forgets to tell you is that it's a continuous cycle rather than a procession from Door 1 to Door 2 to Door 3 and so on. And not everyone will visit those stages in order, and some will skip a door or two. There's no time limit on grief because there's no time limit on love, and there's no right or wrong way to mourn. Those feelings you think you should be over aren't right or wrong - they just are, they're valid. And letting yourself feel them is a part of healing
Selena Wilson
You will not return to the life that was. That’s simply not possible. What we can do is bow to the damaged parts, the holes blown in our lives. We can wonder what parts of ourselves survived the blast.
Megan Devine, refugeingrief.com
Time apparently did nothing but blunt grief's sharpest edge so that it hacked rather than sliced.
Stephen King, Lisey's Story
Wherever you are in your grief, please know that no matter what ANYONE else says, you do not have to "move on." It's an inane concept. You will continue to live, because you continue to live. Your grief, and the love that fuels it, will shift and change of its own will. You will change and grow and experience - even when you don't want to. But the love you shared remains. You no more need to move on from it than it needs to move on from you.
Megan Devine, refugeingrief.com
From www.grief-reiki.com
My big sister
I lost one of my best friends in the entire world on February 8, 2017. My big sister Keely died at age 19. She didn't commit suicide, though, she just went for a walk around noon and never came home. She died of hypothermia about a 20 minute walk from the house. We live on a farm in the country, on a 100 acre property. There is a river about a 5 minute walk from my house, and she walked down to the river and then along it and froze to death. Keely was an absolute sweetheart. She had a gorgeous smile and a beautiful mind. She really enjoyed doing makeup and was amazing at it. She also loved writing, singing and playing and listening to music. Her greatest talent by far, though, was drawing. She was an incredible artist. She had struggled with depression, anxiety and anorexia from the time that she was 11 years old, so we (me and our 3 other siblings) always did our best to encourage and help her get better. She eventually beat her eating disorder, and after 2 suicide attempts and about 6 hospital stays, she was also on the road to beating her depression and anxiety. She had just started medication that had been working really well for her. And she had started meditating and that was helping too. It was so amazing to see how well she was doing. So when her body was found, we were all shocked and devestated. We were asked if it could have been a suicide attempt, but we know it wasn't because of how well she had been doing recently. She wouldn't have attempted because she was happy, and so it's comforting to know that she didn't die sad, but it hurts so bad to know that she's gone forever. I miss her more and more every day.
-@RetrogradeSleepDrift
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for loss. She sounds like an amazing person 💕
Submitted by anonymous
Came across your blog and I really loved all the quotes you post, I lost my older brother in 2010.. for anybody that has lost a brother I understand your pain just keep going we will see them again soon, god bless
Thank you. I'm sorry for your loss ❤
It always hurts more to have and lose than to not have in the first place.
Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner